He commented another girl's photo, thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I feel so upset rn, i saw he liked a girl's phtoto in instagram and he also commented with the angel face emoji, what does this mean is it flirting? I know that they aren't close friends they just know each other and she has a serious boyfriend, i don't have any suspiscions he is with me almost all the time but was that flirting i'm hella jealous person and this made me crazy, should i calm down?

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I'm really upset it hurt me a lot and i don't know what to think about this, i'm afraid he will think that i'm crazy and that i'm stalking if i ask him about this, i don't know what to do please give me advice

[FlutteringFeelings]

If you two haven’t established dating or perhaps getting to know one another to be in a relationship than what he does will not have any filter. Involving yourself with a guy and just being company without you setting any boundaries will set you up for getting hurt.

If you two established that before anything got deeper and he took it upon himself to comment and flirt on Instagram than you have every right to be mad. He’s only going to call you crazy if the two of you haven’t established where you stand.

If the both of you are serious with one another and set the record straight from the beginning he’s not going to pull the crazy card because your feelings matter and he wouldn’t have no other decision than to not do it or go ghost on you.

[Branwenn]

I think you are overreacting big time and need to step back, breathe and focus on something a little more positive. He posted an emoji , that's not even an actual comment, it's not flirting, it means nothing. If you continue to stalk his activity on social media you are only going to drive yourself even more crazy. You're insecurities and obsessive behavior will only create arguments and push him away ultimately leading to a break up. You need to realize that it's social media, clearly he isn't hiding anything he is doing and you said you don't suspect anything because he is with you all the time. My suggestion is to suck it up and get over it, work on building your confidence and let go of your insecurities, he did nothing wrong in this situation.

[Asker]

i aggree with you and i'm aware that i'm way too jealous but isn't bottling my emotions bad too? I really don't know how to deal with my feelings, i know that i will only feel better after i discuss this with him but probably we will have a fight that will push us back, my jealousy has always been the reason of our fights and i really hate when this happens cuz i don't know if i should tell or bottle up emotions and i'm scared at the same time of the fight, ughhh

[Branwenn]

Use places like this to vent or confide in a close friend, maybe try getting it our in different ways, put on your favorite album and sing your heart out, try drawing or writing it out in a journal, sometimes when we put our thoughts onto paper and read them we realize how irrational we are being, go for a long exhausting run. There are many options, you just need to focus that energy elsewhere. I just know that if you constantly bring up the same stuff over and over again he will get tired of it. ;)

[corkr900]

I guarantee you're reading too much into this. Commenting on a photo is a perfectly normal thing to do, no matter who the poster is. It bears absolutely no meaning on his intentions and it is nothing to worry about.

If you just need assuage, you can mention to him that you're worried about it. He'll tell you the truth - that it doesn't mean anything - and you can both move on with no secrets.

It really seems to me the real issue is a lack of trust between you. THAT is something that should be discussed and fixed, otherwise i guarantee it will tear you two apart.

[Marethyu]

Well.. Whatever?
Social media has absolutely no connection to real life and also.. He's your boyfriend.. If you can't trust him then why are you even with him?
People are allowed to "like" more than just one person, as long as the word "love" applies to only one girl alone.

[Asker]

yeah you are right but why don't i have the need to even like a hot looking guy i don't even pay attention to their photos when i'm in relationship, is he flirting?

[Marethyu]

Hard for me to say when I don't know him.
For some people it's normal to just scroll through Instagram and like pretty much everything.
Maybe the girl is just a good friend.. No idea what connection he has to her.
I personally wouldn't count liking and commenting on a picture as "flirting" though.
I often tell my female friends "you look good today" with a smile.. Not because I'm flirting but because I'm merely comfortable with saying what I think.
It always depends on wether the girl knows about your intentions when you say that or wether she considers it as flirting herself.

[ElissaIsBelgian]

You overreacted. He is your boyfriend, he is not your prisoner. A relationship means giving each other space sometimes. If you are treating him like he is your possession, then you are pushing him away. That works suffocating. He will seek comfort in the arms of another person if you keep behaving like that. It has the opposite effect of what you want to achieve. Give him space and let him give you space too sometimes. Don’t check his social media like a psycho every five seconds. He is not going to keep putting up with that.

[4get2remember]

Don't put so much stock in social media. He thinks a girl is cute. If he is with you and faithful, you have nothing to worry about. I have the same kind of thoughts sometime and then I have to remind myself that there's a difference between real life and social media.

[BarbieLola]

No - whatever the comments that say opposite to what I’m about to say do not listen - you are 100 and 10 percent justified in not being happy about his behavior- it’s in acceptable- talk to him about it - it’s flirting and it’s giving attention to other girls in a way that is not cool at all

[sarahhcmarie]

niggah he wasn't flirting.
he commented the ANGEL EMOJI
not a KISSY EMOJI
😇😇😇
It does depend what the picture was, but i'm sure if it was something that bad she would have gone OFFFFFFF
Goddamn, thots like you will get mad for a guy even following a GIRL.

[Just_A_Guy2018]

Is he allowed to have independent thought and expression from you? Is he allowed to comment on another guys photo? Why are you micro managing every little thing that he does. It appears that you are causing the problems by projecting your mental problems issues onto him. Good job dumb dumb you are going to loose him and every other guy you date.

[sariyanoor]

I think yes you should calm down. and as that girl is seriously committed and even your boyfriend is committed to you, you should ignore these small things as most of the guys do this. being too possessive is also not good as trust is major bonding in love

[Calixx]

I don’t think MOST guys do this. There are boyfriends who don’t. This isn’t normal, or typical behavior :/

[sariyanoor]

Any body in your place will feel thew same as you. so y dont you try talking to your boyfriend about this.

[OdieTheWise716]

I wouldn't worry and it's safe to calm down. Let him not it bothered you but don't get worked up... people flirt, men and woman alike. It's normal, what matters is that it stays just flirting... we can't help what we find attractive nor can we control our fantasies. If you love each other the flirts don't matter. I'm married and flirt to make woman feel good, make them smile but I'm faithful and loyal to my wife.

[Anonymous]

Yeah an ex guy did this a lot. I kept seeing it and asked him about it just once. He didn't stop though. I learned to accept it and realize now that i should not have. I see its making you upset as well like i did. It doesn't matter if people say its just a pic because its not.. it shows how little respect he has on you and your relationship. Tell him how his actions are making you feel and if he loves you truly he simply won't do it again.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol the disliker got butthurt.. i bet you do this a lot.

[sarahhcmarie]

lmfao he commented the angel emoji
😇
the ANGEL emoji

[pandabo1]

The two scenarios i can think of from my personal experience is either he's talking like that because he knows said person on a friendly level. Or there was the thought of any kind of romance didn't really turn up and it was just a passive action and didn't really mean anything by it.

[Sluggish_Panda]

Obviously I don't know him as a person so I can't say for sure, but me personally, I would do a comment like that while in a relationship and not mean for it to be flirting. I cannot promise a definite answer, but as long as its not a common occurrence and only with her, I think you're fine

[MlleCake]

Your jealousy is out of hand. Get a grip. Men and women can be friendly without it meaning they are about to leap into each other's arms.

[Drener]

He is flirting
He shouldn't been doing that either..
He is cheating on you
You need to have a talk with him

[OoseeeoOo]

Totally agreed, now I'll send you this 😍😍😍💘 (my flirting emoji)

I hope my future girlfriend will find out.

[sarahhcmarie]

"he's cheating"
LOL ru serious?

[Drener]

He is liking other women's photos
He is looking at other women's photos
He is checking them out

Why would a man do that if he is in a relationship
He should only check out his women
He should only like your photos
He should only look at your photos

Yes that is called cheating

[OoseeeoOo]

Can't tell if you are joking or serious about this @Drener

[sarahhcmarie]

LOL...
omfg.
I hope you understand how retarded you are.
Yes, he liked a girls photo..
SO WHAT?
It's not like the photo was explicit or sexy.
Is this man not allowed to follow/ like his friends photos out of mere friendliness?
THIS CHICK NEVER SAID HE WAS CHECKING HER OUT...
Now you just typing bullshit.
This is why men are afraid of being in a relationship with some women like you.
They probably don't have the freedom to say a friendly "hello" to a friend that is a girl.
SMH.

[Drener]

@OoseeeoOo yes I'm serious

[Drener]

@sarahhcmarie
You are only 16 grow up
And I don't know who in the hell you are talking to but u don't have to be so mean and fyi I already do have a boyfriend..

[Calixx]

I agree with you, @Drener.

[Kiii13]

Bring it up to him and let him know. If you’re worried about it he should know so he can reassure you nothings going on

[boggboss]

And this is a perfect example of why relationships don't last these days

[Sixgun77]

Social media destroying destroying boundaries?

[boggboss]

Well yes and the over valuing of it in a relationship so he liked a girls picture it means nothing because he is with u just blow a my mind how many women ask this

[CandacePerry]

Instagram is not imported is just a website and app. Dumb girl. two guys are right for once. Social media is ruin people relationship.

[awkwardman]

Wow pretty damn sexist there! Us guys can be right more then you think. But your just a dumb woman. Go screw trump :D

[CandacePerry]

It internet so get used to it.

[awkwardman]

Still a damn sexist. In which case all women are whores who are only good for raping? Hey its the interent whore, better get use to it!

[CandacePerry]

You're being sexist now. not all woman are same. only dumb girl are whore

[Chaz269]

Jealousy is a disease.
Seek professional help, or you'll never find lasting happiness.

[CandacePerry]

She is trigger people. it online people. going to make asshead.

[cuteness89]

Girl grow up. thats why happens when you go spying bc you dont trust your boyfriend.

[cuteness89]

You are crazy

[Asker]

i trust him i know he wouldn't do anything but i'm extremely jealous and i don't want him to be looking at some other girls or flirt or anything of this type

[cuteness89]

Girl your a troll seeking attention. Get a life and stop posting nonsense

[Asker]

im not a fkin troll maybe you need to get a life instead of expressing your anger all over a site

[XCORE911]

Then you shouldn't express your insecurity and jealousy over a site.

[cuteness89]

I don't know what or who you're talking to

[cuteness89]

@xcore exactly these girls are ridiculous and dying for attention

[sarahhcmarie]

omfg, that is literally NOTHING to get upset about.
jesus, these days girls be screaming at their men for even FOLLOWING a girl who is a friend.

[sarahhcmarie]

@Drener Lol, i love when people pull out the age card.
I could be 14 and smarter than you.
Really just depends on your mindset.

Lolll...
Damn you sound like you're 13.
Aww you blocked me so i couldn't reply...
How cute.

[anutookarieskkru]

It's normal to like other people's pictures. I wouldn't think anything of it. If u let it get to you I don't think u will ever get over harmless behavior.

[awkwardman]

Man you are crazy. Do you talk to other guys? Do you like what they say? Do? Look like? Shit if someone got a complement from him in person i think you would try to kill both of them!

[4pple]

You don't need to be so aggressive, did you have a bad day or are in a bad mood? Some people are more jealous or possessive than others, being aggressive at them isn't going to change a thing, try being a bit more positive or friendly, you'll have better influence, cause when you talk in the way you did people will block off and not listen to you

[hereforthefunofit]

If your going to get jealous of something like this I feel sorry for him if a girl ever says hi to him. You need to find a way to stop being so jealous or he will leave.