What do you do when everyone is against you?

[lost-angel]

When everyone disagrees with you, and criticizes everything you say, or do.

When your beliefs and opinions are disapproved of.

When you feel like you don't belong.

When you feel unaccepted.

Do you keep your mouth shut, and just go along with everyone else?

Do you start doubting your own answers, even if you were sure about it before?

Do you just avoid everyone and let yourself be outcasted?

What do you do?

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I am so sorry for the wrong spellings (> _ <)

[Hercules]

Normally, if all your beliefs and actions are criticized, people will begin to doubt themselves. I had the same thing happen to myself. My father blamed me for anything and everything that went wrong in our home, even when it was my brother's fault, so I naturally began to assume everything in life was my fault. I've also always been very outspoken, and because I constantly received opposition by my peers, I gradually lost confidence in what I thought was right or wrong, and in what I believed in, and that greatly impacted my life.

However, after meeting a girl in my Junior/Senior year of high school, that all changed. She taught me to be myself, even more so than I normally was, and to trust myself again. One of my favor quotes, from one my favorite movies, is Rocky Balboa (Rocky VI)

"The only kind of respect in this world that matters is self-respect."

It's true. There's nothing more important than being yourself, and knowing you're doing so. My friend taught me that, though, she eventually failed to follow her own advice. She was so encumbered by horrible memories and experiences, and uncaring, manipulative friends, she gave in.

But you, you know the importance of truth. It's better to be an outcast and only attract those like you, than to conform and drown in a sea of similarity. Find a reason to be yourself, find a reason to speak, to cry, to scream, just find a reason to live the way you feel you want to live, not the way you feel others want you to live.

Fight, and let your truthfulness affect and change as many as possible. You'll walk a path of difficulty, but you'll touch lives. So, fight. : )

[lost-angel]

Thank you Hercules. Your answer got me feeling all emotional.. *embarassed*

It almost feels like you came over here and helped me get back up. I needed it. Thanks.

[AJtogo]

I also liked the line, and I paraphrase; "it doesn't matter how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get back up and keep going."

[Hercules]

I'm glad I could help : )

[dasouthernicon]

When everyone is against you, and they don't agree with what you're saying, that's the time to CONTINUE on with what ur saying. Don't trip, don't bacc offa what ur saying at all. And don't try to compromise ur message. People respect people who stand up and stay true to what they say they are about... Opinion comes and goes, but values and beliefs shouldn't. Don't live ur life on what others say, think, etc. It's just a waste of time.

[lost-angel]

I like this answer. thank you

[dasouthernicon]

Trust me- I know all about this (I had a devil of a time overcoming this wen I was a yung buck). It's ez to backtrack when ur in some controversy. I been in some kind of controversy ever since I can remember (I wouldn't have it any other way doe). Ya gotta live ur life and realize that pplz opinions, whether they like you or not is totally irrelevant. Self-confidence is totally relevant.

[Shlei3]

I just let people think what they want to. I learned a long time ago that ultimately the only person's opinion that truly matters is my own. I don't care if people think I'm wrong or they try to outcast me. You cannot please everyone and in this lifetime I spent a couple of high school years learning that the hard way. Be you and stay true to yourself. I would rather be disliked for someone I am than be liked for someone I am not. Eventually that charade of being someone you are not will get old and it will end. We all have low points in our life but they are there to help us in many ways. Not only that but we appreciate the smooth days a lot more.

[ALWAYSclassy]

Never do that. Always stay true to yourself no matter who likes you. It is better to be an outcast for being yourself than to be accepted but unhappy because you can't be YOU. Who are they to affect you like that? They are just people who wipe their butts when they poo just like you. They are no better or worse so don't let them affect how you live your life and feel about yourself. If someone gets out of hand with you, put them back where they belong =)

[A-R-Norman]

Dr Martin King spoke up and because of it my Husband and I were able to get married despite being from different ethnic groups-be you hun--ppl may not like it but the people who matter will.

as a great man once said, "be yourself, because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter."

[ellandroader]

I am the same...I keep with it anyway. Being yourself is a trait sadly lacking these days so don't change who you are. You're a leader, not a follower and the time will come when your nature will be useful. As long as you are not a criminal or something horrible who hurts people then you have no reason to change.

[iloveashton]

I think it depends on what you're talking about... I can't just say you are write or you are wrong.. but think about "it" and if you can honestly say "it" is not bad.. "it" is just different... then you will be ok by just keeping your beliefs to yourself or only sharing it with people who can understand (because some will never understand, no matter how hard you try to explain)

[AenaMaureen]

I usually post my emotions and thoughts on blog. From there, I can receive messages from people who agree and disagree on my statements. And from there, I can realize or depend myself if what I did is right or wrong.