Getting a man to cuddle/spoon?

[Anonymous]

There is this man I am messing around with, not super serious, we meet and enjoy, we go out together, talk, talk on the phone etc.

He never initiates cuddling after sex we just sleep, it is not becauese I expect it to become more, but a bit of cuddling or spooning while sleeping is nice.

So can I initiate it, fx come close to him, or just grab his arm and put it around me or ask him to hold me?

[MonsieurLinguini]

There's nothing wrong with wanting aftercare. You can either initiate it or talk to him about how you feel. Keep in mind, though, that if you allow that to happen, there's the potential to catch feelings. If you don't see yourself forming a relationship, then keep it cordial and don't leave yourself or him open to misinterpreting the situation.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but he might be a person that's not a cuddlier? Or, might refuse if you're relationship isn't serious. I used to cuddle with my fwbs all the time, because I love to cuddle, but this was a mistake for me. If I were to do it over, I'd never do it, unless she wanted something more serious (because I became attached).

[PondyPand]

You're messing around with him, not dating. So keep cuddling out of the equation.

[RooMayne9]

It's always nice to hear women say how gud the sex is.. grab him, pull him close to u. If he's not a cuddler let him sleep an leave, find u a cuddler lol

[Asker]

Thanks will try this

[FaolanGrey]

Yea, just tell him you want it. I personally enjoy cuddling after sex a lot. No idea why, just do. So ask him and he should have no problem with it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it would be too romantic for casual fling. But you could grab his arm and playbite it and drag him closer to you and whisper how good sex was and in response he probably would cuddle. Or you can just lie on his chest.

[Hydrogen]

Maybe he just isn't that type of guy. Cuddling makes me sick unless it's my girlfriend that I'm cuddling with, maybe you should ask him about it? Some guys just don't like to cuddle.

[chillboii]

Cuddling sounds like a great time to me! Just ask him if he wants to

[babemagnet1]

just ask him to hold you

[boggboss]

You can try

[Kitty_V]

Tell him you like being cuddled

[UglyestGuyEver]

cuddling is gay, most guys won't like that shit