Do you care if your boyfriend follows random girls on instagram?

[pod1617]

I’ve been dealing with this problem. I’ve been in a relationship for 5 month with my boyfriend and I notice, sometimes, he follows these girls on instagram. He’s a extrovert and he knows a lot of people from our town. Sometimes I notice he follows girls from out town, but he doesn’t know them that well and sometimes he follows insta girls from other cities. Some of this girls are hot. The thing is, he doesn’t hide his cell phone from me and he shows me his instagram with no problem, but at time I still wonder why he does this and start question myself if I’m not enough. Do you deal with this? How? Should I talk to him about this? And how I feel?

[homie3112]

It doesn't mean anything. Especially if he is open about it. I have felt insecure like that before, ask him the real questions for self reassurance. Don't try to accuse him or anything though. He has done nothing wrong. State your feelings and try to see his perspective. If you follow other people, why do you do that? See my point. My SO has access to my phone. I know he is attracted to other people, thing is he chose you. He stays with you. Try to reassure yourself. Seems like he isn't hiding anything, so don't hide your feelings.

[SuzieS]

You're feelings about this are normal, and at the same time, so his is behavior.
I wouldn't feel threatened by it or that you aren't enough. Men are sex-driven and visual... he's going to look at other women, just like your heads turns when you're attracted to a man. As long as it stops at looking, you're good. If he's doing more than looking, suggest he find a woman who is into open relationships and let him know that that's not you... also, do the same on your Instagram and ask if that bothers him, if it does, then you two can talk about it.

[Kaneki05]

why would you? In what possible way does that hurt you? what's next a guy cannot watch a film with an attractive girl in it? Because it bothers you there is other attractive girls out there that ultimately mean nothing cause he chooses to be with you and only you.
Not that i go on social media that much anyway but if i did, what on earth does it matter. Following a random girl on insta don't = i am gonna cheat on you.

[pod1617]

We are starting to be more communicative in that way. I opened that conversation. We were watching a tv series and I said the actor is attractive, just to see his reaction and because I find it normal to communicate that, but in a respectful way. I obviously find other guys attractive, normal random guys, but I would never cheat on him.

[SuzieS]

Same... sometimes I point out another beautiful woman in the room when I'm out with a guy. I'm not into women, but I'm an artist, and when I see a beautiful woman, sometimes I point it out just like I would point out a beautiful sunset.

[jasco]

Do i care if my girlfriend follows random guys? No, texting and commenting on there shit? yes. Liking there stuff is fine cause i do that to. But if your taken you shouldn't be texting someone who clearing is a sexual type person which could lead to sexual/flirting.

[Paris13]

My fiance isn't that but I know many guys who are. Not sure why he is doing this, giving your situation (Which is great!!!) But he could enjoy just Seeing Something "Artistic" and Fabulous in Front of him. No worries.
Welcome to Gag Town and Best of Luck. xx

[cherryblossomXD]

I like guys without social media because its toxic anyways.

[pod1617]

My ex didn’t have instagram and didn’t care about Facebook. It was still toxic being with him 😂

[cherryblossomXD]

Lol ya people can be toxic by their own environment 😄

[Paolaa988]

Yeah that would make me feel like his attention is focusing on other girls other than me and id feel left out. People are addicted too much to social media its so unattractive.

[Paolaa988]

Huh back in the 2010s it wasn't even this bad. What happen to real life focusing?

[Hangry22]

I do. I have only liked guys without Instagram. They got more substance🤷‍♀️

[lokeshdh00]

If you have trust in the relationship, you don't need to worry about that.
Otherwise, you need to make your bond stronger!

[Me080Mo]

Yes I do care as I don’t follow random people on instagram

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I wouldn't care if she followed guys on social media as friend or celebrity. I'm not pathetically insecure like that.

[Chikky]

Let him know that it hurts you when he does that

[fonduegirl]

I do that too why judge

[Iron_Man]

Most women do

[Dave31989]

he shouldn't need to

[Anonymous]

I sure damn care