Guys, I'm 22, and I feel really insecure about my small breasts. I also have a big butt and thick thighs. Is that attractive?

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Hi guys. I feel really insecure about my small breasts. My size is 36 B. But I feel that when I'm wearing a bra it looks like a have bigger boobs that their actual size. My mom has big ones and sometimes I hope mine will get bigger some time later.. I feel really sad because I have heard that there are some guys out there who find out small boobs, and they say that they love them and that drive them crazy but I don't know why I think they're lying. I hate to be called "another dude" by my guy friends because of my small breasts. I don't feel attractive or sexy.. it's been a long time since I've been in a relationship... and seeing all my friends talking about perfect bodies (even from animated characters) makes me feel like no one will find me attractive. I've been told, I and I can see it to haha, that I have a bug butt. Also I have thick thighs.. and I hear everyone talking about how that is super sexy.. but at the same time (I'm an artist an I have a lot of artist friends) I see all my guy friends drawing characters with big butts and thick thighs.. but tell me ot my friends that we are fat or gross.. I don't know.. I just want some honest opinions. Thanks guys 😊

Sorry If you read some mistakes that's because English its not my first language.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Beauty standards can be very regional, and while "class" is much less of a thing in the US than it is in other parts of the world, they can also be very different in different classes, and you can see that even in the US.

For example, in Scandinavia (Sweden in particular), the beauty standard for women is that they need to be TALL, and short women are openly considered to be less attractive - yet in most of the rest of the world, people either don't care or they prefer shorter women. A really tall girl in the US might struggle, but would be VERY desirable in Sweden.

The point I'm trying to make is that your body type is going to be attractive to many men, but those men may not be the ones immediately around you, or in the same socio-economic class as you, as a generalization (there will always be a few individual exceptions either way). And if you can identify the type of men who find your body type especially attractive, and you pursue those men, you may find it much easier going. If you try to date a pool of men who are known not to favor your body type (like a short girl in Sweden), it's going to be a lot more difficult.

I can tell you this: in the US, a large percentage of men are attracted to the body type you describe. It isn't everyone, but there's more than enough that you'd have little trouble finding a man. I don't know where you're from, and probably couldn't speak to that area anyway, but it's just something to consider.

Blerdsmith19 · Accepted Answer

I think you need to have a change of scenery. There are many guys out there who will appreciate you despite what you think you're lacking and despite whether you feel attractive or not. There are guys who legitimately don't care if you have small breasts and a big butt and thighs. Some guys may find that attractive even. Hell, some guys may have that themselves! I know it may be hard to believe, but there are guys who don't have body standards that makes a woman any less or more attractive to them. (Or, maybe I'm one of the few.) I'm one of the few whose mind wasn't brainwashed by the "ideal" female body from all the animated shows I've consumed throughout my life up to now.

As a fellow artist myself (a cartoonist specifically), I honestly don't understand the logic of your artist friends drawing female characters with those assets yet say it's fat and gross. If anything, they're drawing those assets BECAUSE they're attractive. Why create something that you think is gross? (Unless you're intentionally making something gross.) So, either your friends aren't being honest or there's something contradicting how they perceive those things.

Like I said, I think you need to have a change of scenery. Try to find guys who values you for your looks despite your insecurities.

Vviiccttoorr · Answer

LoL don’t worry about your breast size. If a guy doesn’t like you just because, of that; then be happy you found out he’s not the one for you and that honestly he might be a a jerk. A guy like that most likely does not respect you and only wants sex out of you (not guaranteed that’s what he’s like but, very possible) and that’s wrong. Also probs the guy who will say he “loves you” and then wants to sleep with you that same night or pressure you into something; don’t fall for that guy. Im sure you’re very beautiful and will meet a guy who likes you for you. Honestly “small breasts” aren’t that big of a deal, some guys completely don’t care while others prefer bigger (sometimes it is just personal taste). Also yes, thighs and a butt are very attractive as well so I wouldn’t worry. The people who will mock you for your appearance are just insecure themselves and think they’ll feel better by attacking others. Remember that inner beauty really does bring out outter beauty, so keep that in mind too.

walt0462 · Answer

You Don't need to feel insecure... my SO wears a 36B bra, plus she is a perfect size 8 dress size. Which make gift purchases easier.. .. I have never considered her as having small breasts she has perfect body in my opinion, she has always had a positive attitude about her looks and considering the number of guys that used to flirt with her I would say a lot of guys aren't concerned about her 36B breast either before we were a couple!
My suggestion is just have a positive & confident attitude and realize that not all man are concerned about breast size and or attracted to women with big breasts.. thats not to say guys don't notice woman with Big Breasts just that some men aren't attracted to woman with big breasts and prefer those who fall in the B and or C bra cup sizes

Be happy that you won't ever experience back pain issues associated with having Bigger Breasts also you won't have to be concerned about sagging thats associated with having Bigger Breasts either...

I personally believe that woman with B and or C breast sizes are far more attractive & sexier both clothed and unclothed then woman with Bigger breast which typically look Sexy only clothed.. but that's just my opinion some men may not feel or believe the same as I do

JPrez · Answer

While looks are important to a degree, if you're not obese and you have a great personality, then there is a guy for you. 90% of the guys out there are not going to spend a lot of time worrying if you're butt is a tad bit bigger than someone else's or if your boobs are small. Many guys find that attractive. You are gonna those 10% of guys that do zero in on that stuff and might kid you about it but those guys aren't worth your time. If you have the personality to go with the rest of your looks, you're gonna be just fine.

virgin20 · Answer

Personally I don't think you have any reason to feel insecure. You have to work with what you've got and i wouldn't change what you have.
Every guy is different, some like bigger breasts, some don't. Personally I prefer them to be smaller and i don't really care at all if they're very small or big, i couldn't care less!
To me you have the important features which are you thighs and ass, i couldn't ask anymore from the girls figure.
I'm sorry if people make you feel insecure, but I'll reassure you that you have absolutely nothing to worry about!
I also have insecurities so my pm is open if you need to chat, i have the experience with this too.
Hope you feel better🙂

WesBrewer · Answer

I wouldn't worry that much. having to great things (thicc thighs and big butt) are better then having 1 great thing (big breasts) and my sisters are A cup, never made fun of her she's 21. there are lots of physically attractive things, its not only boobs, as i said don't worry, if I was your guy friend I wouldn't call you a dude soo yeah. I bet your very attractive either way.

TadCurious · Answer

Your body, including your breasts, butt and thighs are perfectly fine. 36 B isn't that small in my opinion anyway. But even if your breasts were smaller than they are they would be perfectly fine. Smaller size breasts are on trend anyway and most guys love them because they are sexy and appealing in their unique way. Girls' bodies don't have to fit one specific type to be attractive.

JosephB31 · Answer

Small breasts are beautiful i love small breasts , I'm not a fan of females that have large breasts because a lot of them seem unnatural and fake as if they are implants.
Your description of your body sounds like you have a beautiful body but since there's no picture of you I'm not able to give a compliment or anything. I can very well bet that you have a very beautiful body that is really attractive , don't let people make fun of your little breasts because always remember that there are guys like myself that love girls with your body size.

Givemore · Answer

You are looking at your self in a tall mirror and wanting different.. ask why you want something different.. and if you get there do you think you will start being happy with your body.. I believe you can get to that place without the negative side. But you probably need to do some prep work first to get you ready

Skankhunt · Answer

First of all, you shouldn't be insecure about the way you look, I knwo you are insecure, lot of women are, but there is no need to feel that way, because beauty is not the most important thing there is, personality is very attractive.

Every man has different prefrences when it comes to girls, some men like big boob, big thighs, big butts, and there are men who don't like that. The key is to find someone who really adores you, who really find you sexy, who really loves you, who really sees the real you, your personality. There is someone out there who will love and adore you for who you are.

Don't give up, stay positive and be patient. There is someone out there for you.

darkcloud1945 · Answer

I personally love small breasts but if you really think this will help your mental well being then at least look into it, I mean how much it will cost. How much after pain and it really good for 10 years before possible repair are needed. chance of leaking. Then after that the feed back from your so called buddies about your fake boobs they are not real they are too big they are not big enough. Please think long and hard about this a last thought that this is an operation and the possibility of death exists.

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone likes different things, some will reject you over this but that doesn't mean anything beyond what i already said, that people like different things, just as YOU like different things.

Your body is not a problem but the mental illness you are developing by obsessing over this and creating this problem in your mind most certainly is.

WHO you are will always be the most important variable in any kind of relationship.

So do yourself a favour and stop destroying yourself and put your effort into developing yourself and persuing your interests etc.

locutus9999 · Answer

ok... also English not my first language... its all ok... my favourite actres Mila Jovovich have also small breast... and know what !! are beautifull!! my ex girlfriend also small ones and know what !! i loved them!! believe they are beautiful, If your male friends calls you another dude is causebthey need to desexualize you in orderbto keep the friendship... and that is actually good cause they need to reasure themselves and that means they actually see you as a women but they need to go extra effort to not feel attracted cause friendship.

PeterAyre · Answer

Honestly? Sound like your asking for an external fix a band aid to an internal problem. Look inwards, can you be happy with your body as a whole, your body is a package, you are a package you're so much more than your parts. You should seek being happy with yourself (body positivity or therapy), not seek other people being happy with you (asking what others think)... but yeah pears are hot!

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Sounds like a pear shaped body to me which I very much do find attractive (obviously other factors matter as well). I don't think anything your describing sounds bad in anyway shape or form so I am not sure why you are fixated on that one part of you, especially since while guys do like big breasts, they also like breasts period (size isn't really that big of a factor for most men).

sacajawea · Answer

Love yourself for all the right reasons. Anyone who is only attracted to you because of physical features, isn't worth the trouble. Then again, I remember when I was a young guy huge female breasts were attracted to me. Then I matured, and most mature men don't consider it a deal breaker either way. best wishes.

bowenw · Answer

There is no normal body shape. The size of particular body parts are not important. Its what you do with them and your personality that matter. A guy that's into you won't get out a tape measure to determine if he loves you or not. He'll want you for who you are. Sexiness is something that comes from the whole of your personality. Just be healthy and be yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, B cups are small, but they aren't flat. If they were completely flat, it would be a different story. It would also be a different story if you had B cups AND no ass. But since you have B cups (not flat) and you have a big butt and thick thighs, I would say you're fine. I'd personally date a girl with that body type by the sounds of it.

Bang5luts · Answer

I find the little differences about a women's body to be most attractive. I think smaller breasts are more attractive. I have felt that way my entire life. Big butts are very attractive to me as well. I prefer a woman with a bigger butt and thicker thighs. It is more arousing in my opinion and I am not the only one who feels this way.

Mark987 · Answer

First of all forget what guys think... breasts are breasts... i've been with thick girls with size small b and think girls with C cups.. be happy with what you have... I am guy and guys can be the biggest assholes... if your guy friends say stupid shit... you should change your friends.. I have been with skinny and thick.. and i'll be honest my favourite thing is thick thighs... BE PROUD OF YOURSELF

BeachLuvR97 · Answer

Men love breasts of all sizes. Believe me--I'm one of them. The only ones that I do NOT like are fake ones.

If guys are calling you, "another dude," in reference to your body, they are NOT your friends. I think that it's time to disassociate with mean people.

Wiredone · Answer

Going by your description you have a perfect body. There are plenty of men that would love to date a woman like you, including myself. I don't judge a woman by her looks, it's the personality that matters the most. Smaller breasts are more appealing to me. Love your body the way it is.

razelove · Answer

Well, you draw, so honestly, that would be more of a turn on long haul than if your titties had an extra couple centimeters radius. You have a handful from what you're saying, good enough for my tastes ;)

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Don’t feel bad. All sizes are good. Hold fast, taka the winna.

Jack_tyler · Answer

Don't feel insecure. I personally love all shapes and size. It's more about the personality than out right attractiveness

Anonymous · Answer

I personally think ass thighs>>>big chest 🤷‍♂️ I think it's just a much sexier body shape big boobs are mostly novelty.

Anonymous · Answer

whoa back the truck up. first of all the woman i love has sexy thick thighs and a sexy ass and i would love to have my face burried between her sexy thick thighs and be smothered by them. secondly learn to love your body. guys still love to massage and suck on tits and kiss tits so don't worry about it.

Anonymous · Answer

F*** no look at the history of how female dresses were constructed the breast was always out. Even in medieval times the princess will throw her breast over the balcony and men would wage war over it they would Lance and Jost to get a chance to fondle Tig Ol Bitties a big booty means nothing any girl with the right diet can get a big booty you know what's hard to get it from perfect shaped breast

Browneye57 · Answer

Your priorities are way way out of whack. And your value as a person, a woman, a lover, a partner, is simply not wrapped up in your tits.

dudeinohio · Answer

Actually, I prefer small breasts. I'm a butt guy, so a big butt is a plus.

allaboutyou2 · Answer

34 or 36B is a perfect size, I'm not into big breasts.

Guys, I'm 22, and I feel really insecure about my small breasts. I also have a big butt and thick thighs. Is that attractive?

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