Are you ok with a good looking male Masseuse giving your Wife a back massage?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[Miristheiss]

No, boundary issue.

Too close and intimate.
Firstly, neither one of us go to spa's to get massages. We just massage each other.
Two, if she ever did it would need to be a female masseuse.

She is laying there half naked for an hour with the person getting to look down at their body and they put their hands all over their nude skin for about an hour.

Yeah, I don't want some guy doing that. Looking down on her half naked for an hour... touching her for an hour.

Boundary issue. I'm the man in her life... none of these gray areas where some other guy still ends up getting himself a little sample of her in an "approved" setting.

Anyway, we massage each other. Neither of us go to spas, so it is kind of moot.

[Miristheiss]

ps - I'm noticing a lot of other guys using the verbiage about he is professional or the wife can protect herself or most guys won't risk their careers for this... meaning their entire angle and agenda is that a sexual assault will happen.

Just to be clear on my feelings. That never even crosses my mind and that plays no role in why I'd be against it. It is just too close, intimate and personal for a man to have my wife in a semi nude state... topless at least... little towel and him being able to just stand there and look at her and stare wherever he wants for an hour and to touch her for an hour.

There is no need to put me in this position to where I hate it, I'm disgusted and hurt by it. I can massage her... or she can go to a woman. It is as easy as that. There is no emergency dictating that a man has to massage my wife... we have options so why stress the relationship needlessly for no good reason. It is a boundary issue for a man to get to do that to my wife.

No-no.

Some guys will date strippers so obviously some guys couldn't care less if 1,000 men get to stare at his wife naked for their viewing pleasure or for their wives to give other men lap dances.
I would never date a stripper so men that have different boundaries will probably have different views on massages too.

It crosses my boundary so there is NO WAY she could go ahead with this and there not be consequences on our marriage.

[EmbraceThePain]

Well, I can understand why a man would not be okay with this. First off, this is something that can easily be envisioned within a sexual context, so it’s not entirely innocent like if one’s wife was doing taxes with a male accountant. Your wife may or may not be thinking of sexual thoughts, but perhaps the man is. It’s natural to feel protective over your woman when another man has his hands on her and can be assumed to be thinking of sexual thoughts about her. I can totally understand discomfort over this as the husband or as a wife if it was the other way around and it was the husband getting a massage from a good-looking female.

[Elena_the_Star]

The guys saying it's hEr CHoIcE to be progressive should go through Wattpad novels once. All of them are read and written by women, go and see the major themes in the male hero... you'll understand what I am saying. There's a difference between being progressive and respecting your partner and being a downright cuck.
If someone needs a massage, they should be getting it from the same sex, why do they NEED to have a massage from the opposite gender unless they have something else in mind?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend would come and get massages with me and he’d have them alone with a physio sometimes too. The only reason I could imagine for feeling insecure about this is if I thought I were less than the masseuse and something may start between them. Otherwise why would I care? She can admire his body all she wants, he still chooses me, so thanks for the compliment!

[Opinion Owner]

To the guys here saying no, I think there are some trust and or self esteem issues going on that would be worth looking at.

[LohrvsData]

Yeah, a lot of people that say no seem to have trust issues, but there's sometimes a reason for it. Some do it just to be controlling d***s, others do it because they've been betrayed by a previous lover in some similar way in the past.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I know there are reasons for it, rightly or wrongly. I was just pointing out that it’s for them to address in themselves rather than projecting those issues onto a partner. Not that they’d attract a great partner like that anyway as they wouldn’t tolerate it, so if they want better they need to put the work in to do better.

[Opinion Owner]

Women who’d tend to accept it have low esteem themselves.

[Miristheiss]

lol.
I trust her not to go get half naked and lay on a table and let some guy massage her for an hour while looking wherever he wants.

If that is too much for her... if me massaging isn't good enough... if getting a girl to do it isn't good enough then we just aren't compatible.

I'm secure enough to know what I will put up with in a relationship and what I won't.
I know what my boundaries are and if a girl can't stay in them then I'll move on to the next girl. There are only 3.5 billion of them to choose from.

There isn't one good reason why I'd have to put up with her laying there naked his hands on her, he can just stare wherever he wants for as long as he wants.

If she demands to do that whether I am ok with it or not then I'm not interested.

I love all the little code words people throw out meaning couples have to put up with anything at all... people should have unlimited freedom to do anything and their mates should have no say at all ever... else it is "trust issues"..."insecurities"

Yeah... I "TRUST" you not to do that. There you go.

[wtf636]

I don't really care. I've gotten massages with girlfriends before where they had a male massuese and I didn't give a shit. As long as they aren't being creepy.

I don't want a guy rubbing on me, so I prefer to have a female massuese. So why would I stop her from a guy?

[LohrvsData]

I would absolutely trust my SO to get a massage from whoever she wants. In my opinion, you have to extend a little trust to make a relationship work. However, I believe your SO would be a better person to ask than people in an online forum. She would at least see that you're taking her feelings seriously.

[ChocoBrowny]

I dont even get how women can like a male Masseuse, they are heavy handed and rough hands.
A female is more sensitive to touch and has softer hands that can glide against skin perfectly. She also smells nice and has lovely feet to look at when your faced down.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

I trained a masseuse. I know there's nothing sexual about a back massage, and that you'd be risking your career to even suggest something.

There's a lot of insecure men on this website.

[hahahmm]

Insecure? No, it's just unnecessary. It's like asking if you're okay with your wife using the men's restroom at a random truck stop by herself. Maybe it's safe 99% of the time but it's still stupid regardless of whether she's trustworthy or not. And YES, I know women who were abused by massage guys.

[Opinion Owner]

@hahahmm Then it's her place to decide if she trusts the guy or not.

[hahahmm]

My woman has decided that she trusts me more than random strange men.

[NamerOfStars]

If I'm married to her, then presumably I trust her. So what's the danger? That she'll have a more intense experience due to heavier muscle, and come home more relaxed and comfortable? Oh, no! How will I ever survive?

[hahahmm]

It's not about how he looks. It's about what he's doing & if he's being professional or not. If I'm present it's not an issue. If I'm not present it is. And my woman wouldn't even think of doing it because she has common sense.

[chihuahua011]

As long as he is a properly certified professional I don't see a problem. Professionals don't risk their career for a few minutes of pleasure.

[NorthernLightWP]

Cuck

[chihuahua011]

Fuck off insecure bitch

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes as long as decent spam not an issue.

my ex was very capable of kicking his ass if he got out of line.

they are also registered and would loose jobs.

I get massages of girls, so why would I be concerned

[PaynefulPleasures]

You're uncomfortable with this. Think about a good looking gynecologist 😉

[Aakash_Hangargi]

A guy finding problem with her pussy lol it's nothing to worry about 😂🤣

[Kayak_Guy]

Your point is very true

[PaynefulPleasures]

Thank you ❤️

[kkirk4442]

She commonly gets massages from a male, and it doesn't bother me at all. I also get massages from a female, though I get them less often than she does. I don't think it bothers her either.

[Chriscunning]

Whether it the male masseuse, or the good looking lad next door, or the hottie she sees at work everyday... If it's gonna happen it's gonna happen.

[MickJemill]

He's job is for him to massage her, not have fun with her, so yeah.

[Jaylaa2000]

It be strange if my man had a problem with it.
I get massages all the time from the male training staff.

[cksutherland]

of course yes! they're a professional doing their job. i'm not insecure, or jealous, and i respect and trust my girlfriend. if you said no to this you've got some serious thinking to do.

[DavidHart]

No male is touching my woman unless it is necessary.

[hahahmm]

Exactly. Lot of guys out there have been brainwashed into thinking they have zero right to any preferences. Meanwhile their woman has a long list of preferences & requirements. Ha ha.

[Stoner710]

Sure if it in a professional environment like Massage envy

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

In a professional environment, sure. If its just some rando off Craigslist for claims to "do good massage for sexy ladies" or some shit, then hell no

[Anonymous]

I don't know if my husband would like it, but sign me up for sexy guy massage!!!

[SHREYASH007]

No way another guy can even come close in her vicinity, massage is way too much. she needs massage I am there, she needs anything I am there and I need anything she is there , that's it.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Won't mind. Keep it professional and don't disrespect my woman nor her body.