Do guys prefer long hairded beautiful tik tok girls rather than just your normal ordinary sweet girls? Also girls do you feel self conscious when you compare yourself?
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ok it seems like this question wasn't worded correctly. Let me see if I can remedy that. I was asking in this modern society, where social media has such a presence... do men find themselves wanting women in real life who resemble those on social media handles. I'm not talking about pedo behavior... and for the women do you compare yourself to what society has set as the new social media beauty standard?
It depends what you mean by ordinary, she has to be in good health as well as having a nice personality and has to act like a woman (feminine).
I don't use Tik Tok so I don't have an accurate estimation on those type of girls, but I could assume they are some form of influencer/model type (like the girls on insta and YouTube).
Those girl are usually good looking... but the trade-off is usually a lack of personality as well as a chance of being selfish or even having a I'm better then you type attitude.
A guy that respects himself that is serious would prefer to deal with an ordinary looking girl with a great personality and good values.
Be careful not to get sucked up by the fake influencer girls online (remember... it's just online), DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO THEM they are fake, the attention they're getting from guys is just sexual (smash and pass) emulating their behaviours will give you the same problem and guys generally don't take those type of girls seriously (won't commit to a long-term relationship or marry them... well a guy that has his shit together won't).
Women have always put effort in appearance, its only last 20 years women have started putting less effort thanks to feminism, and not to mention being overweight or obese, which is nearly 65% of the population. The fact those instagram/tiktok girls are slim immediately have advantage over general female population.
I am honestly not sure what precisely do you mean by TikTok type girls, not to mention there is also a lot of fakeness there, like photoshoping. However yes I do prefer girls who put effort in appearance and look fine. Majority of men do prefer girls who put at least some effort in appearance, but I do prefer girls who look fine. So yes those TikTok/Insta girls would be my type.
Not to mention what would ordinary sweet girl would mean? If you mean overweight and frumpy then obviously no. Guys are bullshitting if they don't like girls making effort. Also majority of men prefer long hair, I thought that would be obvious.
I get what you’re saying, but didn’t word it right. And people in the opinions are getting defensive.
There are different categories/people posting on tiktok: YouTube influencers, Instagram models, DIY/hacks, boyfriend/girlfriend breakups, Mom stories, and pranks.
I guess you are talking about the Instagram models or the teens that dance around. Here’s a reality shocker, those girls that you’re jealous of or want to be... they’re lonely and insecure like an average girl and they go on Snapchat/dating apps getting used and hurt. That some of them post up about their heartbreaks or problems.
So you want to be beautiful but really, you don’t want their life/problems.
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I recently chopped off all my hair, and while my body was very similar to that girl's in the picture a year ago, it no longer is and I'm fine with that.
I don't feel self conscious, because I know that most of these girls spend hours on getting ready just for that one perfect tiktok that will make them go viral. No jealousy there.
I'm also not saying that anyone could do it, it takes a certain level of skill to entertain the masses with whatever trait you have.
I'm not someone who enjoys wearing makeup all the time or someone who loved fake nails, so I know my worth and just don't care!
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I feel sorry for the younger generation of guys. So much quantity. So little quality.
Of course women feel insecure Being compared to tiktok and insta type women. The great equalizer is that just bc Evey guy wants that hot 18yo ticktok girl doesn't mean they'd actually get her and if they did they probably won't keep her... Guys have competition too. So we all fantasize about perfect hot attractive people but deep down we want real connection and to feel Important and loved by the person we are with. Real loving connection is hard to come by... Looking cute bouncing boobs in a video is nice but that's all it is... Men know that they want more but they still likE to look
What does prefer mean? If it means to have a short term or sexual relationship with then yes men would prefer because the girls on Tik Tok are attractive. However, when it comes to long term or even marriage then there would be much more apprehension because men know that such women are usually high maintenance. The large footprint and presence on social media mean lots of different men are trying to get her attention and it's only a matter of time until someone would come who is better than you in terms of looks, emotional intelligence or manipulation, and resources. Men usually do not like that much competition in the long term.
I think this society, online at least, is determined by these women and their beauty standards. But in person it COULD be handled differently. I wouldn’t know I don’t have enough time to date in person. I feel we’ve lost something important in today’s world. Accountability, responsibility, respect, communication… probably the biggest thing is purpose. This has led to men saying they just is not worth the squeeze for women. Sure most women are fuckable but I assume you want something more. So right now because in marriage men gain nothing but are almost guaranteed to eventually lose everything… that’s all women are good for to men at this time.
Tik tok thots are for fucking, real women are for marrying. at least then the potential rewards worth the risk.
Are you really asking do guys find hotter women to be more hot? Because obviously yes. And meh has nothing to do with a new social media standard guy's always find hotter women more hot... Kinda obvious. Now if your trying to say Men will only date hot women from the likes they have seen on the internet, which this question... if meant to say that was very worded bad and could of just said Insta models not whatever tik tok girls are since that's more of a wide group of young underage girls doing dumb dances. Welp no, guys will date average girls all the time. Only idiots will say i can have insta model and nothing else.
Your question is pretty much would you want 1B dollars? Of course. Sorry cannot give you that how about 1M dollars? of course.
I like beautiful women regardless of circumstance.
But I'm perfectly happy to marry an average looking girl.
Average girls are still cute to me. I dont know about other guys. I dont know if girls find average men attractive.
I love average looking girls. They still cute like... cmon. I like cute girls. It doesn't matter if there's other ones even cuter or prettier than you. You're still cute so it's all good baby girl! (To my future average wife who will think I'm cheating cuz I'm better looking than she is lol.)
We want girls who LOOK like that, but not BEHAVE like that. We want women who have preserved their purity and elegance without them needing to advertise themselves to the world through social media in order to fish for attention. We want women of quality, not those seeking vanity.
I’m not into women who overtly show their sexuality by the way she dresses, there is something off putting for me about that but I know other boys not men who are into that way of living. Finding women who value themselves as much as I value myself is getting increasingly harder to find. There are gems out though but reason so women are doing this is because so many immature guys think with dicks first. The power of self respect will bring you a more fulfilling life.
My girlfriend has big boobs and a fat ass while having a thin waist. she's pretty enough to get a following i think and would really kill if she wore makeup but she does not wear any makeup at all ever which is my preference. And her hair goes down to her ass. she's also 18 which is a great age to become an influencer on that platform at the moment.
So yeah we want a girl who looks like that but not one who would ever want to be an actual tik tok influencer. Ewww. My girlfriend is a sweet homebody church type girl. She wouldn't want to be in the spotlight and that is important to me too.
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Anonymous
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Im not a lesbian but these girls make me feel soo insecure. Its not their fault it’s i constantly compare myself to them.
I can't speak on your specifics because I don't know what you look like (nor am I asking as you're very young) but I do think women who are able to reflect on this as you are, are the ones who have the easiest time learning to love themselves and not feel as insecure.
@Buick9871 yes your right, i try to look at myself in the mirror everyday and say good things about myself so i feel more confident i hope that eventually i’ll become more confortable in my skin and stop comparing myself to people. I’ll just trust the process lol 😅
I think it's a great start if you're proactively taking steps to improve your self image. Shows you're moving in the right direction. Sorry I can't say more but I'd be talking out of my ass lol
I think this is something where you might benefit from hearing how other women (the ones now in their 30s or older) learned to love themselves. Their journey won't be your journey but maybe you'll have some of the same stops along the way, if that makes sense.
Last thing - I think you'd be surprised how many of the girls you compare yourself to are even more insecure about their looks than you are. Not saying anything against them, none of it is positive but at least you're humble enough to admit insecurity.
As it should! It doesn't sound bad at all. We all look at people who project images of having a better life than us and we don't always realize that in reality they're dealing with as much or more BS than us to maintain it.
Thanks for the replies its rlly helpful to hear other people opinion on stuff. I always heard people say “they’re not responsible for your insecurities” as response to this. So hearing this is nice!
I'm glad! Just remember - for a lot of these people, it's literally their job to present themselves as better than you, or "be hot for a living." Whatever skills you build and interests you develop instead of spending your entire day on makeup, skincare, lighting, ie vanity, will make you attractive to the right person for the rest of your lives (I was always bad at STEM so women who do biology/chemistry are just automatically more attractive to me) whereas when people like that lose whatever makes them superficially attractive (whether it's looks or money or whatever else) there's nothing interesting left about them. In other words by starting to refuse to get caught up in comparing yourself to others you're setting yourself up to be much more satisfied and fulfilled in the long run.
Ten years ago, 'Tik Tok girls' would be pornstars. Older than that, they would be Playboy models, prostitutes or strippers.
I want a REAL woman, NOT some fictional fantasy on a page, in a film, on a stage, or on social media. No thank you. NOT interested in these fakes and they will NEVER beat a REAL woman!
I like charming girls inside and out. Tik tok girls are sellouts who only care about viewership and the money it makes them and for that they would trade their own soul.
I would sleep with one but I wouldn't date one.
As for normal girls well they are more than one type but my type does lie within the normal spectrum
I prefer girls that are themselves that are their own leader and not a follower I prefer girls that have a beautiful heart feel things deeper than most they're confident smart intelligent have common sense and love being themselves and that try to be anybody else so smile a little bit more a little bit more confidence you are the leader of yourself be that person you're actually a beautiful person on the inside and the outside you just don't know it
Everyone keeps stereotyping various categories of women. "porn girls" "Instagram girls" "TikTok girls.". "Cheerleaders.". Etc. The truth is that every woman is different and is a unique individual. There's no such thing as a "type" as far as looks go, in the context you're describing it.
But yes, men do generally tend to be attracted to women with long hair.
Grow your hair, be slim, be feminine, work out, no tattoos, no nose rings…problem solved. Men want pretty women, not fat, pink haired, nose ringed Feminist circus freaks.
@cth96190 Not really. Not that a model represents the female population. But working out is essentially seen as a manly thing, you wouldn't expect a woman to have a six pack.
@Highwayrobbery Workout can be all kinds of excerizes, not just bodybuilding. Plenty of women who go to the gym and manage to get a very feminine and fit body without excess of muscle.
To answer your update, it's a mix. Many men do want a woman who looks like that. Few men want a woman who acts like them though. And the higher quality man seeks a woman who he finds beautiful, who may or may not resemble them, but has a good heart and brings him peace
Yeah. It's one of the most important things that men want, but most of us don't realize it until we don't have it. And the more successful he gets, the more he tends to want it.
Basically, you want a woman to be the place where we can sit down the burdens and struggles of life. A place that's home. That's why nagging or pestering wives can be so emotionally frustrating for men, because they're already dealing with a lot of stress and then we go home hoping for peace and instead it's stressful as well. And then we don't get a break. We want to sit down our burdens around her, ease our mind and just relax into being in her presence.
I just prefer ordinary down to earth women. Preferably healthy. Easy to talk with and calm personalities. And manners. That's all a man can ask for surely. And vice-versa. The real meaning of nice. Life and society has always been stressful enough lol ... so, better to have relaxed partners 🤗
But when looking for a partner there are more things I look for.. If she doesn't has a booty or boobs.. I will still be willing to date, commit to her and marry her.. If she has those things that I like..
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Anonymous
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They do make me feel very insecure ngl. Although I am very feminine, have long hair, my body is skinny minnie Ariana Grande and Jennie Kim's type, that still doesn't seem enough if you keep watching Tik Tok more. Now I am always feeling down over the fact that I don't have blue eyes per say.
It's their job to make you feel insecure lol. The girl who has blue eyes is insecure about whether the guy she likes might prefer Asian girls. Nobody's better than you (we're all just monkeys floating on a rock anyway) they can only try to make you feel that way. But they're either trapped in the same cycle of self doubt and insecurity as you or they're so egotistical that nobody who's not equally superficial can stand to be around them for more than 15 minutes.
