Does sex comes first before anything serious?

[fatimah01]

Does men these days must lay a girl before they get into something serious with her?

[Bright_blue_eyes]

No! In fact, I would suggest the exact opposite. If a guy is serious about a long term relationship with you, he'll wait and save sex for a bit later. If you sleep with a guy too soon (before he feels an emotional connection with you) then it's SUPER hard to get past the hook up stage. We (men) are weird about that. I say, hold off on sleeping with a guy who you want to date long term. First Date= no way, 3rd date= kissing, save sex for date 10.

[fatimah01]

Lol even date 10 is no sex for me.

[fatimah01]

That's why they endup ghosting me which I'm okay with...

[Honesttguy]

What a load of shit, you guys are so old in your thinking its unbelievable. Grow up, date 10 no sex? I hope you paid for those dates and took care of the guy, "care" what a good trait for future wife to have, "if this is how she treats me now how will she treat my children." This is just pure disrespectful. You end up looking like timewaster who only uses men for free dinner. Your strategy is just fuking awful.

[Bright_blue_eyes]

@Honesttguy I laughing at you right now. What a joke. Your viewpoint is completely void of any basic understanding of human nature. Based on your mindless comment, I can see that you know how your dick works, but that seems to it. It's kind of sad that you've survived in the world for as long as you have. That's ok. Darwin will get you. Hopefully it happens before you reproduce. The last thing we need is more brainless morons walking around.

[Honesttguy]

So what's your point? Are you jealous that women love to take care of me or what? Bro u are talking from last century, when women married for survival purposes. If she wants to be the men in relationship yea go ahead get yourself some pussy guy who will marry you without having kissed u. Plenty of desperation out there

[fatimah01]

@Honesttguy there's no fucking awful about me closing me legs on date 10 just because he took me on a date. Wtf if that's the case I can pay for my own drink and food on a date. He could keep his damn money and stick in his horny dick, I won't be needing it! But one thing I would always be value and respected by a fuck boy like you! Bye!

[Honesttguy]

You see how selfish and narcissistic you come across, blaming it on guys lack of ability to self reflect, lack of care taking skills nothing to do with sex at all, and yet you fail to meet basic requirements for long term relationship, also bad at reading other people thus wasting your own time with rubish guys. You see quality guys look for quality women and they have standards to meet, bursting out like big baby "beee keep your money, horny dick" how far did this behaviour got you? All im saying your strategy might be a bit off. If u looking for quality men. Sure if u look for weak pussy guy you can push around go ahead you doing great. Good luck

[fatimah01]

Haha sick ass mf! You don't know anything about me whatsoever. The only basic requirement for a relationship to you is for your partner to satisfy your horny dick!😂

[fatimah01]

Good luck for your horny dick!

[Honesttguy]

And yet u struggle with that one simple requirement already haha, thanks by the way.

[Dchrls78104]

Not for me; Love, Marriage, then Sex, would be the right order of things for me.

[fatimah01]

Same here🙌

[hahahmm]

The thing is that guys are very skeptical of women claiming to be virgins or to be saving themselves for serious/marriage. They know that a lot of these same women are acting like biker whores during the week then they show up for a date on the weekend, with the one guy who treats her respectfully, acting like even a kiss requires a 5 page signed request. Guys aren't as dumb as they were just 5-10 years ago. The freedom women got from feminism has finally sunk in and men understand what it all means better now.

No, I'm not saying you have to give sex. Just that it's like you wan to sell a car for $50k and other people are selling the exact same car for five dollars. You better be able to convince that guy that what you're selling is really worth it. And if you're smart you'll know that he's also worth it.

[btbc92]

If it happens before marriage then that pretty much answers your question. If you allow it then you can't complain about it. Because if you was that desperate to keep yourself, then you would. Either they will respect you or they won't. You don't get into relationships with men who do not share your values and your desires concerning sexual morality.

[Anonymous]

I don't know why women are so daft on this...

If you need to provide sex for a man to like you, then he doesn’t really like you, he just likes sex. Girls who give it up quick never know until he leaves. Hold out and you’ll find out what he’s there for

[fatimah01]

True

[HawkPerception]

Not for me... no. If the girl is physically attractive, check. Next step is to figure out if we have chemistry and have a potential future together. So I figure out if our communication flows, if we have similar views, interests, goals, sense of humor, etc. If that's also a check, then physical intimacy is next. I don't believe in no sex before marriage so I could never be with someone like that, but I'd figure that out during the "chemistry" stage.

[Anonymous]

Depends what you mean by serious.

I would probably want to have slept with a woman before
a) meeting her kids/parents (depending on her age)
b) spending major holidays like Christmas together
c) moving in together
d) getting engaged
etc...

[fatimah01]

Engaged/ marriage
That's what I mean. I'm attitude about dating is "if I'm not yours then you can't have me.

[Opinion Owner]

Most people will want to have had sex with their partner before considering proposing.

[fatimah01]

True but with that most of the time , the guy would end up ghosting /disrespecting you because he got what he wanted. There are a lot of fuck boys out.

[Yourfriend2021]

I would like to know the girl first and not jump into bed. There has to be some king of physical attraction and affection though or then it just feels like friends.

[boggboss]

Lol whoever told u that is just trying to get a quick fuck lol thay aside tho it depends as I wouldn't be willing to be in a sexless relationship

[fatimah01]

I told my coworker that I was dating this man but he wanted sex first before anything... and I said no to him then he ghosted me. He said "you see, you should've given him sex. How would you know if his manhood work? You should've slept with him then he would've propose to you/marry you. I was so disgusted then I told him "fuck him! I won't sleep with any man that think like that. Then he said "if you continue to think like this, it's going to be hard for you to be in a serious relationship. You would remain single. I was like wtf, this guy is sick. I wanted to know if all men think like this because all my dating experience man always want sex first.

[boggboss]

If he ghosted u because he couldn't get sex all he wanted was sex that simple hun

[fatimah01]

Yep he was a fuck boy.

[Anonymous]

Depends, I like knowing a woman first, makes the sex more enjoyable. But thats me.

[anylolone]

Yes. Everything non-serious comes before anything serious.

[Tunasub]

I take sex very serious..

[dudeinohio]

many times, yes

[Pterodon]

Nope

[EstevanMadrid898]

Yes for sure

[vermiss]

lets hope so