Guys, If guy likes a girl will he always dm her?

[Anonymous]

In situations where she has reached out to him already couple times?

[Jamie05rhs]

No. There has to be a point. We won't send a message if we don't have anything specific to talk about.

[Asker]

Even if guy likes a girl?

[Asker]

I’m in a situation where he always replies if I reach out to him by replying to his stoty updates. He never misses my stories. Some of them he had viewed within minutes. He reaches out if he has really good excuse like when I’ve posted a life event.

[Jamie05rhs]

So give him more excuses. Or start the conversation yourself.

[Jamie05rhs]

Better yet, try talking to him about what you ACTUALLY want to talk to him about. Speak what's actually on your mind, instead of continuing to beat around the bush.

[Asker]

Last time when we talked I was the one who reached out by replying to his stoty. I told him on Instagram dm’s that I’m traveling to an area that had at that time wildfires he was concerned and warned me. At the same time he also offered comforting words like “it will soon go away “ . he also told me to be careful.
Aftet ai’ve come back from my trip I haven’t reached out. I’ve also noticed that he hasn’t updated his story for 2 weeks. . I don't know if he wants me to really DM him…

[Asker]

Also how can I give him more excuses?

[Jamie05rhs]

Try this:

Write him a message that says "I'm back! I survived the fires!". Or something like that.

[Asker]

If he liked me wouldn’t he reach out to me himself…?

[Jamie05rhs]

Not if he's afraid of bothering you.

[Asker]

Hmm in that situation do I have to spell out to him that he can message me 😂 ?

[Jamie05rhs]

Yep!! 😅

[Asker]

Is it common that guy doesn’t text first because he’s afraid of bothering a girl?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker Yes; it's very common. Guys have gotten ghosted and/or blocked for the randomest things. Dealing with women is like dealing with Kim Jong Un and hoping he doesn't blow up the world.

[Asker]

The girl would get the wrong idea that he doesn’t like her…

[Jamie05rhs]

That's certainly better than the alternative -- her thinking that I'm stalking her.

[Asker]

by the way this happened today.

do you think this is coincidence?

I’ve occasionally talked with hin in the DM’s. Mainly initiated by me. Today I shared a news about the area that I live in (in the eastern side of the town). Couple hours later he posted about him being in a public swimming pool in the east side where I also live lol. He lives close to the centrum of the town and there are other great public swimming pools close to his home….

[Jamie05rhs]

Not sure. I don't do manufactured posts to get attention from others. If that's what he was going for, well... Be got your attention, I guess? But I still think it's lame.

[Jamie05rhs]

"He"

[Asker]

Does it seem like he wants me to comment on his story?

[Jamie05rhs]

Maybe? I don't know.

[Fukaroo]

Depends on the guy. I would be sending messages all day back in my teens. Now I have a business that I'm passionate about so I'm not messaging much these days. Doesn't mean I don't like her.

[happyman1012]

He should if likes hers.

[Asker]

I’m in a situation where he always replies if I reach out to him by replying to his stoty updates. He never misses my stories. Some of them he had viewed within minutes.

[Asker]

I’ve dm’d him by replying to his stories and he always replied to my first text within 10 minutes. He’s kinda caring. we don’t even communicate that often. when I told him on Instagram dm’s that I’m traveling to an area that had at that time wildfires he was concerned and warned me. At the same time he also offered comforting words like “it will soon go away “ . he also told me to be careful.

[Asker]

Last time I was the one who reached to him by replying to his stories. I’ve also noticed that he hasn’t updated his story for 2 weeks. . I don't know if he wants me to really DM him…

[Wise4myage]

I sure would.

[Asker]

I’m in a situation where he always replies if I reach out to him by replying to his stoty updates. He never misses my stories. Some of them he had viewed within minutes. He reaches out if he has really good excuse like when I’ve posted a life event.

[Wise4myage]

That all sounds good to me.

[Asker]

All good? How :D?

[Asker]

Feel like we won’t talk at all if I don’t reach out to him…..

[Wise4myage]

Sorry, I misread that. Have you asked him?

[Asker]

No I haven’t

[Wise4myage]

Then consider doing that.