Why did a guy remove my leg on top of his?

[Anonymous]

We just started dating and we like each other. We were sitting beside each other and I rested my leg on top of his. Then he asked me to remove it because it's heavy. I'm not even fat. Did he not like it?

[Anonymous]

This gives the impression that he doesn’t like intimacy, whether it’s your leg over his or cuddling, he doesn’t want it. For me, there are two reasons for this. He’s either just not a touchy-feely sort of guy, or he doesn’t want to get close to you and just wants sex (Not saying you’ve done that already, but he’s probably trying to set the stage for it).

[Asker]

He's very very touchy with me

[Asker]

But not in a sexual way

[Opinion Owner]

But then there’s touching and being intimate. I’m not sure in what ways he’s touchy, but if these are actions that don’t require any kind of romance then it would make sense that he’s more comfortable doing that.

[Asker]

No we always are being intimate

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm, well I think case then it could be him trying to set boundaries. I saw in your other comments you said he doesn’t see you as a wife, so he could be trying to relay that disinterest. Which to me is kinda messed up, especially you want more.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Lockey_]

Do you mean like you rested your tigh on his?

[Asker]

Yes, I put my leg ontop of his

[Lockey_]

Sorry for the stupid question, just wanted to make sure it is as i thought.
It depends a little how your dating was progressing, if you did not seriously make out already there is a good chance that he was really turned off by this.
On the other hand, i know that in sitting position, such leg can get really heavy, especially over longer time and when you don't focus on making it light for him in certain positions.

How was his reaction when you first moved your leg over his and how long it took him to complain?

[Asker]

It took him like 3 seconds to complain lmao. No we didn't make. out yet, but we always hug and stuff

[Asker]

Why would this turn him off?

[Lockey_]

Well if he is a retard like i am, it might felt kind of "slutty" for him.
The reason (at least MY reason) is that this could feel offensive to me and when i date someone, i usually look out for "the future wife of my children" instead of just some one night stand.
So, if my date puts her leg over mine instead of letting me approach her, what goes on in my mind is that she also might do that to others and i fear that i am not hot enough to hold her,

Something like that

[Asker]

We're still young for that mindset. He doesn't see me as a future wife, but dorsnt see me either as a one night girl you see what I mean?

[Lockey_]

Totally see what you mean saying "We're still young" but also my mindset was never really different in those regards. If she did such an aggressive step, i'd probably go on and make out with her but i'd try to avoid having sex with her.
Yeah i know, this might be a totally stupid reaction that gets lots of dislikes now but it is just the way i work.

[Lockey_]

There is also a chance that he just really felt unconpfortable having your leg on his and is just wanted to relax, e. g. my best friend would be like it. He thinks first about whats good for him and then whats good for everyone else :D