Are most men attracted to pale redhead women?

[Kathryn19087]

So I’m a redhead who’s 5’9” and very thin, no super noticeable curves but I’m happy with my body. Anyway I’m a member of a very elite gym in a huge city and there are some very attractive women here but they’re usually blonds or brunettes and have tans and some have really nice curves and fit shape too. I can’t help but feel like I’m less attractive than them to the guys at the gym. But our looks aren’t super comparable given our features. A lot of me stare at me but only a few will come and start a convo. A few men there have said I’m gorgeous and have pretty hair but that’s kind of it LOL.
Anyway - would most men find a woman with my features attractive or are the tan girls with fake blond hair more attractive? 😂
im using the gym as a main example since I go there every day and also people are wearing more exposed outfits.

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Clarification: I’m not asking if ALL men find redheads attractive. But asking if men can provide insight into this in terms of preferences and what they look for/generally find attractive. If I see any comments like “some do, some don’t” or “you can’t generalize” I’m blocking you. Thanks.

[BCA6010]

Pretty much all women (and people in general) look best with their natural skin tone, neither baked or bleached. Tans look generally bad to me when it isn't a woman's natural, neutral tone in part because it looks "off," but also because tanned skin is essentially skin crying out for mercy from UV rays, and people who tan regularly and excessively tend to age horribly. Likewise though, someone who tries to lighten their skin tends to look sickly.

Hair isn't all that different in that sticking close to natural tone is generally best, and I like (natural) redheads anyway, but I think there's a lot more room for trial and error here.

In short, there's no reason you've given that would make me think you're physically unattractive.

[Kathryn19087]

Interesting perspective. Thank you. And yeah, maybe it was my confidence because I’m not very tan and have some features (ie pale and red headed) that aren’t as common. At the end of the day, I try to tell myself that the person’s opinion that matters most is yours. Then you just have to own it and be confident in what you have.

[DaveJord]

Well, I have to be honest with you. I have had 7 sexual partners throughout my life. 4 of them were real and true red headed pale skinned ladies. I would not say I have thing or fetish for red heads... but for some reason either by chance, coincidence or some genetic chemistry or something me and red heads seem to attract to each other.

Currently I am dating a 5'8 RedHead, thin, pale skined and I am pretty happy. The fact is that true and real red heads only make up about 2% of the worlds population of women. So yes, there is an allure to them and yes I think most men find sexy women sexy regardless of their hair color.

For me I have found red heads to share the same or similar passion for life that I have... and the have been pretty fiery in bed. So it more than just the red head to me.

[kyleelyn199723]

I think that depends from man to man. Not every man is attracted to the same type of woman. If that was the case, only red heads would be wifed up and in relationships- and you already know that isn’t true

[Kathryn19087]

So if I’m not in a relationship or wifed up I might not be that attractive?

[kyleelyn199723]

@kathryn19087 not necessarily but it sounds like you are trying to downplay women with opposite features of yours which doesn’t make any sense considering there’s guys that have wifed up women with opposite features of yours

[Kathryn19087]

Not really. I respect what other guys are attracted to. Tbh I see other women with similar features as mine who are attractive and some who aren’t. And same goes for opposite features as well. Hmm maybe it’s all sort of on an individual case by case basis and not just about the features. Everyone looks different.

[kyleelyn199723]

@kathryn19087 definitely is, just like a lot of women think George Clooney is attractive and I still don’t see it lol

[Kathryn19087]

Ikr! I’m with you there too girl 😂

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

I believe you overthinking the fact that I'm in a visual therefore what you think is more so visually appealing to them you're finding it hard to digest that they might actually find something else more appealing than what you might consider the norm. Perhaps you have a certain way swag aura or essence about yourself I generally sticks out more than what you think of the beautiful blonde with curves and other accentuating exposed assets. I said be more confident in yourself and taking in stride and stop worrying about things that are absolutely and consequential or insignificant when it comes to beauty or looks

[abc3643]

You NEED to meet @SarahSmithishere. She may be your long-lost sister from another mother!
https://www.girlsaskguys.com/user/sarasmithishere

Yes, many of us - me included - are.

[ReneD13]

I don't know about most men, but I'm sure some men absolutely would be. Personally based on your description having never seen you, I would lean towards I would probably find you attractive. I've always been a fan of the long and lean body type on a woman. Also personally I've always found women with a more natural look attractive, light makeup, no excess tan, etc. So the pale skin wouldn't be a problem at all for me. Hair, never really developed a preference.

[cookiecrusher]

A fit curvy women do tend to be more attractive than not so curvy fit women.
A nice golden tan also helps, then again some women look especially fine pale, depends.

You are just hanging around in a place where competition is pretty high.

Can still happen, a lot of guys would like to lose their soul to a cute redhead, so at least you have that going for you.

[Kathryn19087]

I feel like I have done a lot to embrace my look and be confident in it. And I’ll continue to do so. Self love has been my goal for this year. And so far I think it’s been radiating more. I’ve been told I look better pale than tan and kind of agree.

[Lliam]

First, I don't care for tans. I also prefer natural hair color.
So, in answer to your question, red hair might be my favorite. It's unusual and striking.
Strawberry blond is adorable, but I might like to carrot-color best of all,

[SheamusReilly]

I like natural skin tone but it’s pale it’s a super mega plus.
i don’t like tan especially fake tan at all.

For me white Redheads are at the top followed by blondes.
Red heads are indeed special

As they about redheads

Your beauty is beyond compare
With flaming locks of auburn hair
With ivory skin and eyes of emerald green
Your smile is like a breath of spring
Your voice is soft like summer rain
And I cannot compete with you

[slatyb]

You sound perfectly lovely. I hate tanning -- it leads to premature aging.

As a redhead you are a bit exotic. You might not be every man's type, but there are plenty who love your look.

[ChrisMaster69]

Varies really, dead common here.

between redheads / Gingers and blondes.

Black and brown hair tend to get more attention.

[MountAverage]

Not sure I understand. Your question is phrased as if you want broadly generalized amswers, but in your update it seems like you want individual subjective views. I don't know which way to answer.

[Kathryn19087]

Do what you want. You don’t have to play by my rules if you don’t want ;)

[MountAverage]

What? No, you misunderstood me. I'm saying I don't understand what it is you're asking us exactly? I just wanna answer your question, but I'm not sure what it really is.

[awkward_author]

A lot of people are attracted to what's not common, which would make red hair quite attractive. I, personally, prefer brunettes and dark haired individuals. I'm not sure why, though.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

If you ask me not to generalise then i would need a picture of you at least so that I can say what are my first imppressions of you and how i would feel about you

[NYlatefun]

I absolutely love natural redheads with pale skin, it's such a beautiful combination. And with your height, I'm sure you get a lot of attention, maybe more than you notice, you seem to be quite humble, not a bad thing of course.

[Jackblue]

You sound very attractive to me, guys who go to the gym a lot have a certain type.

[Kathryn19087]

Can I still be their type if I have these features and I’m also into working out a lot? I’m a pro horseback rider. So I gotta go a lot :)

[Jackblue]

Hmm well, is your hair long or short

[Kathryn19087]

Really long. A little longer than mid back.

[Jackblue]

Well you could try speaking with an Irish accent which would give yourself the exotic redhead appeal.

[Kathryn19087]

Okay I’m not about this. You’re weird.

[jasco]

I mean I wouldn't date you but i imagine their are people out their who would

[BillyBalls]

Any guy has certain preferences.

Not all the same!!!

[Cowboy6666]

Sure, if you are friendly, kind, not racist, not rude then you are my type of lady ☺

[Anonymous]

I don't know about most men but I like pale redheads who are attractive and have a good personality.

[NathanDavis]

I sure am attracted to them, yes... goddesses

[Avicenna]

You are hot and most men will be attracted to you

[boobliker]

you mean copper tops or Duracell.

[Kathryn19087]

I’ve never heard of either of those terms.

[boobliker]

there's loads out there giner, charged as most are my SO was she is now dark gray lost her charge but still easy to get her to bit