Is he interested?

[Anonymous]

I am little confused, We have talked a little and he jokes around with me a little esp on call and infront of others. We dont text a lot and i dont think he likes to. I missed his call too and i texted him but he didn't reply to it. He stares and seems a little shy around me but on call is very confident. His friends always encourage me to speak to him and even said im good looking. But he seems to be giving a little mixed signals. I don't know what to think yet

[HollyK21]

To be honest you should ask him directly. I know the thought of that is very scary, especially if you’re a shy person, but the worst he can do is say no and yeah that would suck but it won’t kill you. Then at least you’d know what going on and can act accordingly rather than investing more time if he isn’t interested. All we can really do here is speculate, but you’d still feel confused because our answers aren’t fact..

[Asker]

yesss i know what u mean but i dont think its the right time to do that, like im not going to do anything rn and see what happens. its just confusing because he was saying im funny etc and saying i can call him whenever etc so yeah I don't know lol

[HollyK21]

Hmm, well you may not feel like it’s the right time, but what would that look like for you? I do think there’s at least enough happening here to ask for clarity, and it’s not like you’re asking for commitment or a relationship lol. It just helps to know where his head is rather than trying to figure it out on your own, because unless he’s doing very blatant things, then you will only feel more confused and trying to decipher where his mind is. So you’re not wrong to wait, but the sooner you can know, the better.

[Asker]

i dont know, maybe we will talk uno cuz maybe we will see each other. i dont want to force something but i feel bad for missing his call but he couldve texted me back no?

[HollyK21]

I definitely get not wanting to force anything, that’s a no for sure lol but asking how he feels about you isn’t too much. Even simpler than that, you could ask what his intentions are for talking to you, like what is he looking for in his life right now. One thing I learned when I was ok the market was to be clear about your intentions, and his. Know what you want from a person, and be sure they want the same thing. So if he’s looking for something casual then that’s ok, but that may not align with what you want and so you can respectfully step back from that. And yeah, he could absolutely have texted you back, which I think is a thumbs down if you have to expect that in the future.

[Asker]

I don't know we texted a little but he is being very off now, very blunt, im just more confused now lol