When will a guy notice your absence after going no contact?

[Anonymous]

This guy said he was mad at me still not sure why so I think he was just being an asshole about it. We deleted each other off social media so I’m not sure if we will speak again. I heard that after some time people miss you and come back. How long is that time usually?

[OlderAndWiser]

You tried it, apparently it didn't work, you broke up, and you are not having any contact. Why do you care about what he is thinking? Was this just a pretend break-up for dramatic effect?

[Asker]

Nah we weren’t dating. It was still an unexpected fight from his end it’s like he had a problem. I was kind of waiting for him to apologize but seems he doesn’t get it’s his fault

[OlderAndWiser]

"seems he doesn’t get it’s his fault" What more do you need to know? Time to move forward.

[Jltakk]

If you are curious, ask. If you don't want to do that, then remain curious. People aren't mind readers, and to expect that from random people isn't healthy.

[knallpilz]

If you don't know why he was mad at you, ask him. People aren't mind readers.

[Asker]

Nah I asked him I just don’t agree. Makes me feel like he just wanted a fight.

[knallpilz]

Sounds like you two don't work well together.

[Asker]

I already knew that before he started that petty fight for me. But he didn’t need to be rude you know? Like it was so uncalled for

[knallpilz]

Well, it's pretty obvious that you crossed a line, but don't want to deal with it, because you can't take his boundaries seriously. And he obviously crossed a line, too, with the way he handled it.

Either both of you want to reconcile or not. Though it seems that both of you want to be pissed and wait for an apology.
But dwelling on it without being able to do anything about it is not gonna help.

[Asker]

To me it sounded like he was eager to get me out of his life. First he asked me if I was available to meet and then deletes me. When I asked him what’s wrong he goes on a rant about something I said a month ago… I don't know sounds like he found someone new and wanted to cut ties 🤷🏻‍♀️

[knallpilz]

Possible. Maybe it's both. But if he's the sensitive type, he's probably one to not speak up, when something's bothering him, but remembers, and then unloads everything at once like you should have known, even though he didn't say anything. People like that tend to feel rejected and walked over easily.
Maybe he already distanced himself emotionally from you some time before that. And met someone new.

[Asker]

Well good for him I suppose. It’s sad he deals with his problems like this

[knallpilz]

I mean, I can only guess. But that might be what happened. Though there's no way to get actual closure other than from him.

[Asker]

No thanks. I don’t trust to speak with people who delete me out of spite. I haven’t even given him much attention and he already thinks he’s the boss. Imagine how his ego would be inflated if I text him again

[knallpilz]

True. :D

[Asker]

Lol I hate people like these. Sometimes they will come back to test waters and I shoo them because it’s not fair

[UniquelyBasic]

Why do you care about some random guy online?

[In_Trance]

How often do you see each other?

[Asker]

We had coffee a few times and talked online but we didn’t really have a grounded relationship. He told me he had told me about me to his friends but I guess now he decided to give me the cold shoulder for fun 🤩