Rouge sex is a red flag?

[Anonymous]

I meet this guy a couple months ago. He has been very present: he writes me everday, planes our dates and he even have given me a present. I think we hace nivel talks and I get the sensation that he cares a lot about me.

Nevertheless, he is super rouge during sex: deep throath practices, hits and language (I like rouge sex, but he over-passed the way I practice it)

He does not have change his attention and warm, but now I don't trust him anymore, I feel he Is just nice to keep fucking me. He even said something about how idiot have been some other girls that did not fucked him well (while telling me how good I fuck him)

I decided to set boundaries (no more daily talk, we are not in a relationship) but I am exagerating?

[slatyb]

I think he should have discussed this before engaging in rough play. Did you object when he crossed your boundaries? He can't read your mind.

[Asker]

That Is true. I have asked a softer play and he respected it, but always end more rough.

[BarryLiverstone]

A red flag to what? He isn’t your boyfriend so what’s the future that you want?

[Asker]

I don't know I like him so much that I hope to have a relationship. Maybe I just let it go?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes just let it go

[Asker]

Thanks a lot 🙏

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. by the way why didn’t you have better boundaries?

[Asker]

I'm a people pleaser, so I am always "open" to try new things, then when I am uncomfortable then I think in boundaries

[BarryLiverstone]

So you know you can improve then

[Asker]

Well said

[BarryLiverstone]

Thank you

[Kristog]

In my Opinion, You have to be both open an comfortable in what you do. Boundaries have to be set that can't be broken. It only work if you both trust each other and are comfortable at where your at...

[TheLastRhodesian]

62% of women have fantasies about rape and other forced sex acts

[Anonymous]

Rough sex is NOT a value that I hold.
Keep it gentle and loving

[Steve-ram]

Hmmm why you don't try to tell him that?

[MisterGuyDude]

Sex is a primal act and most women like it rough.

[Wise4myage]

Not necessarily.