How do I respond to my boyfriend saying I should gain weight?

[Anonymous]

TN while we were cuddling, he randomly said I wish u were like 200lbs. I didn't know what to do or say so I just stared at him. Then he said just gain like 60 lbs and you'll be heavy enough. I'm just under 5ft and currently110lbs, so I told him I'd be extremely overweight if I were to gain that much. His response was just yeah you'd be supper chunky bc your short

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This was also after we went to the gym together, and a while after that conversation he asked if I'd want to go with him again bc he had fun with me there... I think it was just him thinking out loud and not actually being serious, but the topic has come up before.

[ohshee]

Well you have to really think about this you have to be careful when guys say that to you it usually means that the guy doesn't have confidence within himself is the first time that he's had a girlfriend and he's afraid that he's going to lose you so he wants you to gain weight so no other guy wants to look at you or be with you that's really kind of a sad situation if that's the case you need to do what you need to do to stay healthy for you do not ever let a guy tell you what to do because where the guy does it there's an alternative motive do you need to be happy so you need to take care of yourself the way you want to take care of yourself and he's going to have to deal with his insecurities

[DarkWinterNights]

Going from 110 to 200lbs at under 5 foot would be like doubling your size, width wise. That would be very unhealthy. He either has a obesity fetish or is insecure and doesn’t want you attracting other men.


Either way it’s very selfish and disrespectful. You need to shut that down quickly.

[slatyb]

You tell him that you aren't going to do that and if that's what he wants, he should go get it. It won't be hard to find. Sometimes this comes from insecurity -- a man doesn't want his girlfriend to look attractive to others for fear she will get a better offer. in my opinion you should go look for one.

[Anonymous]

I'm kind of an a**hole so I'd probably would respond, "you should probably add 6 more inches to your d*ck, you know so I can actually feel you. Or better yet you could just do us both a favor and not concern yourself with my weight!

[TheReturnOfTheK1ng]

He wants to fatten her up to lower her attractiveness level.

[normalice]

"Bring me tacos"?

[normalice]

Do a lot of other men look at you at the gym? It could just be that he wants them to stop looking at you.

[Asker]

I noticed a couple but my boyfriend is way bigger (muscular) than them so

[normalice]

That doesn't necissarily mean anything. Being bigger than someone is often worse than being the same size because everyone expects you to dominate easily so there is a pressure to perform - that is if you don't dominate easily you are perceived as that much less, so you are well aware you gain nothing by winning a fight but lose much by losing one.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Wtf 😂

[In_Trance]

Tell him to suck it