We are supposed to meet today half 8 pm. He hasn’t sent me confirmation text yet. It’s almost 2 pm where I live?

[Anonymous]

Last time when we texted was on Sunday when we set the date. Should I shoot him a text or wait for his text. He already rescheduled our first date.

[DermalPunch]

Meh. Don't text him. Don't follow up. He's only lukewarm.

[Lara98]

You make time for what’s important. And in case you actually get caught up, it’s human decency to drop a text. Drop it and take a back seat, you’ll know if he really wants to see you.

[Asker]

So I should text him and ask him if we’re on?

[Lara98]

Yes just wait and if he doesn’t text, you already have your answer

[Asker]

We agreed that we see each other other in the evening 7.30 pm. Till when should I wait for his confirmation text?

[Lara98]

What was your last conversation with him? And when was it?

[Asker]

It was on Sunday and he basically confirmed our date plans by saying “ done deal :) ✅ “

[spartan55]

So why do you need to confirm again?

[Lara98]

Did you end up meeting?

[Asker]

Yes.

[Lara98]

That’s great! He reached out?

[Asker]

Yeah eventually. Our coffee date lasted an hour. I don't know if it was short or good lenght….

[spartan55]

All that worrying and overthinking... smh...

[Asker]

@spartan55 but we were there forvan hour. Good or bad?

[spartan55]

Well that depends. You can't measure the success of a date by how long it lasted. That's ridiculous.

[Staximus]

Don't deal with wishy washy bullshit and poor communication. Ask him if you are still going out tonight so you don't get dressed up and ready for nothing

[Asker]

Isn’t it desperate if I ask him that? Or I should just move on…

[Staximus]

What is so desperate about just saying "hey, are we still going out tonight?" I don't see why so many young people are such poor communicators these days. It's not desperate, it's called good communication.

[Asker]

Well the coffee thing was his idea…

[Staximus]

It sounds like you just want to wait and see if he flakes out or keeps his commitments. Maybe it's a good test to see if he's bullshit or not. I would have already told a girl "see you tonight at 8" or "are we still on for tonight?" or at least something by that time. I guess just wait and see, don't get your hopes up with these poor communicators. If he doesn't contact you, the hell with him

[Asker]

So I should wait and see if he texts me?

[Staximus]

It seems like that's what you want to do, right? If he doesn't contact you tonight or makes excuses again, just tell him you don't have time for any more of his wishy washy bullshit. The guy needs to be a man and stick to his commitments.

[Asker]

We agreed that we see each other other in the evening 7.30 pm. Till when should I wait for his confirmation text?

[Staximus]

That's up to you, how patient are you? I can't speak for every guy because I am an excessive communicator like my father was haha. If you're going to meet at 730, I'd say if you haven't heard from him by 530 then he's probably flaking out or an inconsiderate idiot

[Asker]

You’re right