A man who I love said he loved me but all he says is be my slut - I'm very confused because to me this is degrading and means he doesn't love me?

[Anonymous]

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Guys thank you so much for replying!

It's the first question i ever posted, and l love the website and concept! Men and women are just different.. and it's a pleasure of life to get to understand the opposite sex

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me like you aren't sexually compatible.

This is either going to work for you both or it isn't and if it isn't then best to move on sooner rather than later.

Next time have a conversation and find out if you are into the same things before you invest your feelings.

[Asker]

Arg i really hate this but thank you...

[Anonymous]

I met a woman some years back. After I got to know her, I discovered that she wanted to be called all of those things in the bedroom (I didn't go there). But I tend to see such desires as a sign of some underlying issues. Some men will tell you that it's just his way of being dominant or claiming you sexually as only his, but I think it runs deeper than that. I'm sure it is possible to show desire, dominance and sexual appetite without degrading your partner. I also agree that a lot of this has been made popular by porn. Porn has been designed to reprogram people into seeing the abnormal as normal.

[yunaa]

Depending on the guy he can mean it in a degrading way. Which doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He might just be expressing that he wants to dominate and love you. I don't know if that's even more confusing.

Some guys do use "slut" in a good way like they are calling you sexy and they want to have sex with you. I. e "use you like a slut".

[crossdressingrihno]

He might just be dumb.
In some places or groups calling your girlfriend your bitch is rather common. It's not really used in a derogatory fashion and actually is a form of effection.

He may come from that background or just picked it up from someone of that kind of background

[Asker]

Thanks for the reply 😊
Yeah I get that, it was kind of endearing maybe but mostly serious and sexual, basically he’s very possessive and dominant I guess… but also very aggressive, it was just crushing me tbh

[crossdressingrihno]

Are you okay with it?

[crossdressingrihno]

If not you can try to see if he'll tone it down

[Asker]

He’s not dumb though

[crossdressingrihno]

Or maybe it'll become your kink I don't know

[crossdressingrihno]

Well Best of luck

[Asker]

Honestly I don’t know But thanks haha

[Guy13]

If she said that I need you for Dick’s ability to perform and love you (“it”). Yep, that would bother me with the right girl. I guess that’s similar. Not certain if he loves you like you love him?🤷🏻‍♂️

[spartan55]

So he blatantly disrespects you, and you are 'confused'...🤦

[crossdressingrihno]

In at least some biker gangs they call their women bitches. This is affectionate of course and has to do with the culture.

[spartan55]

I thought it was 'old lady' in biker clubs.

[crossdressingrihno]

Have you never heard the term "riding bitch" it refers to sitting on the back of the motor cycle while someone else drives

[crossdressingrihno]

Apparently the term riding bitch has multiple definitions

[spartan55]

Yeah, heard that. In this case I feel like the term isn't a term of endearment, but I could be wrong.

[Baylayy]

By he loved you he meant he loves your body and wants to only have sex. Don't let anyone treat you like a toy

[Asker]

he was the one who wanted a relashionship and not just sex, maybe this guy is crazy i dont know

[normalice]

He wants the idea that you crave his dick to turn you on as much as it turns him on

[Asker]

funny thing is I was craving his dick lol

[Anonymous]

Hard to say really. I love my girlfriend and she's my slut.

[Anonymous]

that's fucked up. i've never once called the person i love my significant other a slut or any other disrespectful terms or names

[Intothevoid666]

I always am most attracted to sluts like for a relationship not just sex so I don't know

[Asker]

OKay :D

[boobliker]

ask him what he want of you but it's only a name

[Asker]

I asked him he wants me to be his slut, do exactly as he says when he says it and make Daddy cum (intimate details sorry lol)

[boobliker]

intimate is ok, but do you have a problem with being his slut. you could ask for the same on yourself, I am a slut for pussy myself. thanks and enjoy your life as we only get it once...

[jahaims]

He probably wants a dom sub relationship

[Asker]

Yes... but somehow the way he approaches it completely blocks me.. you need to feel loved still in this kind of dynamics

[Noodle_fan]

he watch too much porn

[Asker]

maybe yes :D

[Anonymous]

It's not degrading. He can love you

[RuthlessAggression]

it means he doesn't love you

[JohnK123]

Well that should be a turn off maybe

[MikeInHawaii]

Nope!