Fuckboy changing or not?

[Anonymous]

The good looking guy who loves when women chase him and sleep with him as soon as the 2nd date. Can such a guy change if a girl he finds very attractive refuses to chase him and sleep with him?

[DaveJord]

Probably not honestly, we all like what we like... and if women had expectations that do not involve sex right away. Well he is not likely to change his expectations to have sex either.

What you are really asking here is that if you find a known "fuck boy" attractive is he likely to be so impressed by you that he would change his ways just for the chance to date and be with you. The answer is probably not.

I would not call myself a fuck boy, but by the 3rd to 5th date she is not willing to have sex with me I am moving on, because I know I have a lot to offer the right women... and she must not be the right women form me if she thinks she is worth all that.

I for one will neve get into a committed relationship with a women before sex happens. I have to know if we are compatible and if she is worth that level of commitment. I am not putting out all that time and energy only find out later that we don't sync in bed.

So I would be considering other women by the 5th date, and if there was nobody else that pops up... maybe I would wait longer but only until I found someone else that is more in sync with my needs and wants.

[spartan55]

For the 50 millionth time: he is not interested, he will never be interested, seek counseling.

[HollyK21]

That is not him changing, that is just thrill of the chase. When the thrill is gone, it’s because she never have what he wanted so he got tired of trying and moved on, or for what he wanted and moved on. Regardless— he’s not sticking around if it is not his desire to invest in that woman. What really changes a fuckboy is his WILL and DESIRE to change himself for the right woman. This woman won’t have to play any games or adjust anything about her character to make him desire her — he just will.

[QuietVerbena]

Extremely unlikely. He’ll change just long enough to fuck her, then go back to his old ways.

[Asker]

From the very beginning, he's always been acting "cool". He took nearly 2 days to reply to me when I asked him if he was free. Thats when he asked me out on a date. The first time I texted him to send my number, he replied several hours later.

He always does this with me. He acts like he doesn't care, plays hard to get and "cool" but on the contrary gets upset if I dont chase him or text him, starts getting passive aggressive if I dont ask him out and has also gotten b0ners just on checking me out (he stares at me a lot)

Why does he do this?

[QuietVerbena]

Wants to bang you

[Asker]

I know but its been 10 months and he's still around. I ve also noticed that when we dont see each other for a long time, he stares at me a lot when we finally do see each other and has a fond look on his face. Once i saw him after 3 weeks and he heard my voice and quickly turned around and kept watching me. Similar thing happened last week when i saw him after a month and he kept watching me.

[Asker]

He still has my number saved though he never texts me and we dont talk via texts

[Guy13]

Never…