If a guy says “I do care about you even if you don’t see it”?

[Anonymous]

Is he just trying to be nice and get me to go away? Since he doesn’t want me.. is he just saying that bc I joked about unaliving myself

[melanieeeB]

My first thought was "Omg gaslighting" but honestly I don't know the context, I don't know him, I don't know you ... no clue what he is talking about.
But if you don't feel cared for, listen to your gut feeling and do what's best for yourself

[Asker]

He thought it was best if we stopped talking and friendzoned me. We were going to be casual partners but he felt I was vulnerable and didn’t want to hurt me

I fell into a deep depression bc I just didn’t want to let him go but maybe it was healthy. I was so angry I told him that I wished he was dead and that I hope he fry’s bc he’s a firefighter ( don’t judge I was just hurt)

he said that he would never say those things to me and I told him that I wish he would.. (referring to wanting to be dead) he just replied take care.

[Asker]

We did talk on and off and we were friends. We were also too busy to have sex and we were going through a lot. So we were like kind of there for each other in a less sentimental way

[melanieeeB]

Oh well in that context, he doesn't love you, he doesn't want to be with you and instead of playing games he was honest and took a distance to you. That is really great from him and that's taking care of your feelings and respecting you as a friend.

You only see that he didn't wanted you and you're hurt and blaming him, that's what he meant with "even if you don't see it".

[melanieeeB]

Be thankfully that he did the most honorable thing and let him go! Move on and don't contact him.
You will meet someone, who will want you back.

[melanieeeB]

Oh I take back the most honorable thing haha he did sleep with you tho but he left you go and didn't keep playing games

[Asker]

No we didn’t sleep together. And thnx

[Asker]

He wouldn’t have cared if I did something to myself so that’s that

[Asker]

Even tho he didn’t sleep with me he’s not a honorable guy. Fuck him and fuck you. Thanks again

[melanieeeB]

He still cared enough to distance or even stop the contact and that was right of him to do.

[Asker]

Right , give him flowers 👏👏

[melanieeeB]

Oh you should probably also seek professional help, you don't seem so stable by just a rejection and going to hope that he and well me, a stranger, die is pretty concerning

[Asker]

What are you talking about. I never wished death on you.

He’s a firefighter so I did wish it on him. I hope he fried but I don’t mean it

[Asker]

And this was more than a rejection. It’s super complicated

[spartan55]

Oh, now it was a joke? You are unbelievable.

[Asker]

I turned it into a joke to lighten up the darkness I was feeling. He likes the show the office and I quoted something from them

[Anonymous]

maybe he really does care about you

[Asker]

Care doesn’t leave