Why is it creepy when a guy is shy but cute when a girl is shy?

[Anonymous]

[misogynistic_pig]

McDaniel argues that a major concern about shyness arises at a time when it is seen as a barrier to the emotional work required to achieve intimacy in heterosexual relationships for both genders.

Shyness in women and children has traditionally been seen as endearing and "pretty," with men receiving more social stigma for being shy.

[Asker]

I'm quiet. But I don't think people think I'm cute because of it... I don't know I have a baby face. Tbh I don't know what people think

[misogynistic_pig]

Media portrayals of shy male characters focus on the barriers this represents to success at work and in personal relationships, where shyness in romantic situations implies a tragic "failure" to assert one's masculinity.

[Asker]

I'm female

[misogynistic_pig]

Shyness shows up as a "feminine" trait on Bem's Sex Role Inventory, along with moodiness, gullibility, sweetness, compassion, and unpredictability.

[Asker]

I'm not moody or gullible.

[misogynistic_pig]

Being "mentally healthy" generally implies masculine rather than feminine traits.

[Asker]

I have feminine traits.

[Asker]

I don't have anything masculine in this sexy body ✌️

[misogynistic_pig]

Therefore, the fact that shyness is a female trait would explain why shyness has been seen as an undesirable attribute, particularly in men.

[Asker]

Good thing I'm a woman

[misogynistic_pig]

In addition to mainstream culture, the relatively underground network of men's websites also acknowledges this phenomenon, only more to the point:

Shyness and sensitivity have been found to be highly desired traits among Shanghai schoolchildren in a study.

[Asker]

Dude ur a pedo!

[misogynistic_pig]

The "shy" and "sensitive" children turned out to be the most sought after as friends.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I am quite shy I logically don't care what moron who I realistically never met think about me. Basically if I don't know a person personally or if they just going to try and antagonize me I immediately walk away and leave the conversation.

[Chazmatazz269]

Interesting observation. I’ve never really considered it like that. I’ll almost certainly be back with more thorough thoughts.

[Berethor]

Creepy? you mean unmanly? google nerds are virgins trope and you would understand.

[Asker]

You look like a nerd

[Jeklfux]

Girls are supposed to be cute and shy. Guys lack confidence when they're shy

[Asker]

How does me not talking equal cute?

[Jeklfux]

Well I guess it depends on the way you do it you might you know smile or turn your head or girls can be how should I say cute without even trying to be cute and shy it's just a girl thing I'm sure you know what what I'm talking about I mean guy see females in a different way than girls see guys when it comes to being shy

[Asker]

I usually just have a neutral serious face 😐

[boobliker]

Is it creepy? I have never seen it that way

[BJP21]

I would have thought the opposite.

[Steve-ram]

Male and female energy that's it

[disgustingweebtrash]

Its only creepy when he's ugly