What does this mean by a guy?

[Iam_Norah]

What does it mean if a guy says to you that he thought of you couple times? Does this mean he thinks about me? Does it mean only two times he thought of me?

[MrCommodore]

If a guy says that, it means you're his last thought at night and first thought in the morning... Its love.

[Iam_Norah]

What makes you say that?

[MrCommodore]

I'm a straight man, I'd never say such a thing to a girl I'm not dating unless I liked her and wanted to date her.

[Iam_Norah]

I had a dream about him and I told him he thinks of me quit a lot that’s why I’m dream of him and he then responded saying that he thought of me couple of times…I know it probably doesn’t mean much but I still wanted to know if he thinks of me

[MrCommodore]

Actually it means more than you think, there must be something between you both.
I don't know a guy who would tell a girl he was thinking about her, and a girl who reveals she dreamed about him.

I think you should make moves to spend more time with him, there is probably something there.

[Iam_Norah]

So that’s what he meant when he said that?…we hadn’t spoken in a while so I texted him…and he responded within minutes…I told him I had a dream about him and he wanted to know what was the dream about…I said to him, that he thinks about me way too much that’s why I keep seeing him in my dreams lol He then responded to me saying…”Yeah, I thought about you couple times”
So I was wondering if it means more than once or only once? Obviously it’s hard to tell since now we haven’t spoken in a while but I still wonder if he thinks about me.

[MrCommodore]

Him saying that he thought about you a couple of times is basically a modest way of saying that your on his mind a lot. Just be careful though, like read his behaviour and body language just to be sure.

[Iam_Norah]

Your sure about this?

[MrCommodore]

I think so, obviously I'm only hearing a tiny tidbit of your interactions and basing my opinion on that. If there are other behaviours that make you have doubts, then it could be different.

[Iam_Norah]

I seen him drive by my house sometime

[MrCommodore]

Is driving by your house a necessary thing for him or would he have done that on purpose?
I'm assuming heis a normal down to earth guy, like hopefully not strange or stalkers by driving by your house.

[Iam_Norah]

We’ve known each other for couple years. He used to live where I lived. I live in a apartment. He used to live here too but now he moved somewhere else…but I’ve seen him pass by…one time I texted him and he even told me that he stopped by my house

[MrCommodore]

Ok that definitely sounds like he really likes you, as in he may have a crush on you. He is thinking about you, he is driving by your apartment perhaps thinking of visiting you, but deciding last minute not to.

I'd be confident he likes you, but just be cautious and make sure it's healthy and he isn't secretly obsessed in an unhealthy way.

[Iam_Norah]

Yeah, he told me he stopped by but he works at the time and I was at work too. I think he probably stopped by from he’s lunch break

[MrCommodore]

Oh ok, well that explains it. The fact you are wondering about what he said suggests that you like him, make a move.

[Iam_Norah]

I do like him…BUT😔 I don’t think he cares no more…😭😭

[MrCommodore]

Why do you think he no longer cares?

[Iam_Norah]

I don’t know…one day one I texted him he never responded and I never texted him either…it’s been months now since we have spoken…

[MrCommodore]

When you textd him, did you close your message with a question? If not, he may have thought you were looking to close the conversation.

I had a similar experience about 1 year ago.

[Iam_Norah]

We were planning on meeting up the weekend so I texted him saying just “hey” but no response he usually response with in seconds or no more then 5 minutes. He response pretty quickly but this time Nothing just SILENCE…and so from that day I never reached out and he never did either. So now it’s been months and I’m still wondering what happened? I saw him back in June he passed by my house with a different car. I’m assuming it was a rental. We both looked at each other at the same time it was crazy…the. He quickly drove off and I’ve never seen him since then.😔

[MrCommodore]

What if he lost his phone that day and missed your message?

[Iam_Norah]

Why do you think that?

[MrCommodore]

Well why else would he just abruptly nor respond to you? If you both didn't fall out or have any reason to become estranged, then I don't see any other reason.

[Iam_Norah]

I know I’m confused too

[MrCommodore]

Just drop him a text/WhatsApp to say hi and happy new year. If he doesn't respond, at least then you can be sure something is up. If he does respond, it might finally prompt something positive to happen.

[Iam_Norah]

Yeah, I thought about it but honestly I kind of feel like it’s another women or maybe he realized we’re not a good fit for each other I guess🤷‍♀️

[MrCommodore]

Maybe, but it still might be worth knowing for certain.
Did you both live together, like share an apartment? Or did he just live nearby?
Also did you actually date before or hookup or anything?

[Iam_Norah]

All tell everything but what do you mean hookup? Like your saying sex?

[MrCommodore]

No, I'm not looking for specific details of what you both did together, I was simply trying to understand the nature of your relationship, like was it platonic or did you kiss or was it more serious. No more detail than that.

It would be unusual for platonic friend to not reply like that, I just wondered if maybe you had been more than friends.

[Iam_Norah]

Okay, so long story short…I met him in my apartment complex he worked here as a worker and he also lived in the same complex as me that’s how I met him. When we first met he immediately started flirting with me and soon he asked for my number.
The first two times he asked I didn’t give him my number, because at the time I had a little situation I was dealing with. So he told me whenever I was ready I could give him my number. Anyways months later I saw him as I was leaving for work so I Finally gave him my number…BUT when I gaved him my number he didn’t seem to care that much, like he took a week to even text me and that’s only because he seen that I got kinda mad that he wasn’t texting or calling. When he did we talked for a little bit and he told me to save his number and he also asked for a picture…Now here we are 1 year later, he no longer lives here. So one day I decided to text him, it was around this time January last year. When I texted him, honestly I didn’t think he was going to respond to me but he did, he responded within 5 minutes. We talked for like 5 or 6 hours through texting, we send each other picture and he told me I still love so beautiful.
The next morning when I woke up he send me a good morning text. And so from that day we kept on talking mostly ever morning.
But one day I decided to end because I felt like he wasn’t very serious. There were some red flags 🚩 and I kept feeling like I wasn’t the only women he was talking to, that he was probably entertaining other women as well. So one day when he texted I told him is better we go our separate ways and all he said was “ok” through text. He didn’t even as why or anything he just went along with it.

[MrCommodore]

Oh ok, that explains things in a slightly different light, I suspect your gut feeling was correct. Based on the information you shared he was likely seeing, chatting to or hooking up with other women. Otherwise he would have been more engaged in both conversations and also chasing you a little bit.

[Iam_Norah]

Yeah couple months later I went back to him and we started talking again…we met up and then a week later he was gone

[MrCommodore]

Yeah it sounds like he had other girls on the side too.

[Iam_Norah]

Yeah I guess

[MrCommodore]

Sorry I wasn't trying to be hurtful or be a dickhead, it just sounds like he was playing the field.

[Guy13]

It usually means it is at the forefront of his mind.

[Iam_Norah]

What that means?

[Guy13]

It means he is interested in you. It is usually a good thing if you are concerned about whether he likes you or not.

[Iam_Norah]

But what does it mean to think about someone couple times? Do they mean often?

[Guy13]

Yes. I would assume often.

[Iam_Norah]

So that’s what he meant when he said that?…we hadn’t spoken in a while so I texted him…and he responded within minutes…I told him I had a dream about him and he wanted to know what was the dream about…I said to him, that he thinks about me way too much that’s why I keep seeing him in my dreams lol He then responded to me saying…”Yeah, I thought about you couple times”
So I was wondering if it means more than once or only once? Obviously it’s hard to tell since now we haven’t spoken in a while but I still wonder if he thinks about me.

[Iam_Norah]

Mhmm 🤔 you think so?

[bowenw]

It doesn't sound very enthusiastic to me or that it happens often.

[Iam_Norah]

Why you say that?

[bowenw]

The way he said it makes it sound like he doesn’t think of you often. It would have sounded better if he said he’d been thinking of you a lot.

[Iam_Norah]

Well, it went like this…I told him how I’ve been having dreams about him lol 😂 and I said that he probably thinks of me too much that’s why I’m dreaming about him. And he replied saying…Yeah, I thought about you couple of times…. so now you get it?

[Iam_Norah]

So that’s what he meant when he said that?…we hadn’t spoken in a while so I texted him…and he responded within minutes…I told him I had a dream about him and he wanted to know what was the dream about…I said to him, that he thinks about me way too much that’s why I keep seeing him in my dreams lol He then responded to me saying…”Yeah, I thought about you couple times”
So I was wondering if it means more than once or only once? Obviously it’s hard to tell since now we haven’t spoken in a while but I still wonder if he thinks about me.

[bowenw]

He said a couple of times which usually means 2 or 3. I think you should text him again to see if he says more about thinking of you.

[spartan55]

It means relax.. good lord.

[Iam_Norah]

Lol don’t be mean I’m just curious 😂