What does this mean coming from a guy?

[Anonymous]

Guy was demonstrating something and initially he was using my index finger bc that was all that was needed.. but then he subtly and softly placed his hand on top of mine while using my index finger.

is that nothing, sexual attraction or…?

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn’t you mention that he was helping with pottery? Of course that’s how he touched your hands, especially in a gentle way, come on. As for looking at you, you’ve got to be looking at him quite a bit to notice him looking at you unless you’ve got eyes in other places. He’s probably noticing you looking at him so often. Not trying to burst your bubble here it just sounds like nothing. At least on his end.

[Asker]

No bc while I’m working on the wheel I’m looking up and sometimes staring into space. But as soon as I look over it look up he is looking. Or when he walks pass me or soon as I walk in the room. It’s numerous glances. I know the difference

If I walk towards the sink then he comes over. He’s where I’m at

His actions is subtle bc he’s professional but until your in my shoes you’ll see what I’m talking about

And he was just grabbing my finger then all of a sudden he placed his hand on mine while still instructing my finger

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure there was a time or two you’ve caught him looking but I feel confident a lot of it was you, and that’s nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. Also, this is pottery. People will go as far as to say is a romantic bonding hobby for couples because of gentle touches as you mentions. But his actions were not intended to be romantic or flirty, but I get the impression you’re going to keep disagreeing with anyone who says otherwise because “we weren’t in your shoes to see what you’re talking about”. Are looking for co-signs, or genuine responses?

[Asker]

No, I just know for a fact. I truly paid him no attention until I started noticing that he was doing a bit more.

[Opinion Owner]

I won’t argue it with you. Aside from the glances or whatever, I genuinely feel like he was being professional. If you disagree then that’s fine but then it’s silly to have posted this if you’re only looking for yes answers...

[Asker]

I think you’re taking this a lot more serious than I am. Lol I was looking for different opinions not “yes” answers. You gave your opinion and I agree with it. I just think the energy between us was different.

It’s not a big deal. He started talking to someone now so he kind of avoids me anyway now

[Opinion Owner]

Just because I said I don’t want to argue doesn’t mean I’m taking anything “serious”. Maybe saying I don’t want to argue with an lol at the end would’ve relayed it differently but surely you know that with written message the emotion behind it doesn’t always interpret as it should, especially with strangers. Anyway, my only incentive for saying it in the first place is you seem to be negating what I say, but if you’re in agreement then cool. I’m not sure if there’s feelings on your end and you’re looking for signs of mutual interest but this just may not be the best indicator.

[Asker]

Then why is her avoiding me now that he’s talking to someone? Shouldn’t the energy stay the same if it were nothing? Just a thought

[Opinion Owner]

To avoid you he’d have to be focusing his attention and time specifically on you. In a class of several other people based around something like pottery that requires his attention and assistance (especially for any beginners), it’s hard for me to believe his time is centered around attending to you. You put a lot of emphasis and description when describing just the mere touch of your hand and fingers, which gives the impression that you blow up things in your mind. All this combined, I don’t think he’s avoiding you.

[Asker]

It’s one thing to say you don’t agree but it’s another thing to kind of make me feel like I’m making this up or that I’m blowing things up. It’s not true and I’m not at all that type of person

[Opinion Owner]

You don’t have to agree with my perception of how you’re approaching this situation, but that’s what it looks like. People in pottery get over sexualized so often, TikTok (if you use it) is a great example. So much focus and intention goes into creating this art, and it could often be perceived as intimate, which is why you see it in movies like “ghost”. Your teacher helped you with precision, but you made it more on your own accord. If that’s offensive to hear then you’re being too sensitive.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m in no way shape or form saying you’re some weird obsessive woman, so there’s no need to get offended. All I’m saying is that you seem to be overthinking this specific situation and interaction.

[Asker]

But it’s not a specific situation. There’s numerous things and it’s his whole energy but okay. I will let it go

If he likes me he will say it himself

[Opinion Owner]

When i say specific situation, I simply mean your class and whatever happens within it. If you have feelings for him then maybe it would’ve been worth putting it there and asking him to do something, for his social media or etc. But I guess that opportunity isn’t on the table if he’s seeing someone. Maybe there will be a chance in the future.

[Asker]

Yeah, I let it go now. I just wanted to know if there was “something” then I could reach out in the future

[Opinion Owner]

Who knows when or if the opportunity to make a move will happen in the future but if it does, I think you should act on your own feelings since you can be certain of those, rather than the ones you’re trying to decipher on his end, if that makes sense.

[Asker]

Yeah, thanks

[In_Trance]

Stop posting this you troll

[Asker]

I think I posted it to early and recieved no answers so I was giving it another shot.

[bananathunder]

gonna need more details than that lol

[Asker]

Like? He was helping me with a ceramic pottery.

[bananathunder]

could be nothing then

[Asker]

But it felt like it was a little more but okay

[bananathunder]

I don't know... sounds like he was showing you how to do something. Did anything else happen?

[Asker]

He does look at me a lot. Not in a uncomfortable way but just always shooting glances at me no matter where I’m at. If he’s helping others he’s looking over, across the room, passing or soon as I walk through the door

He’s a friendly person and he smiles a lot. He smiles at me when looking

When he was helping others out he kept looking then he came up to me and said “I finally get to come to you. How are you?

There’s been things here and there. He stands close whenever he helps but not in a sexual way at all.

Maybe it’s not nothing. Maybe he’s just being nice

[bananathunder]

at the very least, he's not a creep. If you are interested in him, you should give him a hint and see how he acts

[Asker]

No he’s not a creep at all. He’s cool. Trust me I’ve met creeps

Maybe he’s just being nice. I’m sure he probably does this to others

[Asker]

So you don’t think that showed interest?