If a guy is hot & cold what does it mean?

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Or in other words, nice/angel one day and soon turns into the opposite

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is a narcissist that does this. If not, then he has bipolar disorder.
This could potentially be manipulation and gaslighting too, which is what narcissist and sociopaths do.

A lot of cheating Attractive men do this too, to get you hooked where your mind is latched onto them. Like fishing 🎣, they show they care, then they pull away. And it goes back and forth. Also, men who are insecure, they know that they ain’t worth the time, and they ain’t actually all that.

You’ll notice some of the other guys don’t have that behavior. I’ve had a great F-W-B who never ever, EVER ,, did this insane BULL💩 to me. And that just woke me up to how narcissistic and sociopathic some men really are. Men that are overexposed to XXX, and overexposed to EASY S—X. Tend to do this. Men that had a single parent Mom. Men that had no father. So just look out.

They want you to put them in a pedestal that they don’t deserve, and the more he’s on your mind, he’s on a pedestal.

The best way to treat this and show them that they can’t F-K with you and your emotions, is to NOT REACT. Don’t have any reaction, be indifferent. Act like he did nothing to you. Example: he starts acting like he hates you and all quiet, you just turn the other way and talk to someone else Female or Male, you call up a friend or parent. He wants to remove love and attention from you, you do the exact same and give it to someone else immediately. Act like you have hundreds of friends to call up on. Go out to a movie with someone else. Go get your nails done. Go for a walk , just create some space. Later on, you can say, are you Bipolar or some-sh💩? Just to show them how weird and unusual that behavior is. But NEVER look like you’re upset. “Look like” and “have the expression” of you having a blast and loving everyone. 😃😄😁 That nothing affects you whatsoever. That you are a light that can’t be shut off.

But my BEST ADVICE is to find someone who won’t do this to you. They’re countless hot attractive hunks, who’ll never do mind games, and remove love and attention from you to keep you latched on. There are countless people who came from 2-parent homes who’ll NEVER leave you on “Read” and sick BULL💩 like that. Trust me, I’m talking from experience. You’ll never ever ever ever see that “read” sign and not get a response ever. He’ll respond within a day. ❤️ ok?

BE SUSPICIOUS, STAY SUSPICIOUS.

Helllo123 · Accepted Answer

It means you should date other men and move on from him. You do not want to deal with someone who behaves that way. Its immature and it shows he's unstable for a relationship.

crossdressingrihno · Accepted Answer

It’s called being mentally ill. Bipolar, depression, anxiety, things like that will cause it and whatever it is, you do not want to be around that person trust me some of them are incredibly dangerous they make up some of the most horrendous murder cases sometimes

FilmGuy93 · Accepted Answer

It means you should run for your life. People like that are emotionally unstable and will only cause problems for you.

VanillaSalt · Answer

It refers to someone that has interest and then doesn’t show interest. So like he’s talking to you all day for days then stops talking for a while usually because you did or said something they didn’t like.

It’s similar to a woman denying a man sex in a relationship for unwanted behavior except the man’s denying attention. It’s very unhealthy on both sides. Women need to feel loved or it hurts them mentally. You shouldn’t deny your partner this feeling of being important but I also feel this goes for women and sex too… If your partner desires you and you just push him away frequently… Lack of sex messes with a man’s mind.

SphynxUK · Answer

It’s not hot and cold. That’s something else. What you are describing is someone with mood swings, or who is trying to play down their aggression unsuccessfully.

LadyKitty · Answer

It can depend. Though if you met a guy that behaves this way, don't even pursue them. They might not be emotionally stable or they might be the controlling type.

Anonymous · Answer

He’s bipolar or 2) he doesn’t like you that much. Example: freezing and defrosting food. You do that too much time and it goes bad and you can’t eat it anymore. What I’m trying to say, is if he really valued you, he wouldn’t risk the relationship turning sour

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It means your playing with the bathtub nozzle, not his dick!

kinggeorge007 · Answer

As another comment said, it's not what hot & cold mean. The common hot & cold is natural at the beginning of a relationship. But if he turns completely opposite of being nice/angle, that could be anything closer to a mental problem.

EmmaMary · Answer

If you really want to be with a Jekyll and Hyde then that's up to you... Personally I would have moved on long ago.

Vikkrram · Answer

Everything is fine between you and him and yet he behaves like that?

spartan55 · Answer

It means you aren't the center of his universe. Who is 'a guy' anyway?

CubsterShura · Answer

It means he belongs in the landfill. Dump him.

Smoothing · Answer

People who are hot and cold are a red flag. It doesn't matter whether they are male or female.

six_pax · Answer

He wants to keep u hooked. These are tactics. U should stay away from people who use scum tactics like that.

JPresidente · Answer

Means he's probably on meds and has behavioral issues, maybe depression or anxiety.

Anonymous · Answer

My ex was like this and yes it's a sign of gaslighting and and manipulation

Anonymous · Answer

Usually that she's hot and cold. Women create the rules and men usually dance to those rules.

ginsbergjen710 · Answer

He is unsure about his feelings for you or there is someone else who he is picking between you or her.

In_Trance · Answer

It means you're being hot and cold and he's giving it back to you

Summeroflove · Answer

It means he’s probably bipolar

liburnia · Answer

Yes, it could be a sort of manipulation

HappyWoman34 · Answer

He doesn’t know what he wants.

douride2 · Answer

in my opinion it means move on.

Agape93 · Answer

He's manipulating you

KnewHOUSE · Answer

Bipolar mind set maybe that's a mental disorder

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Can’t make up his mind

fknsht · Answer

He isn't serious. Speaking from experience

Minahh · Answer

It is manipulation. Run

Joker_ · Answer

it means he's not reliable

Anonymous · Answer

It’s really a gurl trans

hypojoe · Answer

Bipolar

Anonymous · Answer

Get rid of his ass he full of drama

Anonymous · Answer

Male menopause?

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