Is it usually a bad thing when a guy says “ you’re not what I expected?

[Hawaiikai]

[DemonTime]

To be honest it's to vague to answer correctly as I read your question all I could assume is he felt like he got catfished you know how women use filters to enhance their looks, or the women who don't have naturally long hair so they use a wig to make up for that and when they take it off the guy is saying in his mind dam I fucked up, or when a women is a 4 with make-up one a 7 he never seen her with out it so when he finally sees her natural look he is disappointed the reason why men cheat, make sense?

[Guy13]

Usually, that's a disappointment in some way statement. Tone, pitch, and nonverbal expression is everything in this one.

[Hawaiikai]

We were hanging out. Kept saying it at least three times. He said one of his friends called to hang out but he said he wanted to hang with me instead. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[Guy13]

That sounds like a transition from Bro into Girl of interest. If you are attractive and a "Bro" personality and chill personality then that's like Wifey material...

[Hawaiikai]

He did say how cool and chill I am like more than 4 times.

[Guy13]

If the KiisssssS is good then this sounds like a keeper... ki

[Hawaiikai]

Hahah right

[Blackcupcake]

sounds like it could go both ways…


for example, @NathanDavis is not what I expected because he came across as sassy when I first met him…

[Blackcupcake]

[NathanDavis]

how an earth could I ever be sassy?

[Blackcupcake]

lmfao… it was back in the days where you never behaved…

[NathanDavis]

never did such... lol

[Blackcupcake]

mhmmm… don’t make go fishing for evidence now!

[AydenHazor]

That's vague enough that it is situational. It's highly dependent on the context as to whether that is a good thing or a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily, you need to as for an explanation.

[Passing_by]

Depends on the tone but usually, yes.