So of late my guy friend has been more chatty via text (he usually is a man of very few words) and its been great that he’s opened up butttt I find that sometimes he would mention things and when I try to comment more on them he bypasses the topic. Or when he asks me a question and I answer it he reads it and rolls past it w/ no comment.
Like sometimes he opens up about his family (like long paragraphs opening up) and if I comment on it he says nothing or if later on I try to follow up he ignores it and finds a whole new topic.
All in all it’s hard to have a convo w/ him because the convos randomly die and get revived all by his own navigation…. what gives?
Does being an introvert have anything to do w/ this?
Like sometimes he opens up about his family (like long paragraphs opening up) and if I comment on it he says nothing or if later on I try to follow up he ignores it and finds a whole new topic.
All in all it’s hard to have a convo w/ him because the convos randomly die and get revived all by his own navigation…. what gives?
Does being an introvert have anything to do w/ this?
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Maybe he’s just trying to vent and wants you to listen , without feeding too much into it? I would just reply back and say I am here to listen or something along the lies. Maybe some questions are pushed beyond what he wants to talk about. I’m an introverted myself and I do not ignore questions
Hmmm.. I mean it doesn’t seem like a vent. It’s rough because he writes like he is frustrated at times and if I don’t say anything it would come off as insensitive based on the nature of what was said.
The questions are as basic as “and how was your day”
“And how are your boys doing”
“Hows your mom”
“Hows your sister”
“How were the holidays”
Mind you I ask these after he’s asked such questions to me….
I have so many examples of this weird conversation dance
@asker pretty odd tbh maybe he’s hiding some details about his family. Time will tell
Sounds about right…it’s odd to me because I open up when he asks but then he clams up when I ask…time will tell indeed…thanks @kylee2437
Maybe don't have those conversations via text...
That’s all we have aside from email unfortunately.
So this is online only?
We used to work together and when we moved from departments we kept in touch via email and text
So, why can't you see him IRL?
We are both parents, he is raising 2 special needs children and I a teenager. And we live on the opposite sides of the city. When the kids were younger we did get together for a playdate but as they are older he has expressed difficulty with his oldest…. for now…the time isn’t there
I don't see what the point is then, but to each their own.
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