There's this guy who I used to message for 6 months last year. I was attracted to him and he was attracted to me, but didn't want a relationship, despite us having this sort of relationship thing going on. We would text each other, usually til ewelt in the morning. Once up til 5 am. We never went out on a date, but he did cancel on me, twice. We did go rock climbing once and sat down and talked last summer for like 30 minutes before we were interrupted. We mostly conversated via messaging. We ended up having relations, once, but that's something I don't like to talk about.
We've been following each other for over 6 months and he's only liked 2 of my posts out of how freaking many? But he does view my stories. He's like pretty much every single recent post she's posted since last year. She doesn't post as much as I do. She posts about things she does, like events and trips, etc. My content is fashion, selfies, a few with friends etc.
She has told me that it seemed like he was attracted to her sometime in the past, although he knows she has a boyfriend. We haven't contacted each other since what happened between us privately. It's been 2 months.
What could be the reason why a guy would do such a thing? And why does he only view my stories?
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You two have a different history than him and your friend, so he may not be liking your pics as to not give the wrong impression. I don't know about you but if a guy goes through and likes all my content I would assume he is interested and trying to get my attention. Your friend probably had the same intuition which is why she mentioned him having feelings previously.
What kind of impression does he not want to be giving? And besides, she has a boyfriend and made that clear to him. Months back when she invited him to have a drink with her and her friends, she was intoxicated and blurted out to him that I was in love with him. She said his reaction was that he figured. But others, including my friend, have said that he was attracted to me.
He doesn’t want to reopen that door to “dating” (I put it in quotes bc I don't know what level the relationship was) or deal with you in a romantic way. If you had strong feelings for him at that time, then you likely still have some form of them and he knows it. As for your friend being in a relationship, even if it matters to her it doesn’t mean he cares. Men can be ruthless when they really want someone, treating boyfriends like obstacles to surpass or something. Sorry, I know it’s a little annoying and potentially hurtful that he’s making moves towards your friend without any regard for you. But I think that just showcases a lot of his character and it’s very trifling.
So you're saying that the reasons why he likes all of her posts and only liked two of mine as just views my stories is because he doesn't really like me or is attracted to me and just wanted relations?
When I did invited him over, I thought that we were just friends and gonna talk. But he started making moves after a while, and one thing led to another. He did sais that he liked me, though, although he didn't want a serious relationship.
I don’t want to correlate his actions towards you vs her, because I don’t think one has anything to do with the other. He likes all her things for whatever reason or motive he has. Then with you, he knows how you feel and doesn’t want to suggest you two start up again or anything of that nature by liking all of your things.
Well, since I met him, he's only ever liked two of my posts, but continues to like hers. Even after what happened, he only views my stories, but liked a recent pic of her and her boyfriend.
Honestly he probably does that with many people, but you noticed it specifically towards your friend and now it’s bothering you. My advice? Stop yourself from checking in on him. He’s not a good guy, and the more you still allow him to have some sort of attachment to your emotions you will never get over him. This attention to your friend just isn’t worth thinking about.
He is a good guy, I know it. But it's his actions towards others. He really is a good person at heart. Just been through some things.
Being a good person and being a good boyfriend are two very different things.
I know. It's just hard losing feelings for him, for a second time. It's harder this time though, bc the feelings are stronger. Thank you for responding. I appreciate your feedback.
I’m sorry I know it’s hard, but the sooner you accept the situation the sooner you can heal and move on. You can do much better!
He either was scarred of sex. Scared of you too because of sex. Or, he sees you as female Bestie
He's had relations before, with his ex, before he dumped her because she cheated on him. I don't know how many times before or with who, but he wasn't scared.