Why would a guy be possessive over a woman he doesn’t know? What do that mean?

[Anonymous]

Why would a guy be possessive over a woman he doesn’t know? We’ve never talked but so possessive when I’m around other guys.

I won’t say “he doesn’t know me” but not on a personal level.

Why? He gives guy I’m conversating with a stern look

or maybe he’s just a player

[DizzyDesii]

Someone i used to like would do this when i stopped hanging around him. We liked eachother but i found out he secretly had a girlfriend, fiance at that, but failed to ever mention her. So i randomly stopped hanging around him and started hanging with someone else. This new guy would the one walking me to all my classes instead and boy did it make the other guy give us the evil eye. One day in another class, he nearly attacked this other classmate who was assigned to work in a group with us. He randomly started telling the guy facts about me which i found weird because i had never told him these things (birthday and all). The guy told him to chill with the possessiveness and he looked embarrassed and reached over and hugged me and said we’re just really close. I was honestly frozen in shock in that moment. So yea your guy could be a player but even if he isn't, that look he gives is a sign of jealousy

[Asker]

O wowww 🫣 your dude was overboard. What ended up happening?

I did actually find out that he was talking to someone … they were in the dating stage but they were not exclusive yet. I low key think he was not sure but after I lurked some… she was head over heels for him… she posted him a lot on her page and he never posted her so I thought he was single until I saw his “tagged” .. she had him tagged in everything on insta.

But when they became exclusive he kind of stopped being low key flirty.. he was still nice.

I remember dressing up and he avoided being around me and didn’t look at me so I thought maybe he really didn’t like me I don't know

[Asker]

But we don’t know eachother well. Just see eachother around

[DizzyDesii]

What ended up happening— He still never mentioned he had a fiance. But one day she transferred to my school and randomly confronted me about his emails to me and that i stopped responding to him. She tried to rub the engagement in my face yet she encouraged me to keep talking to him. It was really weird as if they were swingers or something. I continued not talking to him. Months later their engagement ends. she's cheated on him and has gotten knocked up by some random after she forced him to wait til marriage all those years they were together lmao. He starts doing drugs and has the nerve to try to ask me out. I walked away. At least your guy was just nice and not flirting while taken. This one was absolutely flirting throughout

[Asker]

Oh wow, okay. Yeah they prop were swingers or something. They were odd

Yeah, maybe he was just being nice idk… I thought the jealousy actually meant that he was low key interested. I still don’t know if he was a player or if he was just flirting for fun? I was left very confused… he was also a bit nosy when I was on the phone talking to a guy

[DizzyDesii]

I think he's interested

[Asker]

I think he flirted with a friend of mine but she was in a relationship

[DizzyDesii]

Oh then thats a red flag if he's going for taken women, especially your friends

[Asker]

Tbh I just think it was attraction. I don’t think any lines were crossed. She just said he has “flirt energy” … but I think she secretly likes him and I regret telling her that I felt like he flirted with me bc I don't know if they’re cordial friends or not

She follows him but he doesn’t follow her back

So idk…

[Asker]

*on instagram

[Asker]

Also we are classmates in college so he didn’t really know we were friends

[DizzyDesii]

Try to get closer to him and see if he pushes forward or pulls back

[Asker]

I wore a sundress. I usually dress down but it was my bday so I looked nice. He acted the total opposite. He wasn’t really looking and he wasn’t really around so I took that as rejection

[DizzyDesii]

Did he know it was your bday? I don't know he's giving mixed signals whether intentional or not

[Asker]

No he didn’t know

I don’t know him well.

[Asker]

Maybe rejection?

[DizzyDesii]

You just need to make a move and get a clear answer because im not sure anymore

[Asker]

Well he’s in a relationship now and they seem pretty happy so maybe it was rejection. He kind of stopped flirting once they were starting to become exclusive.

[Asker]

I also felt like he would be happier with her so I just kind of distanced myself.

She’s like the whole package. She’s hot ect… I don’t blame him for choosing her.

[nawtee_me]

Run and hide... If he is possessive of you then he will always feel like he owns you like you should do whatever he wants and you have no say in it. Run and hide... quickly...