To say something or not?

Question

So I’m pretty sure it’s over with the guy I’ve been seeing.
The last few months, I feel like we’ve been getting a lot closer when we meet.
The chemistry is unreal. Even others notice it when they see us together.
But when he’s not with me, he’s getting more and more distance.
I tried to bring it up to him and yesterday when he told me he’s busy this weekend; I expressed my concerns - I basically said “ok no worries have fun (with his plans), but you do wana see me right? Cz I’ve been feeling the distance and we can talk about that if it’s something”

He didn’t reply.

And we were like mid convo.

So obvs that’s my answer.

But I can’t help the urge to send something like “guess that’s my answer” or even to tell him that he could’ve just spoke to me. Or whatever.
It’s not usually my style, maybe it’s just because I want to engage and I want him to engage? Which would be a bad idea right?

Am I just going to hurt myself further if I say something AGAIN?

Please, any advice on what to do now.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

You are not going to "hurt" yourself by asking for a resolution of your question but you may receive an answer that ends the relationship. It does not "hurt" you to end a relationship with a guy who is not committed to you, but I sense that the breakup will be traumatic for you.

Possibilities are that there is another girl but you may never get an answer to your question about why things have changed. Young people can be quite insistent that they want answers but experience teaches you that answers are not always provided, you can't force people to candidly answer your questions, and sometimes you just need to accept that it's over and move on.

This guy may be avoiding the break up talk and you may need to force the issue. But don't do this by text unless he absolutely refuses to respond to phone calls. You will get more info if you actually talk instead of text.