Gay guy scans my body?

[Ofoceansbeaches]

For context, im a female close friend. He did admit he had relationships that were female in the past but he leans on the other side now.

The concern I have is he frequently scans my body whenever we meet looking at boobs section. I notice it multiple times. Although he does mention im like his younger sister but when he does this, it feels weird.

Anyone can figure out what scanning of the body means if he is gay and not into that? One time he also mentioned to me he likes big boobs and he was referring to the person we saw who had one.

He is openly admiring guys and had sexual activities with them so I'm not sure how to take this.

[artemisiaa]

This definitely sounds a bit off. Maybe he is actually bisexual? Maybe he only said he was gay to get closer to you? Maybe he still has interest and curiosity into some of the female parts? Honestly not sure, maybe try openly confronting him about it and if he actively denies it then he is trying to hide something. Or he will admit why he does that. If he denies it, then have a discussion with another close friends until you feel all talked out as usually once you started talking about something, you realise there is a lot more needed to be talked about.

[Ofoceansbeaches]

Well he did say he was a bit confused but ever since he said he likes males. I took it as that he is really gay. But yes he suddenly surprises me when he does this

[Ofoceansbeaches]

Someone tried confronting him about it but he just outright said he didn't do it lol

[artemisiaa]

I say talk it out with another friend or family member. It helps a lot because you often pick at things and realise stuff you did not think about before as being a bit strange. Once you gather all of your 'evidence' on any strange happenings, confront him.

[artemisiaa]

Definitely trying to hide something

[Anonymous]

I have the same problem.. my male friend is the same and will do ither weird stuff but he is bi ish and leans to feminine men. Just ignore it and make clear boundaries with him if it makes you uncomfortble

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO

[Lionman95]

From what you describe I´m not sure if he´s gay. I´d rather consider him bisexual because if he scans your body he´s taking a closer look and that seems strange to me if we talk about a guy. Especially the description "he leans on the other side now" make it look to me he was attracted to women in the past and is now having experiences with guys.

[BarryLiverstone]

I’m not sure he’s entirely gay. Boobs catch the eyes. But does he look away?

[Ofoceansbeaches]

It doesn't look like it's conscious. I catch him looking at my upper body area around four or five times now. Then one time he looked at my boobs and thigh area when i wore a dress so i was a bit suspicious

[BarryLiverstone]

I mean you said that he’s a close friend. Do you ever look at him? It may depend on what you wear

[Ofoceansbeaches]

The only time I did was when he said to check whether a suit fits him

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ok. I can see why he would ask

[BarryLiverstone]

Is this the same friend you have asked other questions about?

[RyanK9b]

Pseudo gay. U can feel it if is a gay look or hetero look.
He's attracted to your body.

[Wise4myage]

He's not gay.