Do you think a guy/man following lots of women and girl is a red flag?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend doesn't do that, I'm just wondering. And I mean not necessarily women they're friends with, also celebs and other types of females

[Bklynbadboy12]

See this right here is where girls misunderstand men's behavior so you think a man that follows a lot of women is a red flag. Why do you think that do you want him to follow a bunch of guys. That doesn't make you a bad person. I follow a lot of women on here. I'm successful I'm not a womanizer when I'm in a relationship I don't cheat or disrespect my relationship or the woman I'm in the relationship with. Get to know a person don't let your insecurities take over and you judge a person before you get to know them. Ok!

[Asker]

Following women without knowing them*

[Bklynbadboy12]

Thanks for the MHO

[Z1pTD]

Depends why they're following. If they're friends or people he just sees a lot, dw ab it. If it's some random person who never talks to him, bigggggg red flag

[Asker]

It's usually random women they just find attractive tho

[Z1pTD]

Yeah that's a flag lol

[red-lipstick-girl]

yes I think

[BryanMoore]

I mean, it depends on how he interacts with them/that content? cos if he follows lots of celebs, male and female, then fine, but if he is only seeking out women then I'd be thinking there's something going on there.

But if he's just looking, (because people are attractive!) there's not necessarily any harm?

[Asker]

Well if they're those almost porn instagram models I think it's pretty bad for a healthy sex life and also their relationship if they have one

[BryanMoore]

maybe, but not always!

[Asker]

I disagree but okay

[motownplayer2000]

I think most people who are super active on social media is a red flag.. and what I mean by active.. posting a lot, sliding into DMs, following a bunch of people, always complaining about not having enough followers.. any of this individually or a combination of those is a pretty big red flag.

[Lionman95]

Yes it could be a redflag since it might be a sign that he's looking for external validation. A guy that follows many women might be not interested in a monogamous relationship.

[Finchie40]

If he is in a relationship then yes , if he is single then No

[Asker]

I agree kinda?

[Finchie40]

A guy that loves his girl isn’t going to do anything to jeopardize his relationship with her , when a guy only likes a girl and isn’t really into her and he just likes the convenience of her ,, will keep his options opened and gets off on checking out other girls’ and flirting with other girls , A single guy keeps all his options opened period , When I commit to a girl she is the only girl I want to be with , I tend to get blind to other girls if she treats me with love and respect and prioritizes me so I do the same for her , I do my best to keep fire from entering our relationship by distancing myself from other girls’ as much as possible out of respect hoping she does the same for me , Most relationships tend to have insecurities and jealousy occur when a partner suspects their partner is up to something , or assumes they are being up to no good , so out of respect for each other it’s best to distance yourself from opposite sex people as much as possible , even though you know you aren’t cheating on your partner , your partner might feel otherwise if they see you investing time into an opposite sex person , Or you see your partner watching porn and checking out opposite sex people, If you truly loved your partner , you wouldn’t need that shit in your life. It has nothing to do with trust, it comes down to respect for each other , What you don’t want your partner doing to you , has to be the same for you as well , it can’t be one sided or that relationship will not last

[Asker]

I agree with the relationship part but "keeping your options open as a single guy" ehh who says you got a chance?

[Finchie40]

Plenty of fish on the sea girl , and plenty of girls out there that just want fucked with no strings attached , Plenty of married girls and girls that are already in relationships that like to cheat as well So being single means you have no one to answer to , you can just do what you want to do , You can do what you want to do in a relationship as well but if you want your relationship to survive you are best to follow boundaries , Being single you have no boundaries

[MJtheCoach]

You’re 19 I don’t understand why you have a boyfriend at your age.. is it gonna destroy your later on in life as you didn’t have time enough to grow.. and there’s a very high likely chance you’ll break up with him.

[Asker]

I was together w/ him since we were 16, it's fine. Also he doesn't do this

[MJtheCoach]

If you stick with your high school sweetheart, then yeah, but if you jump off branches to branches, to branches then no..

[Asker]

I don't tho he's my first love

[andreasderjuengere]

''Following'' in general is a red flag to me.

It indicates a person having difficulties to run an offline life... :)

[Asker]

We're living in a social media era tho

[andreasderjuengere]

I'm aware of it. But I blame no one to not have seen better things - heh heh.
Apparently, I use soc/med as well... but the little buttons to click here and there won't influence my way of feeling.
And to express my feelings (which can be complex) it's utterly insufficient to just...
''like'', ''share'', ''follow'' or ''subscribe'' :D

[Christoff92]

It would make sense if I knew them. Personally would try to fellow both men and women especially in GAG. I don't bother with IG. Not even FB.

[Asker]

Yeah but random IG models and shit

[Christoff92]

Every guy has a dream to be with a model or IG influencer.

[Asker]

Bruh and it's never gonna happen

[BigDog1989]

Would you be ok if he was?

I mean, would you make him unfollow them all?

[Asker]

Yeah it's a big no for me

[Asker]

He could choose to unfollow them if he wants to stay with me

[BigDog1989]

Right, that says "control freak" to me

[Asker]

So? :)

[BigDog1989]

Just sayin'

Men don't want control freaks

[Asker]

Idc what men want. I care that my boyfriend isn't a weirdo that follows lots of female influencers, and if he wants to, he can find someone who accepts that or stay single.

[ronaldo75]

Yes, it's totally a red flag. How many orbiters do you have on social media? Tell the truth.

[Asker]

I'm sorry I speak dutch so I don't know what orbiters means and I only find space related stuff on google

[ronaldo75]

Orbiters are men on social media and in real life that would like an opportunity to get into a relationship with you if you gave them the chance.

[Asker]

I had a lot in real life and social media. But I deleted all of my social media except facebook and don't come in contact with them anymore so often so I actually don't know.

[ronaldo75]

Ok so you still have them. That means you and your boyfriend still hold options against each other.

[Asker]

No? I'm gone from highschool I opened a new chapter now

[ronaldo75]

New Chapter? Hahahahahahaha Young girls really live in novels.

[Asker]

It's a saying where I live :(

[LunarEclipse433]

I follow a lot of women just because I like to chat and find out their interests

[Asker]

You don't find them all a potential mate?

[LunarEclipse433]

99.99999% aren't interested in me due to my age

[Asker]

Don't you have a wife?

[LunarEclipse433]

Nope. girlfriend (more like a room mate).

[bananathunder]

probably... if you want to have something serious, he might not be all in

[BLP11520]

I fit that profile and I don’t bother women

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Guys don't like guys Instagram

[Asker]

Yeah but you follow your friends right? Why follow random women

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

I agree with you but i think visually it looks more appealing to guys That's the main reason they follow female content creator

[Asker]

It's bad in a relationship tho

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

I know and i tell everyone to avoid ig in the first place as it's basically a dating app , if you wanna use ig so on make it private and add only friends and family

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

But as a guy only a few guys profile like Cristiano Ronaldo like that , larger than life guys profile interested us and on other girls profile look more appealing (from guys eyes) and random girls influencers send requests to follow and they unfollow as soon as u lol i felt for it now i unfollow them all because then everything think I'm following them like fan 🤣

[Asker]

My boyfriend follows car accounts too and memes, there doesn't need to be a human in the pictures tbh. That's why I don't get it. There's lots of account to follow that aren't female influencers or those weird scammy accounts with a half naked woman as profile pic and 3 followers

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Cars, luxury watches ⌚>>>>>>>over everything my Pinterest is full of them I agree 100 percent I will choose that over any model , actress , influencers so on (male/female combinated)

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

These half naked girls they sent follow requests and unfollow after some time then others think we follow them but it's not i unfollow and cancel their request from some time now

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Some even dm and chat with me after somedays they will unfollow i think it's their strategy to increase followers

[Asker]

Usually they sent a weird scammy link tho.

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Yes that too and Under 100 k followers girls send guninune dm and reply then as soon as you follow them within 10 days they will unfollow

[Asker]

That's why you should only follow ladies you know irl

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Yup 👍

[Yellovv]

I don't know you should answer that.

[Joker_]

could be

[jimmy2]

Yes STDs are bad mow

[Asker]

What