We’re the messages flirty?

[Countrygirlxx]

I just borrowed my partners phone and found out he was messaging his ex on telegram.
he says the messages were innocent and just friendly but he deleted them all before he passed me his phone.
would you delete messages even if they were just friendly?
He says he knew he shouldn’t have been texting her.
I’m so confused.. any insight would be much appreciated.

[_Maya_]

Well the fact that he deleted them before giving the phone to you tells me he didn't want you to see them obviously. If they were just friendly then what would be the issue? I could hand my phone to my girl and let her rifle through whatever she wants and wouldn't have a care in the world. She would never ask to do that but I don't have anything to hide. The thing that I keep thinking about is how did he even know you would look at them? To me he was being better safe than sorry and getting rid of something he didn't want you to find.

[Countrygirlxx]

Thanks for your answer. This is what my gut is telling me. I just thought everything was amazing! We have been together for 5 years, totally happy, I’ve never had a reason not to trust him 😔

[_Maya_]

I wonder why is he talking to an ex anyhow? I tend to leave that crap in the past. Nothing good comes of dredging up past loves or relationships.

[Countrygirlxx]

He said she just popped up on telegram and started talking, so he was being polite!🤦🏼‍♀️ they have been talking for two weeks, he’s been sending her videos of him at work and he’d put up 5 profile photos of himself.. He was online all night Friday from 12 till 2.30 am. It just seems so suss:(
I’m so sad. I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t respect me.

[_Maya_]

Damn girl. That is totally suspicious now that you mention all that other stuff. Fuck...

[BoopBoopBeep]

All my texts are on my phone. Not that you'd be allowed to just go through them randomly, because that's an invasion of privacy, but one doens't try to conceal something if there's nothing there to conceal, or at least the appearance of it.

How did you "just find out?"

[boobliker]

do nothing or leave him, be aware of it for next time if you stay.

[In_Trance]

You borrowed his phone... yea ok

You then proceeded to search his phone... yea ok

Then you interpret a conversation that's none of your business as a threat to your relationship with him without having any actual context... yea ok


You're the problem here. Toxic femininity at it's finest

[Countrygirlxx]

I borrowed his phone to use ‘where’s my iPhone’ as if lost mine, he was buy deleting stuff before he handed it to me, when I opened safari, it was on a google search of ‘ what happens when I delete telegram’ I’d never heard of telegram and asked what it was.. he said it was for business then looked shift and told me the truth on my request.
Your response was very judgmental and unhelpful.

[Countrygirlxx]

Typo central!

[Iron_Man]

Red flag