What has he invited me out as? Help please?

[Anonymous]

My friend *Mark* said he has a spare free ticket to use at the movies and he wants to spend it on the two of us seeing a movie. We’d previously been on dates, but I was pretty sure he wasn’t feeling the chemistry, just like I wasn’t, because he wouldn’t kiss me by date 3; and I realised that I was relieved that he wouldn’t. I just couldn’t for the life of me feel a spark. Not even a small spark. So we became good friends instead. I’m not paranoid, but I often ask questions because I’m autistic and I have trouble correctly interpreting social cues. Is he asking me as a friend, or is he coming onto me? He did say months ago that he’d been too scared to make a move. I really don’t want to lead him on. Even more, I don’t want to feel him kissing me. He’s good looking and sweet and lovely. Nothing wrong with him. I just can’t feel a spark at all.

[eagle1951]

you never know when that spark might come

[Asker]

Well I’ve known him for 4 months and it isn’t there. I can’t fake it and I’ve tried, but it’s not there. He’s too nice and he’s just.. too.. too.

[Asker]

I don’t know why I don’t feel it.. I just can’t

[eagle1951]

been there and i was surprise when all at once we clicked

[Asker]

Nope. I can’t fake something that isn’t there. So what does he want? I noticed he’s friends with my other friends and didn’t invite my friend Naomi.

[Asker]

Is he hitting on me? Or asking me as friends?

[Asker]

Should I go or not if I’m one hundred percent certain there’s nothing there. I’ve never felt such indifference. To a cute guy before.

[eagle1951]

i think he's going to hit on you

[eagle1951]

go what heck if nothing else its a free movie

[Asker]

It’s not leading him on? I thought I was good at reading interest or lack of interest in people. But I don’t know now..

[eagle1951]

well as much as i've been around it's sometime hard to read people

[Asker]

True. Yes, I’m worried about ruining a good friendship and hurting his feelings. My autism is mild, so I’m not completely clueless, but I often get confused by other people’s behaviour

[eagle1951]

well just see where it goes, dress casually unless you want to see if he's really interested.

[Asker]

I really don’t want to see. I don’t want to date a guy that’s scared to go after what he wants. I also don’t want to date a man who doesn’t interest me at all.

[eagle1951]

well its up to you hun

[Asker]

Yeah, true. Thanks for your advice xo

[eagle1951]

anytime. i may not always be right but i have been around the block a time or too lol x0x0x0x0

[Asker]

I’m not always right either. I just try my best to help and others are free to accept or discard whatever I think.

[eagle1951]

yep thats the way to do it hun

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

He likes u i think