How to stop guys thinking im easy?

[Monalisa77]

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I never initate anything first

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The last time i tried it, i yelled at them and it backfired. I dont wanna do that again 😂

[TheSpaceGnome]

Some guys think all women are easy if they try hard enough. I have no idea why they think that, but they do 🤷🏻

[AviatorTom]

Why do you think they think that? Are you attractive and wear revealing clothes?

[Monalisa77]

No none of this, its just guys flirt with me and they expect a reaction, its cos i look weak and im vulnerable that they think id just give into them if they flutter their eyes at me

[Archferret]

when they do, just tell them you're already taken

[Monalisa77]

I dont want to lie

[BigDog1989]

well, you can't make them think anything, but, are ya easy? i mean, are you giving it up relatively easily

[Monalisa77]

No, he stares but i dont look back

[KC-Sunbeam]

Make it clear that you won't have sex until marriage.

[Monalisa77]

Yeh thats not gonna happen, I've never done it be4 n im not gonna marry someone without knowing if i would like it

[KC-Sunbeam]

So, if you try it & don't like it, you're never going to get married? Marriage is so so much more than sex. Sex is only a small part of even the most sexiest marriages.

[Monalisa77]

Yeh if i dont like being close with them i won't wanna b with them, i know but not all guys will think that

[Monalisa77]

But if i dont like it at all then i prob won't get married no, unless i find someone who is ok with never doing it

[jahaims]

Don't exhibit behavior that girls that are easy show.

[Monalisa77]

Well its not like i go out seeking looking for blokes im just me and who i am i am trying to improve things

[Blueeyes81]

What makes you think that guys think you are easy?

[Monalisa77]

It seems they think they can get a shag out of me just cos im vulnerable

[Blueeyes81]

Guys will try to screw any women they find attractive. A lot of dudes play the numbers game. Come on to as many females as they can with the hope that one sleeps with them. It's not you or anything you are doing.

[Monalisa77]

he's a dr and a footballer, he's wasting his time with me if thats all he wants sure he could find someone else

[Monalisa77]

people who know him seem to think he's a genuinely nice guy, it would come to a shock to them if this is his game

[David6668]

You should try it find out what works for you...

[David6668]

Add some details what you have did?

[exitseven]

Stop giving it up on the first dates

[Monalisa77]

Never been on one😂

[normalice]

Only sleep with attractive men.

[Monalisa77]

How s that gonna help

[normalice]

Girls who completely ignore the male pecking order are the ones who are considered easy, I think. Sleeping only with attractive men indicates you have standards than men can understand, and thus easy is no longer an accurate description.

[Monalisa77]

Well i seem to only like attractive men even tho i need a personality too if that helps😂

[normalice]

Indeed, but men can't see each other's personalities so selecting based on that is going to appear random and thus without standards.

[Anonymous]

Don't lead them on the wrong way

[Monalisa77]

I dont

[OddBeMe]

Why do they think that?

[Monalisa77]

They just start flirting n expect me to react😂

[OddBeMe]

And the idea of “easy” comes from where?

[Monalisa77]

Cos they don't make an effort with me they just flirt

[OddBeMe]

That should be a good thing. Effortless communication is a good thing. You shouldn’t be hard to get just to talk. Lol

[Monalisa77]

ye i need more from a guy than just flirting, it just makes it seem obvious they only want a shag n nothing more

[OddBeMe]

Wait…wait…there are steps. How does your imagination see this go?

A guy, perhaps you know/work with/or stranger at a bar walks up and compliments…you talk, he flirts…. that’s how it starts.

[Monalisa77]

Yeh that doesn't happen to me, i dont have much experience. All i know is i go by from whst i read and what other people tell me

[Monalisa77]

The guy atm, I've known for a while, we'd talked before. Which is y i find it odd y hed just start flirting

[OddBeMe]

That can be an issue. I’d just say meet people when you can and get more comfortable with it. Even if the guy is not your type, just get experience talking to him and other guys.

[Monalisa77]

Yeh thats where im at atm , seeing whats out there, its funny i can talk to his friend no problem even tho he was good looking but i guess i knew he had a girlfriend so i had no need to b nervous 😂

[OddBeMe]

That’s progress! I’m telling you, talk to guys like it doesn’t matter. Maybe take a year off from dating and just start meeting guys. Even they consider it a date. You’re emotionally off the hook and you’ll get better at talking to the opposite sex.

I spent my entire HS career not dating but being in the friend zone with a dozen girls. Learned A LOT

[Monalisa77]

I've never been on a date this is the issue, if i wait another year ill be nearly 37 😂 even if i go out with this guy i might not even like him that much or it will fizzle out.

[OddBeMe]

Firstly stop timing everything. Stop thinking too much about women spinsters because men out that in your head to force you to marry as early as possible.

Second, my advice still stands. Stop thinking about dating or sex as the objective. Just start knowing how to talk to guys without shitting yourself. Lol

That was my problem too. Ironically now that I’m married I get flirted with by gals all the time. There’s a weight that’s off me so I’m more comfortable. That’s what you need to find.

[Monalisa77]

😂Covid wasted 3 years off my life, i dont know how long i will live for and i fear my body could end up paying for it the longer i wait😂plus my imagination is seriously insane that it causes me to be distracted when i shouldn't be. I've never been near a guy at all so i dont think wanting one date is too much to ask for. I've had 35 years to prepare 😂

Im trying not to get too into it cos i dont even know if he's single yet

[OddBeMe]

Yeah I’ve spoken to several introverts and singles who say that. As if it wasn’t tough enough to meet people.

[Luckycharms12]

Stop sleeping with them would be key

[Monalisa77]

I've never even been on a frigging date😂😂😂😂

[DWornock]

Stop being an easy lay.

[Anonymous]

Unless you're easy why do you care.

[Danny_dan92]

To not be easy

[Monalisa77]

? Unfortunately my health isn't going to get better

[Danny_dan92]

I don’t get it. You’re gonna die soon or something?

[Monalisa77]

can't see myself living post 50s, no

[Danny_dan92]

Cancer? HIV? Diabetes?

[Monalisa77]

None, i just need a lot of help n my parents won't b around forever

[Danny_dan92]

Ah… ok.

[Monalisa77]

Hence y I've been trying so hard to get a decent life but health just gets worse, its 1 thing after another, currently 2am n i can't sleep

[Danny_dan92]

Questions you need to ask yourself.

Are you in shape? Do you eat good/healthy food? Why aren’t you sleeping well?

[Monalisa77]

Im ill atm, i think i look like i could b in a good shape but im not v fi6, i eat a mixture but drink a lot of coke which isn't good

[Danny_dan92]

That’s why. Stop drinking coke

[Monalisa77]

ik, i struggle with water am v sensitive. Did cut down 1 a day tho, need to start taking vitamin s too

[Danny_dan92]

I’m beginning to see why you are so unhealthy. It’s because of your habits.

So don’t feel too bad, you clearly are aware of what is detrimental to your health. You CAN get out of this hole you’re in. What you have to do is ask yourself how badly you want too

[Monalisa77]

Well i dont think my dizziness atm is anything I've done and our fam have been going thro some shit times in the last few years, covid didn't help either. I've really tried making friends but people just dont want to make the effort