Would do you think about a girl who doesn't settle for a bare minimum effort from a guy?

[Anonymous]

[RavVid]

I certainly see the male role in a relationship as a job. I don't know but I tend to think most guys probably do. Take the garbage out, mow the lawn, unblock the toilet - the heavier or unpleasant tasks in addition to earning a good income. I would regard that as my base effort.

I see the female role as being a job too. The exact division depends on circumstances but it might be cooking and cleaning or earning a good income too.

I have seen a girl on a youtube channel, that I find amusing, outline that she wanted a man that earn't 7 digits plus , who would cook because she couldn't, who would clean because she didn't like to and she wanted him to provide the household income.

So it really comes down to what each is bringing to the household. A couple is a more cost efficient unit than two individual singles. The girl might earn as much as I and with equal effort in paid work it is reasonable to split domestic tasks equally. I would be happy to do more than my base effort.

If the girl was like the one I mentioned, who wanted every thing to be done for her and only brought getting ever fatter from indolence to the household table (yes she was fat) than no she doesn't get me as a servant.

That's the crux. If the girl just wants a servant, it won't be me.

[Asker]

Bare minimum= one call or text in several months.
All talk no action. Where it's about only his convenience
Where in return he is getting consistency, honesty, and emotional reciprocity.

There is no involvement in finance or household chores. It's completely about investment in a connection only.
Whatever you mentioned are life skills duties which both partners should have and duties should be divided evenly in order to function smoothly

[RavVid]

Missed the context badly. If I got one call or text in several months I'd answer or text back "Do I know you?"

[Asker]

That's exactly what I did

[RavVid]

Good he was asking for it.

[Effably]

Absolutely fine as long as she can separate what bare minimum really is from her expectations.

For example the bare minimum in chores is 0 to a token one done every now and then or only when its needed, e. g dishes when there is nothing clean. A healthy expectation is 50%. 50% is however not the bare minimum.

My only objection to girls with the 'bare minimum' mindset is that it usually means being ungrateful and unappreciative for an equal participation in the relationship. But if its an actual healthy standard, go for it! All good.

[DannyUk2017]

I think is fair, as both should "pull their share" or at least "50/50", if not then one needs to move on, or make changes...🤷‍♂️

[LiamSawyer]

I think she's a smart girl and should move on from a guy like that. She deserves a reasonable level of attention, loving and effort from a guy that supposedly loves her. Especially when does as beautiful and as sweet as you are Crystalline.

[Anonymous]

As long as she can separate what is actual bare minimum from what she is expecting. a lot of women who talk about bare minimum in actuality just have too high of expectations. These women never find happiness because their expectations just are not realistic. Understand I'm not criticizing here. Anyone can have any expectations they like. But if you're the cause of your own unhappiness then no expectation will EVER fix that.

[ProbablyClueless]

Depends on what is meant by a bare minimum. A lot of women use that expression to describe treatment that goes far beyond an actual bare minimum.

[Billlewis]

I applaud her for not settling for anything less than what she believes she deserves.

[exitseven]

I like it. I do not accept the bare minimum either.

[LiamJHayden]

She can do what she wants, but just understand that a lot of guys will do the bare minimum required to get what they want.

[spartan55]

Then she best be matching that effort.

[Asker]

Ask for the whole story before making assumptions

[spartan55]

What am I assuming here?

[Asker]

I don't know but before talking about matching the level of effort, you should have first asked my definition of bare minimum and effort.
Your reply makes it clear that you are more concerned about getting the return without even investing in it.

[spartan55]

I'm sorry... what? So I have to present my answer the way YOU want it? Yeah okay no. Your conclusion doesn't even make sense because nowhere did I expect any return without investment of my own. You must have pulled that from somewhere, but not from me. Please stop making shit up.

[Asker]

Look at you being all defensive

[spartan55]

Uh... no? Calling you because you mad shit up that I never said isn't defensive...🙄

[Asker]

Did i hurt you? Cuz I called you out on not actually answering the question for what is being asked? Can I get you anything? Napkin? Chocolate? Tampons?

[spartan55]

Anything else Princess Her Way?

[Asker]

Oh aren't you the sweetest

[Andres77]

Standards are important

[boggboss]

Good for her surly this should be a normal mindset

[DextroShade]

That depends on what she has to offer.

[JamesRandiDebates]

She's too demanding