Is it even worth it?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy have been talking for a bit, he has told me numerous times that he likes me. I have told him that I like him. Recently he has been laggy and a bit dry but I know he has a life and he is busy and I can’t expect so much out of one person. I asked him if he would be available to call at a certain time, he said that he is and that we can call. When that time came around he proceeds to tell me that he is hanging out with his friends and having dinner with them. I said oh okay. I assumed that after he hanged out with his friends that he would call me or text me after. I didn’t get a single text or message from him about him not being able to call. I didn’t realize this until the morning after. I cried myself to sleep feeling like he blew me off. I was left on delivered for basically 20hours with still not text or anything when I woke up. I checked snap since we snap aswell and he hasn’t snapped me back but I noticed his snap score was increasing which only made me more upset. He only then texted me/snapped me back after I deleted and unsave things from snap and when I accidentally unliked a message he sent on messages.. that’s when he finally texted me.. I feel like a fool for even waiting for him.. I feel stupid that I’m just begging for a small bit of his time..

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really blows. I've been there before where you're really into someone but they're hot and cold, leaving you on read for ages and always seeming busy. It feels shitty.

From what you're saying, this guy doesn't seem super reliable. Blowing you off like that after promising to call is messed up, and then ignoring you all night? Nah, that's not cool. You don't deserve to be anyone's second choice.

If I were you, I'd have a serious think about whether this is the kind of treatment you want to keep putting up with. Someone who's really into you will make you a priority, not leave you wondering and waiting around. You sound like a catch - don't waste your time on some dude who doesn't appreciate you!

Maybe tell him how his actions made you feel, see if he even owns up to it. But be prepared to walk away if he keeps giving you excuses. You said it yourself, you don't want to be begging for scraps of his attention. You deserve so much better than that.

Don't feel stupid - we've all been there. But now it's time to respect yourself more. If he steps up, great. But if not, drop him and move on to someone who'll treat you right. You got this!

[BasedBaeBecca]

You are not a fool and you have nothing to be ashamed of. You have feelings for him and it's not easy to let go. I understand the way you feel but he is not treating you well, and this is not your fault at all. My advice would be to move on, as hard as it is, and find someone that can give you the attention and care you deserve. You are not begging for anyone's attention, and you don't need to give him another chance. If he wanted to give you his time he would. Know your worth, and choose people that choose you back.