Is it even Love when he is ok with not seeing me everyday?

[Anonymous]

Do you agree with this statement?

My boyfriend says he values me a lot

That im better than any girl he had before

He hardly ever says he loves me

He did tell me couple of times tho, i feel like or he lies or he is not good in expressing his feelings

He doesn't want to live with me.

He talk every day

Maybe we meet at his house or mine 1 o2 times per week

If he loves me why he doesn't want to live with me or see me, touch me everyday? is it what love is about?

[Anonymous]

You’re projecting your needs on him. You’re thinking that because this is what you need he should be feeling the same. So when he doesn’t feel the same you think something is wrong w him. I’m sure both women as well as men do this to each other, sometimes I feel women do it more. But women tend to automatically think something is wrong w a man if he doesn’t think or want the same thing she does. That he doesn’t have feelings. I’ve been w my girl for 15 years, as much as I love her she does get annoying. As I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten a lot happier. She seems opposite so yes it does get irritating, so yes I could go 3-4 days w out seeing her. Doesn’t mean I don’t love her.

[BadApple69]

My girlfriend and I only see each other once a week or sometimes even once every other week because of distance and work schedules. I hate it but she seems ok with it. I think it’s because she knows it can’t be different right now. She might (like your boyfriend) be more of a realist than you and I are. Everyone is different on how they deal with relationships. Give it time. See where it goes. Good Luck!

[Asker]

Its been 2,6 years

[BadApple69]

Ok that should be enough time. I think you need to have a conversation with your boyfriend and see what he thinks about the relationship.

[Asker]

Sometimes he seems to treat me like his friend

[BadApple69]

Actually I get that from my girlfriend too. Now she is going through some things right now. She is sharing housing trying to save money to buy her own place. That has her bummed out. Maybe your boyfriend has somethings on his mind? Maybe things he isn’t sharing with you? This is why a talk is needed.

[Asker]

Cocaine

[BadApple69]

Sorry to hear that. Drugs can ruin the best relationships.

[boggboss]

I dont believe the statement is true bo sounds like the cringy shit teens write to express their inability to control the world thats separate to if your boyfriend loves u but love itself has nothing to do with wanting to be with your partner 24/7 that's called obsession that itself is not love

[Asker]

What is love

[boggboss]

I believe love is the feeling of wanting to be with someone to the degree of being happy that that is the last person u would ever be with

wanting the best for that person and accepting the good and bad of them not pretending they have no bad and are perfect but accepting that side of them and wanting to share your accomplishments and the best parts of life with them

[Luckycharms12]

Don't need to tell someone you love them your actions alone will prove it.

[Asker]

Like what?
What actions?

[Luckycharms12]

Actions you show when you love someone

[Asker]

Give me examples

[Joker_]

yeah lol