I made a lot of mistakes, how can I fix everything?

[Anonymous]

When I was 14 and 15, I flirted with older men and now some of them threaten me and I'm scared

[ChicoFromThe305]

Threatened you how, they are the weirdos flirting with a minor, they have no liable leverage over you, if anything you have some over them, mostly if you have old chats with these people for when you were 15

[Tharithi]

Lol he’s actually extremely scared because he can land in jail. So he’s tryna scare u. people flirt openly these days. U are letting him gaslight u

[CalmUntilAbused]

You do realize it's not true in some places? And even if it formally is, they would both be in trouble anyway?

[Tharithi]

@CalmUntilAbused they wouldn’t. Every place condemns the older person. The law is to protect the minor. In many places these men are stoned to death

[CalmUntilAbused]

I mean, I would expect nothing else if She reported it right then and there, and She was supposedly fine with it at that time. The Muslim countries are not #MeToo aligned (and it's one of their perks, really), so late reporting might be considered suspicious and if these people got to Her first, they could make Her into an adultress (which She unfortunately formally is, even if She had come to terms with the wrong of Her past ways, and as far as I know, there would be no Jesus Christ around to speak reason to those convinced of Her guilt).

[Tharithi]

@CalmUntilAbused Uhm no , this has happened many times in south Asian countries, the guy is usually stoned and the girl is sent for counselling. A 15 year old harmonal kid has never been held accountable. Ashick mohammed paedo

[Tharithi]

@CalmUntilAbused got to her first. U seem very Afraid. Lol. Looks like u approached many illegal teens lol

[Tharithi]

@CalmUntilAbused ashick ik it’s u. Bald small dick Muslim

[OlderAndWiser]

What is it that they are threatening?

[Asker]

He says he will tell my family, disgrace me, find me and kill me. and I'm afraid, It may be normal for Christians, but I am a Muslim and for a Muslim family, it is very disgusting for their daughter to flirt with several men and if my family finds out about this, they will never talk to me again.

[Asker]

And he is older than me and he tried to use me , I was kid, he was adult 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲

[OlderAndWiser]

In what country/culture are you living?

[Asker]

in a Muslim family and in a Muslim country

[OlderAndWiser]

I probably can't give you any advice because I am a Christian living in the US and I don't understand your culture.

[Tharithi]

Hey relax. We have all done this. And talking to people Is very normal especially in this digital era. And since u were a kid , he’s the actual phedopile , and he’s gonna be in so much more trouble. The worst that can happen to u is u getting grounded and being scolded. The worst that can happen to him is him landing in jail so calm down my child

[OlderAndWiser]

@Tharithi She is in a Muslim country, living in a Muslim family. Do you understand how all of that differes from life in the US? I don't.

[Tharithi]

🤣🤣🤣😒. He’s actually scared of going to jail. He’s tryna silence u. lol. He doesn’t understand u can tell your parents he manipulated and preyed on u , as even law would see it that way because it’s truth

[Asker]

You are right but I live in Türkiye, here how can I say, laws are nothing, he enters jail then they release him and he can kill me, this happens in turkey a lot, a lot of girls are killed by their ex🤷 that's why I am scared I don't feel safe in turkey

[Tharithi]

Lol killed? 🤣. How did u exactly meet and what happened

[Asker]

We met on the internet, honestly, we were just friends at first, then I started flirting with him, I liked him, but when I found out he had a girlfriend, I blocked him, then he threatened me.

[Tharithi]

🤣🤣🤣. Lol Internet? He’s scared as shit and is trying to find reasons to project it on u

[Asker]

You're right, I was a little too scared and manipulated😂

[Tharithi]

Seee

[ThrillSeeker01]

Everyone makes mistakes. Just stay away from them.

[Asker]

I feel very sinful and dirty and frankly I'm afraid something will happen to me.

[ThrillSeeker01]

No need to be afraid, if you're careful. And being attracted to older guys isn't exactly an uncommon fantasy. It's not like you did anything.

[Asker]

Can u text to me, followed u

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... It's not like You even knew what this was all about, I guess? It would be equally sinful for You and them, but if You could prove You had no idea what is it all about, it might be fine for You. The way I see it, it really depends on what country are we talking about. If it's one of those countries that had a serious clash with the Western way of living recently, it might be more serious. I guess what happens depends most on Your Family, though. Are they strict?

[Luckycharms12]

Everyone does stupid stuff. When we are growing up