Guys, is it normal to miss being single when you are in a long term relationship? when life gets busier do u guys miss being single?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend are now college student he is a nursing student to be specific and he is very busy he has a lot of going on, we argue and we he said he needs some space so we cool off and then after the cool off he told me he enjoys our time apart where we dont have to talk with each other time to time, he doesn't have to update anyone and enjoys his own company. he can focus on his studies better. we were trying to make changes now ny giving him space he needs with less drama in relationship and were both willing to be mature. but is it normal to miss being single? i think he misses being single. he tokd me he loves me tho and doesn't want to end us

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5 mo

he said his life is easier without me he can focus on studying and he can do everything he wants, weve been together for 4yrs and it only happens now, he is the sweetest guy ever all thsoe 4 years. i think he is just pressured by school?

[molonski2]

I think its pretty dam natural , I often feel this way , I appreciate there are many good things about NOT being single , but you constantly have to think of the other , and often that leads to regret..

So yeah - Yes for sure. Absolutely

[Asker]

does that feeling go away? if it does, how so?

[molonski2]

Go away? Hmm , lessen over time I think as you become more used to being 2 .

[Asker]

do u mean lessen time with each other orr?

[molonski2]

Maybe more used to each other , and maybe a little more personal time.

[boggboss]

It means u have fundamental issues that need to be addressed in the relationship

[Asker]

yess we dooo, we bickers on small things and had unnecessary dramas that maybe makes it hard for him to focus on study, but were changing it now were both eilling to mature, were kind of still immature and young

[boggboss]

Aslong as ubare doing that its good but him feeling that way shows the relationship is not in a good place

[Asker]

yes but if we changed our set up like no unnecessary dramas and fights, do u that feeling from him eill lessen? 😣 were both willing to work on relationship

[boggboss]

Yes it also sounds like you guys need to work on how much communication both of u need

[Asker]

thank uuu!!

[Avicenna]

It’s not unheard of since there are always trade offs.

[ThrillSeeker01]

I think if someone really likes someone else, they never regret being with them and don't miss being single.

[Staximus]

If somebody misses being single then they are in the wrong relationship

[Staximus]

The sweetest guy ever is not going to be a dick and say life is easier without you. Ditch this bum like yesterday's newspaper

[Asker]

it only happens now, he is very nice and understanding to me when he is not in college but now that he studies nursing he became very busy and he find it hard to balance... we were trying to communicate and open about our feelings more than before

[boobliker]

very much yes!