What does it mean if he doesn't last? Is he not lasting on purpose?

[Anonymous]

HELP, WOMEN AND MEN. 😔😔

I FEEL SO INSECURE LIKE HE DONT LAST ON PURPOSE 😔😔

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, don't be so hard on yourself or feel insecure! Every guy is different, and there are a lot of factors that can affect how long it takes someone to finish.

It's totally normal for guys to not last super long sometimes, especially when things are new or in the heat of the moment. Our bodies don't always do what we want them to. I doubt your guy is purposefully not lasting - that just doesn't make sense. He's probably enjoying himself in the moment just like you!

Instead of focusing so much on how long exactly, talk to him about finding other ways to be intimate and please each other. Fingers, mouths and toys can all be super fun too. Most importantly, communicate about what really feels good for both of you.

Try not to put too much pressure on yourself or him. Relax and enjoy exploring each other without worries. Over time as you get to know each other's bodies better, he'll likely last longer naturally. But every experience is what you make of it - so focus on having fun together! I'm sure he cares about your pleasure too.

[Anonymous]

He's either immature or selfish, or a combination of teh two. But you have some responsibility here. If you are not satisfied, you need to let him know what you need from him and how he can be a better lover. Despite the common myth, men don't read minds. It may seem like it should be obvious to him, but it's either not obvious, or it is and he's being selfish. The only way you can find out which is the case is by giving him the opportunity to do better by telling him what you want him to do. If he still doesn't do it, then he's being selfish.

[Asker]

He doesn’t have premature ejaculation. But it was obvious he was rushing through it. 😢
That’s the issue

[Opinion Owner]

That's your perception, not necessarilly his. Go back and reread what I wrote.

[Asker]

Thanks you’re right.
But I’m scared to scare him off or push him away. Cause it’s not fun to talk about this

[Opinion Owner]

Well I hope you are able to talk to him and work it out. You deserve it. Best of luck.

[Nikki1989]

Some men don't have the stamina or the dick control.

[The_Sexpert]

Firstly his ability to not last long is no way your fault , there's no need for you to be insecure about that
On the contrary it might be because you were too hot that he couldn't hold back

His ability to not last long would also depend on lots of other physical factors.. again none of those are a reason for you to feel insecure

However, my question would be why is he not trying to last long? Did he just finish to roll back to sleep?

[CozyCoffin]

It has nothing to do with you and it's not on purpose. Just because it was a quickie, doesn't necessarily mean it was not passionate for him or that he's not aroused by you. The more sex a guy gets, the less eager or anxious he will probably be, which also helps with having longer sessions. Find out what position he's most attracted to and avoid it. That will help him last longer, too.

[spartan55]

Where do you girls get these completely off the wall ideas in your heads? Not lasting on purpose? What would be the point of that? How would that benefit him? That's just absurd.
Good to know you are making his issue with premature ejaculation all about you. Smh... 🙄

[Asker]

You never know

[spartan55]

Never know what. I 1000% guarantee he isn't doing it on purpose.
Again, why would he do that? For what? You can't even makeup a reeason because it's so ridiculous.

[spartan55]

So if you had a sexual dysfunction of some sort would you expect your boyfriend to just ignore your problem and make it all about him? You would flip out.

[236color]

I can't speak for all guys but I don't have a lot of control to either finish earlier or last longer. Younger, less experienced guys tend to be quicker.

[laly520]

could be a medical condition

[Dongie]

He is so hot for you. 🍆

[BarryLiverstone]

How long?

[Asker]

I don’t know. Not as long as he used to 😔

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok. But did you change?

[Asker]

Change how lol no

[BarryLiverstone]

Because you feel insecure. Did something about you change or were you always insecure?

[Asker]

Always been insecure

[BarryLiverstone]

Then he hasn’t helped

[Asker]

No lol. But what’s wrong with him the

[BarryLiverstone]

A lot tbh

[Asker]

Could it be stress. He’s become a business owner this year.

[BarryLiverstone]

That may be distracting him

[BarryLiverstone]

Do you get him hard again after?