If a ghoster was liking your post at first and now doesn't like anything, are they playing mind games?

[Anonymous]

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[Summeroflove]

I don’t worry about people who ghost. They’re cowards. But it greatly depends on someone’s definition of ghosting. A conversation has to end somwhere or if someone doesn’t respond in five minutes. That’s not ghosting.



But if someone won’t talk to you. They don’t reply for days, weeks, never. They aren’t worth your time.



People sometimes just scroll and like things on social media and it means nothing. Other times someone is trying to play mind games.

[Asker]

This person in particular hasn't responded to me in months. After they left me on delivered they started liking my post. Most recently they don't like anything. The reason why I say mind games is because it has to be a reason they stopped liking. They are active on social media so something had to change.

[Summeroflove]

It makes sense. It’s very possible he is playing mind games. I have no real way of knowing. The best thing you can do is ignore him and don’t feed into his mental illness.

[Asker]

Absolutely thanks for the advice. If you don't mind me asking generally why do people do stuff like this regardless of gender?

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome. A lot of times it’s gaslighting. If they’re doing it to play mind games assuming they aren’t scrolling randomly liking stuff.

They want you to question something. Then if you reach out to them a lot of them will act like you’re paranoid or you’re weird whatever the case may be.

It’s just how narcissists act among other people with dark personality traits.

[Summeroflove]

Some people it’s hard to say why they do it. Even trolls they just enjoy messing with people. Other times they may have more nefarious purposes. It depends

[Summeroflove]

Another thing it is. Is a way to get you to think about them. They want some sort of control over you. To make you wonder why are they doing this? Does this mean anything?

I mean. Many times you can tend to pick up if he’s randomly liking posts. Or if he goes on a spree of liking stuff and stops for a while.

[Asker]

I think your last response is spot on. He tried to bait me to reach out again after liking my post. I guess since I didn't take the bait he stopped liking my post. It's a manipulation tactic. Nothing is certain but just a theory that I'm thinking about.

[Summeroflove]

I think you’re right about that Asker. He seems like a toxic person and narcissists and other dark personality type of people. Many of them feel like they have a RIGHT to control you.

This is probably very likely the case. I can’t read his mind and know his exact intentions. But he really isn’t worth it

[Summeroflove]

Yeah and I think it’s a good theory you have. It would be my guess too but since I’m not him. I don’t know for sure

But. I really think he’s wanting you to think about him. Guess what he’s doing thinking. Whatever the case may be.

My advice is just. Enjoy your life. Unless he’s doing something to you. He’s none of your business and you’re none of his business. If he wants to play mentally Ill games with people who take the bait. That’s on them

[kylee2437]

People don’t ghost people they care about - fyi

[Asker]

I get that but that wasn't the question

[kylee2437]

It sure does answer the question. What do people do when they don’t care about someone but want to benefit from them? You are almost there

[Asker]

This person doesn't benefit from me in any way.

[kylee2437]

Sure do, because you still care about whether they appear in your likes. Ego boosting

[maj1nall]

He will act according to your reaction

[Asker]

Can you explain further?