Why is my ex boyfriend making fake accounts after claiming that he is over me?

[strawberrybaby3]

If you follow me you know I have a pretty crazy ex boyfriend that unfortunately I still have to work with. We were together for a few years and broke up in August. He has a lot of borderline and narcissistic traits and lately he’s really been crossing the line.

After Christmas he was transferred to another location for half the week from now on because he really turned our workplace upside down and nobody can stand him. He was told he could not speak to me anymore either and still did it anyway. He was also still going back and forth telling me he’s over me , then that he still loves me because obviously he is not stable. My coworkers catch him staring at me all the time and for a long time too despite claiming he’s “over me”.

Anyways, I have him blocked on all social media for 3 months now but I am in charge of our work’s Instagram that he obviously follows and know I am the only one using this account. A few weeks back I noticed a weird account looking at our stories and requested to follow. They just accepted my follow today and of course I find out it’s him. I go to the followers and he is following his clients, girls he’d talk about to make me jealous (and admitted to doing that), his personal trainer , etc. it couldn’t have been MORE obvious. If he wanted this account to stay secret he wouldn’t have let me follow it. He wanted me to find out it’s him.

So my question is WHY? If he is over me why is he doing this? What is the point of these stupid fake accounts? Why won’t he just move on with his life?

[CallmeTheKnight]

My question is, why are you still having a line of communication with him? Each reply will just motivate him to stick around more than you will ever desire. I don’t know what’s going on in his head, but you gotta be mindful of the communication that should end

[strawberrybaby3]

What line of communication are you referring to? I have not said anything to him

[CallmeTheKnight]

The use on social media and you able to see what he’s doing. He’s got some way of getting to you and basically it’s bothering you to the point of uncertainty.

[strawberrybaby3]

I run our business page on Instagram and obviously he follows the page, like all of our other coworkers. We do not communicate on there or any other way because I have him blocked on all of my personal accounts. I can’t exactly block him from our work Instagram and that have him go to our boss and mention it. That’s what he’s want me to do. I posted this question to find out the thought process of why somebody would do this after months

[CallmeTheKnight]

Have you considered swapping out with someone temporarily so that way you can limit the possibility of the exposure? Im sure he’ll let up once he believes you’re no longer present because he’s just trying to lure you in with crap

[LeoTramontane]

He is not over you. He is hoping by just being around you will eventually see how great he is, how good he is for you. As long as he can be around you, he will think he has a chance. He is a stalker in the making. Only by removing yourself from his view will he ever go away. He is a lovesick pup and you are the only one for him. He may never understand why you can't feel the same for him.

[strawberrybaby3]

I don’t think so. He told me last month he does not want to be with me lol and cannot because our boss threatened to fire him. However yes he did go back and forth for a while between loving me and being over me. And he broke up with me by the way lol. He did end up regretting it and I’m sure he still does but if a man really loved a woman would he not just be upfront and be a man about it instead of playing these stupid games?

[jaskin777]

Because he is being ur stalker and... he still wants u but sounds like he is very obsessed with u so be careful

[strawberrybaby3]

If he wanted me wouldn’t he just tell me?

[butterly248]

Block and report them. Screenshot them. If he continues doing this, please go to the police. Stay safe ❤️

[slatyb]

Why is not important. Wrist are you going to do about it? Do not contact him under any circumstances unless it's through a lawyer

[strawberrybaby3]

I was just planning on not giving any reaction. I know he’d like me to contact him which I’m absolutely not going to do. I went into work today and was very friendly and cordial with him and pretended like I knew nothing. He also seemed to be a little bit more friendly with me than usual because he knows I’ve found his fake account.

[slatyb]

Oh, he's a colleague? If he's harassing you away from the office, you may wish to report it to HR.

[strawberrybaby3]

lol I literally explained the whole situation

[Finchie40]

Because he is immature and is getting off on harassing you and getting revenge on you for breaking up with him , he needs to be fired for harassment

[strawberrybaby3]

He actually broke up with me. Lol. He did regret it afterwards but we were never able to work it out. Now I don’t give me any reaction when I see him which is what I think kills him because I really loved him and unfortunately always gave a reaction to things in the past. And I’m definitely going to pretend today like I have no idea this fake account is him. What shocks me though is that he’s clearly so f’d up that he is now screwing with our business page when he’s literally been warned about bothering me again.

[strawberrybaby3]

**I don’t give him any reaction

[Finchie40]

Yea it sounds like that’s the reason , since he isn’t getting a reaction from you he is acting like a child

[strawberrybaby3]

Sorry to keep this going but why even want a reaction out of me? He’s told me he doesn’t want to be with me (he does have very intense mood swings and changes his mind constantly), but to do this and risk your job? I’m so uncomfortable I don’t even want to go to work today but I’m just gonna pretend like I have no clue that I found this even though he accepted the request yesterday hoping I’d react.

[Finchie40]

He is immature and just like you said a narcissist, people like him act like their shit don’t stink , they live their lives thinking the works revolves around them , and that they are better than everyone else , They hold grudges for a long time because they do t see any wrong in themselves , Even though he broke up with you , he is probably acting like how dare you move on from me and not come chase me back , he probably regrets breaking up with you , and now he realizes he doesn’t have a chance of getting you back , so now he is going to treat you like shit , like everything is your fault , he is a loser and trying to play a victim , when really he is the POS , if I was you I would report him for harassment and get him fired

[Finchie40]

Follow me back so we can inbox

[strawberrybaby3]

Well this is by the far the longest relationship he will probably ever have in his life. All the other girls lasted about a week and now I understand why. He got very lucky with me and I shouldn’t have stayed as long as I did. I did call my assistant manager and tell her last night and we laughed about it because everybody hates him and he’s known to do things like this. I absolutely will tell our boss if this goes any further. We all had a feeling he wasn’t just going to forget a relationship this long or just get over being transferred after everyone found him out for what he is.

[strawberrybaby3]

Followed :)

[Finchie40]

Yea it sounds like he isn’t going to have a long lasting relationship with for a very long time , until he learns how to not be immature and childish , and learns that not everything in life revolves around him , he will hopefully hit rock bottom one day and have a wake up call to change his ways

[spartan55]

Why do you care? By caring and responding you are enabling it. The WHY is irrelevant. His behavior is what matters.

[MikeTheBartender]

He does this because he's a loser. Great job breaking up before it got worse.

[strawberrybaby3]

Well we broke up months ago and he’s still doing this but claiming to have moved on even though he’s still single and looks horrible. So clearly us breaking up did not stop this behaviour

[Squatting_Slav]

Just ignore him, he really sounds like a crazy fruitloop

[strawberrybaby3]

Yeah I understand he’s crazy but why do you think he’s doing this?

[Squatting_Slav]

He's not over you and probably has zero options in the dating market

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause he's not over you he's open asf. He's playing games trying to mind fuck you cause he wants you back don't fall for it move on

[strawberrybaby3]

He’s told me countless times he doesn’t want to get back together which I agreed on. I don’t want to be with this psycho. And I’m not looking for these things either, I’m doing my job on our Instagram and he’s going out of his way to bother me knowing he cannot access me on my personal Instagram anymore. Either he’s not admitting to how he really feels because he knows he can get fired or honestly I don’t know what else it could be but it’s going too far now

[Staximus]

That's why you keep your relationships out of the workplace

[nawtee_me]

Because he wants to see if you have moved on to someone else…

[laly520]

keep blocking

[sheikalana]

He's a stalker.

[Jennz6]

Ignore him