Girls, would you want your boyfriend to share his emotions and vulnerabilities with you?

Question

I have seen content from the redpill community that says women don’t care about men’s emotions they want a man who is stoic and doesn’t show emotions ever. I don’t think this is true.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

The two women who have answered actually said “yes”, but “not really”. At least it appears they are being honest though, as it collates with my experience.
Women say they want a man to express his emotions BUT, she has to approve of everything about it. He has to express exactly the right amount; too much and he’s a crybaby, too little and he’s insensitive. He can only express emotions she approves of for specific events. Every woman has in mind the “appropriate” emotional response for a given scenario. If he expresses the wrong emotion or nothing at all, she will not approve.
Here’s the key. You MIGHT get accusations of “toxic masculinity” for being stoic, but you won’t lose your man card. You can still have relationships with women. If you DO start expressing yourself, when you do it wrongly, you lose your man card. Word will get around and no female will touch you ever again, unless you hire her. And you WILL do it wrongly. You will never be allowed to own your feelings. She owns them, and she controls them through her approval or disapproval. She WILL hold it against you when you do it wrongly too. If she doesn’t dump you immediately, it will come up in every disagreement until she does dump you.
That’s why most men choose stoicism. We’ve seen behind the curtain and know exactly what the wizard has in store for us. If you haven’t experienced the same, you’re unbelievably fortunate, and i would argue that you just haven’t experienced it YET. It is your choice to make in the end. Good luck!

Vegasrunner · Accepted Answer

Are u nuts? Never share your emotions w/ a women for 3 very important reasons

1. They'll come back and use that info against u when you guys are fighting

2. It takes you out of leadership position

3. Women lead much easier lives than men so she's not equipped to help you w/ real problems.

Think about it like this would you bring your problems to a child? That's essentially what women are.

wiltingrosepetal · Accepted Answer

No, I'd laugh in his face and play the Kesha song 'Grow a Pear' at full volume until he shut up. 🎶 Yeah I think you're hot I think you're alright but you're acting like a chick all the time 🎶

... Okay, seriously though, women want their partners to open up to them. Key word there is 'partner', as in a long and committed relationship. If you're hooking up or you just started dating, venting to her is like saying 'I love you', it's a huge step that could scare a person off. See, those redpill dicks don't have committed relationships, so they don't know how a woman who loves them responds to vulnerability. Once you've been together long enough, getting emotionally honest brings you closer. It doesn't hurt the relationship lol

Insecure2 · Accepted Answer

I would definitely want him to show his vulnerability and emotions. This actually helps to get to know the person better, know what is important to him, what makes him happy and sad, what can shake him. Being stoic is a positive trait when you have a problem which you have to cope with immediately, but in a relationship emotions help US understand each other by learning what the smallest of quircks mean. I would probably need some time to react to IT, but I would definitely appreciate my significant other sharing their inner life with me. That's precious.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yeah I like us to both be really close and be able to talk to each other about anything. But guys rarely open up to you, and because of that it is hard to ever feel that true connection, trust or depth to a relationship, when you are always guessing how they feel. To be honest liking or falling in love is usually a waste of time, since we never really know anyone.

Radiate143 · Answer

Yes, but it usually ends up working out that they hate you for some reason after and start treating you like 💩. Then you leave because they are acting all messed up. Then they come on GaG blaming women for seeing them as weak when they open up.

Anonymous · Answer

That’s what I crave in a relationship. I hate the “being stoic is manly” narrative. Yes people should be able to stay level headed and logical when needed but that doesn’t mean that they’re not allowed to have emotions and express their feelings… I fall in love with my man more each time he opens up and shows his vulnerable side. Of course I expect him to still be the voice of reason most of the time, but I don’t want him devoid of emotions. Balance is key.

Caroline91 · Answer

So important. I mean i would rather he doesn’t cry more than i do lol. But I am my man’s refuge and he should be free to express anything with me. I will listen and try my best to understand, love, comfort…have his back.

Anonymous · Answer

Men usually do not share emotions and vulnerabilities, because they have found that any vulnerabilities they share with a woman when they are in a relationship is weaponised and used against them in an argument.

Also women say the want a man who is open with their emotions, but when they encounter one the last thing they want to do is date them.

es20490446e · Answer

I don't share emotions, because that's not how I conduct my mind like.

If I feel bad about something next thing I think is how I can solve it, or if it is even in my power to solve it.

I don't go around feelings over and over.

dustybiker2 · Answer

It's a must. Nobody wants to be in a relationship with someone closed off, unless they are controlling and do not care about that person.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

I wouldn’t date or be friends with someone who doesn’t express their feelings and isn’t vulnerable

thatshydork · Answer

A relationship is about sharing life’s burdens with each other, leaning on each other. When I have a boyfriend, I want them to lean on me as much as I would lean on them.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Yes, of course. 💕 I will be there through the good times and the bad.  I get turned off when a guy acts too tough. I just cannot feel any connection with that.

Anonymous · Answer

It may or may not be true. But one thing is for certain--you aren't going to get closer to the truth by asking questions like "girls, would you want your boyfriend to share his emotions and vulnerabilities with you?" Good GOD man!

Try OBSERVING how women and men behave in the real world. What actually WORKS? What doesn't?

Anonymous · Answer

There's a lot of women lying on this poll.🤣🤣🤣

Women say they want this. They really don't. Never fall for this fellas. When she says she wants this, concoct some palatable story that satisfies what she wants. This may take some practice over time with different partners. But over enough time you'll start to get what she wants to hear. I warn you, NEVER tell her the truth! It WILL come back to bite you later.

JacobJordan · Answer

Wife response: good women absolutely do. My husband (account creator) is not a robot and to be a good woman and a good wife I consider how he feels or will feel. Something many American women seem to have lost.

Anonymous · Answer

The last time I got tears in front of a girl and told her about something deep ... I got dumped. She told me she had never seen any guy doing it nor men in her family and felt very uncomfortable. She eventually ghosted and dumped me. What I have heard from other guys, they had similar experiences before. As a guy, if you do those, there is a large possibility that you will get either dumped or she will lose feelings, and respect for you. I haven't made the rules. It's what it is.

Anonymous · Answer

sharing emotions and vulnerability sounds great on paper then they turn around and call you an incel for doing so there's no winning in this. just total ridicule either way

Amy10223 · Answer

Of course I would. It would help me to understand him more and grow closer to him.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

they always do... it's called trust in the relationship

NathanDavis · Answer

"I see... ... red pill" skip right away, stupidity

RavVid · Answer

Girls don't like it. One girl put it as "what if we both had a bad hair day"

GeminiDiamond · Answer

When guys cry I get both sad and aggressive.

the29thhuman · Answer

All women are different. Your curious mind will have to learn

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Nothing drys a vagina out faster than showing any form of vulnerability.

HappyWoman34 · Answer

Definitely

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

Yes, of course.

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