Is unfollowing him a good move?

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I unfollowed my work crush today and removed him as a follower because he left me on read since Tuesday and i am not sure if it was a good move or not. He followed me first so i don't know

JTinSC1981 · Accepted Answer

Seems like an overreaction. Life is very busy. Also, you are incredibly attractive. It's hard to see a guy saying no to you or ignoring you for any reason other than something serious.

Also, due to things like #MeToo, guys are scared to death to make a move on a girl they work with. You probably need to make the first move if you want this to happen. He is probably afraid you'll report him to human resources if he approaches you.

So, to sum up, just go ask him out in person. Be bold. He will almost certainly say yes unless he's already in a relationship.

ChicoFromThe305 · Accepted Answer

I think that having the "I don't need you in my life" mentality is important when it comes to dating, its the mentality that when things like this happen, it makes it easy to throw them away, mostly when things aren't serious yet, if it gets to the point where you eventually feel like you need them it's cause they are a good person.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Some people do this and feel at peace about it, so if it makes you feel better is what matters and no regrets since you already did it. Others do it because they feel upset and rejected. But Tbf when a guy does this to me when we barely know each other just because I haven’t respond… it feels petty, impatient, or overdoing it being on the other end.

KittyKatLady · Accepted Answer

You did absolutely the right thing! I wish I had your clarity of thought when dealing with my crushes. You shouldn't feel like you're the one investing the most in a relationship. If you do, maybe it's time to stop. I say: fuck his intentions! REPLYING TO PEOPLE is basic human decency nowadays; there's no excuse for that.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Oh My Devil! You unfollowed him because he left you on read since Tuesday.  What a fucking world we live in nowadays day. Thanks for making me laugh.

Still-alive · Answer

i probably would have given him until the weekend but yeah its seeming like this might be a soft rejection.

even if its not though i'd still try to move on. go after someone who doesn't have to think so long about wanting to be with you instead.

HawkPerception · Answer

Honestly the nature of the question is a bit immature and if you plan on having any mature relationships, open and honest communication is key. In other words, talking in person or calling them to find out where their mind is at.

But if you feel there isn't enough reciprocation, then by all means go ahead and cut communication with them.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s fine. He obviously isn’t that into you if he left you on read. But unfollowing him isn’t gonna make him any more into you.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I would at least ask why he did it before making any decision...

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It might look a little bit odd from his perspective, but I don't think it'll create any tension. It might be a good idea to do just for your own peace of mind.

Do you think unfollowing him will give you peace of mind?

Staximus · Answer

It's fine, he should have answered by now. Maybe he's afraid of getting fired or something. Don't fool around with your coworkers, they call that "shitting where you eat" over here. When a workplace romance goes South, you still have to see them.

college-student2021 · Answer

Your crush can’t make a decision, it will hurt but it’s better you move on.  If he’s like this right now imagine if you were in a relationship with him and he can’t make up his mind.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Absolutely a good move. We don't invest in people that don't invest back in us. ❤️

PessicaJeter · Answer

Have you tried following up with him to see why he hasn't responded to your message where you laid things out pretty plainly.

DishLady · Answer

Unless it's LinkedIn, I wouldn't recommend following any colleague on social media of any kind. Keep things clean and clearly delineated.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Hey, might give him the jumpstart he needs to pay attention

msc545 · Answer

This is why texting is so toxic. You have absolutely no idea what happened and you just made assumptions and acted on them without a good reason.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

It’s a great move. Now he’ll know you’re a pretty immature child who plays stupid games and will avoid you

justabuddy · Answer

If you are getting romantically involved with a coworker you need to be able to walk away at any point and still maintain your cool.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Lol why are women so childish and cannot handle rejection.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

No. That’s childish. Wait until they legit do something harmful.

Bubblegum143 · Answer

If he left you on red then ther is your answer if he wants to see or talk to you he will find a way

Smartgirl_hey · Answer

It's a self respect move

LaurenM1997 · Answer

I would ask him what he’s playing at

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Do not combine love with work. Bad idea

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes, smart move

12karen · Answer

I think it's a good move.

NathanDavis · Answer

I guess you'll find out...

lokiloko · Answer

You act like 12 year old lol.

QuietRunner · Answer

it is a very great move

MisterWack · Answer

Good move, move on.

Krauss12 · Answer

Yeah go for it. No one is entitled to a follow

DreamLife7 · Answer

I doubt he cares lol or even noticed lol

MacDaddyRico · Answer

Work crushes are a bad idea.

Pohjolan · Answer

Left you on read on what?

Kookie7 · Answer

Good move

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

immature move

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