What do I do in this situation?

[Chocolatechip95]

So, I am talking to this guy that works offshore.

Things have been going great. Then two days ago something happened at his job, and he got really mad. He was telling me about it, and I tried my best to comfort him. He said he just wanted to b**** about it, and I told him I would listen. He kept going on and on. Eventually, he decided he would drive back to his mother’s place, which is on a whole different state (7hr drive I think). He asked his manager if he could go, and while he waited for a response, I didn’t say anything. Reason being that I wanted to give his space to cool off, and I didn’t want to say anything wrong. I eventually texted him back, and explained why I stopped responding. He said it was ok, and that his boss said he could go.
He left what same night, and got home yesterday morning around 11:00 a. m. He told me he was two minutes from his mum’s place, and I texted that I am glad he got there safely.
After that, we didn’t speak the rest of the day. I accidentally texted him something I meant to send a friend, but deleted. Him and I just kind of ignored it. I mean it wasn’t a big deal. He just hasn’t texted me or said anything is the problem. He has been online on socials and his computer. But straight silence. I understand that he is visiting family, friends, and is tired from his trip. But is this normal?
I tend to overthink, but I just want to make sure that is not what I am doing, now. It spikes my anxiety.

Updates

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I just texted him and asked if he is feeling better by the way.

[_Maya_]

I wouldn't worry about a thing. I think between what happened at work and the fact that he is visiting family that is the reason for the radio silence from him. I am guessing he is doing exactly what you think which is cooling off, seeing family and talking to them about what happened. I wouldn't worry about it at all. You mention that things have been going well between the two of you. That is the important part. You listened to him vent and were there for him. By the sound of the details you did the right thing and he was appreciative for it. Now he is leaning on family and concentrating on spending time with them. I don't think his silence means he is upset with you are anything like that. Just give him some time. If he lives that far from his parents then this time is precious.

[Chocolatechip95]

Ok, that makes a lot of sense. Thank you!

[_Maya_]

You're welcome. I am sure that things will be back to normal when he goes home.

[Chocolatechip95]

Yeah, I think you are right. He just texted back and said he is feeling better. They did try to call him back into work, which I am sure stressed him out more. So, yeah, he is probably taking the time to try and cool off.

[_Maya_]

That's good he is feeling better. It is tough when you have a major issue especially at work. It takes extra time because jobs are so important and when something goes wrong you tend to worry given that is his livelyhood.

[Chocolatechip95]

Yeah, this is so true.
Thank you so much!

[_Maya_]

You are so welcome and have a nice start to the week!

[Chocolatechip95]

You too!

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, don't stress too much. Sounds like he just needed some time and space after that blow up at work. A 7hr drive is long and tiring on its own, plus visiting family duties.

Give him the benefit of the doubt for now. As long as he's not ignoring your last text asking how he's feeling, I'm sure he'll respond soon. Maybe he's been crashed out catching up on sleep too!

These offshore jobs come with lots of distance between visits, so you gotta trust each other when you're apart. Ease up on the overthinking - I know it's easier said than done. But remind yourself he's just busy settling back in right now.

Take some deep breaths, put on some feel-good music, and distract yourself til he writes back. No sense stressin solo! I'm sure everything's fine between you guys. Keep me posted what he says, 'kay? Try not to worry just yet, hon.