Girls, if you don't work does your hubby/boyfriend ask you why the house is not clean when you are home all day?

Question

Guys must think all we do is sit around all day watching soaps and eating Bon Bons. What do you tell him?

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Oh, don’t even….

I used to hold down the fort both at work and at home for the duration of my marriage. Hubby decided to quit his job “to be a writer” (🚩🚩🚩) and ended up not really doing anything bc “housework is for women” …. So one day I came home to a pile of dishes and an enormous greasy mess in a kitchen I’d just scoured thoroughly the day before. After an exhausting day at work that really just burnt my last nerve right out, so I asked for a sit down and said… if it were the 1940s and he had just come home from a long day and I was the stay-at-home person, wouldn’t he expect the house to be sparkling clean and everything set to rights? Wouldn’t I need to have dinner ready so we could enjoy a meal together and relax?

Of course his answer was yes, but he played dumb about seeing my point. I won’t describe the tantrum that followed, or my trip to the ER to tend to my massive shiner etc…. Divorce wasn’t far away after that.

Fast forward to the present day… since I’ve always had to work and earn my keep… to manage a packed household on my own and figure stuff out without a guy to spoil or support me… a guy in my life would have to be smart enough to know that cooking and cleaning aren’t one person’s job. Now the only red flags I see are on the occasional golf course. ⛳️⛳️⛳️

Sarah2007 · Accepted Answer

I live only with my mom, I spend a lot of time in my friend's house, yet I make sure both houses are clean and I also work.

I don't let my mom clean anything as I do all the work and I don't accept my friend's house to get messy even when the whole group gather there or if we swim in the swimming pool inside the house.

HighValue · Accepted Answer

If I was the sole support and came home to an unclean house and she didn't cook, I wouldn't ask why. I'd just end the relationship and she could get out of my house. I know from experience itis easy and takes MUCH less time than working a job so I wouldn't tolerate a lazy user like that.

TommyMountainFigure · Accepted Answer

Guys don't still think like that surely?
I worked hard and bought my own house before I even met my wife, so I've been responsible for all my own cleaning washing and DIY around the house. If anything I find it quite therapeutic when I'm not working!

Finchie40 · Answer

If there is no kids at home and she is just sitting around doing absolutely nothing , I would be concerned only if it was an ongoing thing. Me
Personally doesn’t mind doing chores around the house , even if I worked all day , Why I prefer a girl that works with me and not against me , I look At relationships like team work , we are partners’ not enemies , so work together , not against each other

DontAskMePeople · Answer

Haha, yep ✋ I raise my hand.. I have definitely been guilty of this in the past.

But after having to fill her shoes (while she's in hospital) you definitely realise exactly wtf she been doing all day...

Then upon her return happily go back to my job that somehow feels way less stressful for some reason (sigh of relief) 🫡

Hats off to all the Mother's out there running there lives. You gals definitely need some credit... (And a holiday) lol

Jbear27 · Answer

If you’re home all day while the man is working you should be productive in some sense and bring some value to the relationship. I had a wife that was always in social media and I’d get home from a 12 hour shift and had to pick up food on the way home not just for me but for her as well. The house wasn’t clean and it made me feel very unappreciated. We got divorced.

AviatorTom · Answer

In my first marriage, I worked while my then-wife stayed home and took care of the kids. I never once thought to ask why the house wasn't neat and spotless.

Apple1996 · Answer

He'd never ask that. I'm a stay at home mom not a stay at home maid lol

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Yeah. If that was her one job.. if you add kids in there I might not question it so much. If at all, hard to keep a house super clean with kids under a certain age. But I still expect the house to be relatively put away if that is her duty.

Twalli · Answer

If she isn't making money then she has to contribute in some other way. My parents worked out a system that is pretty good. My mom worked more than my dad and made more. Therefore he did more of the housework.

I work 40 hours a week, and my girlfriend works 12 hours a week. She does most of the cleaning since I make most of our money.

RavVid · Answer

My reply to the reply. "I do my job. How about you?" Then put n CCTV so I can watch the house work in real time.

electromagnetic · Answer

I work from home and sometimes he comes home and I haven’t done much except work. That’s just the nature of things. I can start the cooking and cleaning process after hours like everyone else.

Avicenna · Answer

The real question here is what's in it for the guy to support a woman who doesn't work at all and is home all day?

JonCobretti · Answer

Imagine being a lazy ass thinking cleaning a home is as hard as getting rich  If you are a homemaker, then take care of the home, simple

pascal_climbs · Answer

If he asks that, he has a very medieval way of thinking.

MicahRaine · Answer

Who tf asks their partner either of those questions 😂  🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Likes2drive · Answer

I would wonder that if there’s no kids to take care of if the house isn’t clean

Dongie · Answer

You're wrong on many levels. You probably had strange dick over. With that kind of attitude you can't be any good. Fuckin rich... hah.

WodensGedriht · Answer

Isn't it kinda obvious and stated in your meme? Men like caretakers an women like providers. That's why women mostly target men who are above their wage bracket.

MacDaddyRico · Answer

The answer to your question is because the tax man takes his money before he even sees his paycheck. And what do you do all day anyway?

KelsoAlexander · Answer

Who evers not working should be cleaning the house. Idgaf if your man or women get your ass up and do something. This shit is a team effort

Kelley1 · Answer

If, after I'm married, if he doesn't, he should.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'd like to eat some Bon Bons right now...

paledreams · Answer

Nicely said and done ✅👍🏻

Papabubbles · Answer

If there are no kids , wtf do you do?

Nikki1988 · Answer

We don’t?

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