Did he lose interest?

[Anonymous]

Hello so I’m fairly new to this and have a question I met a guy gaming (dorky I know) he’s 3 years older than I am runs his own construction business and is/was super sweet chairing and attentive to me. We met online I didn’t have a discord he made me one to keep in contact and to watch shows together and so on he’d write me good morning texts call me beautiful and just be so attentive and would check off all my boxes in what I was looking for in a future guy. Recently he’s been responding less and less he’s saying it’s bc he’s so busy with work that he’s having less time to respond to me when before he’d would send me pics respond every other minute and so on. Friends would say we were so compatible and wouldn’t see a reason why he just became less responsive and distant. Me being a girl with high standards let him know hey I’m not just going to be around when it’s fitting for you and going back and forth with you, I told you before you even started pressuring me I have high standards and have expectations on how men generally and usually treat me when they so called like me. He said he does like me and enjoys my company but that he’s so engulfed with work he’s having less time for anything. He’s such a sweet guy that I believe him. But I also know when men actually like a girl they go to the ends of the earth per experience and seen. So in the heat of it I said like I said before you even tried to have us in the talking stage we could just be friends and that I hope he had a good day, he said “no we can’t leave it like this” and I said you’ve been leaving me hanging for weeks on end thank you.. as of leaving the ball in his court. friends know us both say that he does seem like the guy to just be super busy with work & to just reach out to him and call him to talk this through. But I know that if a man wanted to he would and he has not. Half of me gets the hint but half of me wants closure and to know why he suddenly stopped being so perfect.

[MittParekh15]

Hi,

Well guys usually do respond to the girls they care, so if he doesn't revert by EOD or for weeks better to move on

What's the use of a guy who is busy In earning money and not look after better half

Don't lower your standards and try not speaking / texting him for a while

May be found someone as he is a business man and he might have found someone better than you, so just accept and move forward let him jump from one person to another just don't let your ethic and standards down for someone who doesn't even revert

You will find someone better than this

[Asker]

Yea exactly I think he may have found someone better as you say or someone with lower standards or so on. He may have gotten tired or may actually just be super busy with work. The possibilities and my ego and in limbo.

[MittParekh15]

Yup, don't waste your time, if ment he will come back or move onn

[Asker]

But I like him and want him. Or I just want him to be a man and say it straight faced. But also. I want to know wtf made him change his mind. He was talking about future plans. But he also says he want to retire his parents in the next couple of years. He says he was only talking to me and I fit perfectly into his schedule.

[MittParekh15]

There is a saying that all wrong men say the right things

So if he cared he would have been reverting, understanding some busy days he would not be able to revert

Seems you want him badly hence thinking too much just switch your attention to other things you like the feelings will reduce as the time passes by

There are guys who love to do time pass, plus he is planning to retire in 2 years , is he that filthy rich? As financial planning takes 15 - 20 years to reach the goals

Just my opinion, rest doing is in your hands

[morganherrel]

Um... why should he have be so perfect for you just because you're a female? What do you bring to the table? If he's telling the truth and inundated with work, then how have you helped to relieve his stress and re-energize him to be his best self? You just keep making it about you.

I feel like if you actually like him, you would want to support him through this busy period. Invest in him. Deepen your bond. And maybe eventually you BOTH will be going to the ends of the earth for each other.

[Asker]

Oh I am healing him just by being around him and being pretty I make him laugh and he feels safe enough with me to share his hobbies. there's a limit on these thing I obviously add onto his life if he was wanting a future with me. But like someone said my standards and expectations were maybe too much for his as of now. Thank you for your thought and advise.

[morganherrel]

I see!

[Nikki1989]

I wouldn't jump to conclusions without having clear communication with him.

[Asker]

Would you rather me wait for him to see if he would fight for this? Or like my guys friends say reach out to him my ego says to have him call me if he wants. But also half of me wants know what I did or if he did find someone better

[Asker]

I was decompressing with a friend and he was tired of me venting without reaching out so he did it on my behalf lol. So he said I do like her but I’m a busy man and can’t keep reaching out to her at all times. But her thinking I don’t like her is ridiculous but apparently he can’t give me what I’m asking for. So essentially. I’m moving on :P. I really don’t mind I’m just the type to talk to one person at a time so I was really liking him but oh well onto the next.

[Anonymous]

No, he hasn't lost interest in you yet, but he's about to, because of you.

[Asker]

Can you elaborate on this please

[morganherrel]

This

[spartan55]

Have you met him in person? If not, why?

[Asker]

He’s in the East cost I’m in the west

[spartan55]

Omg, why are you even bothering?

[In_Trance]

yeah

[Anonymous]

Nooe

[Asker]

I invited him to play a game 2 nights ago. He didn’t agree he played with 2 other people. He shared that account with other people tho. And didn’t message me or nothing. So I don't know if he’s really good off me by rejecting that game request or if it was on of his friends on the acct. again I want to reach out but he has made 0 effort.