Pegging, honest opinions?

[Anonymous]

The pic says it all.

This is for female opinions only please.

In your opinion if a woman pegs a man is there an inherent element of disrespect that she has towards the male, even if it's only subconscious? Can she do it without it altering how she sees him as a man, a husband, his masculinity, etc?

My wife (and Mom of two) have been discussing it (I brought it up) I want honest opinions. We're both in our mid late 40's, successful, very fit with CrossFit type bodies, attractive, go to church, and are socially conservative. We are best friends and very attracted to each other, but are feeling a little bored and are looking to spice things up. She's open to it, as am I, but I'm also concerned about it changing how she thinks of me, and/or it altering our marriage dynamic.

Can a woman peg a man and it not effect how she thinks of him in terms of his masculinity, as a husband, as a man, etc?

Insightful responses are welcome... thank you very much!

[Anonymous]

It's a safe sign she didn't shoot it down immediately. I had zero idea people did this the first time I was asked but I am guessing since she's not as young as I was then that she knows about it and had some idea how she felt about it even if it was unexpected. That's not to say it can't change though but it's not from the activity itself. It'll be more about the frequency and if it alters any other behavior-sexual or otherwise. I understand the science of nerve endings in the prostate and most men would enjoy it if they allowed it. I haven't with the two guys I've done it to noticed any behavioral differences outside of sex like the other person describes but I almost skipped doing this with a second guy because of how the first one changed all his sexual desires. It became all about the strapon. It was all he wanted all the time. I practically had to beg him to do anything to me eventually. He became far too submissive and it turned into crossdressing and he became too feminine and then I felt all the things you describe. I put up with it for a while but it became too much. It definitely is capable of getting out of hand. So, the second time around I kept in mind some limits to the frequency and making sure I'm still getting the same amount of traditional sex during the week and the strapon is limited to weekends only, usually just one night and making sure the submissive behavior is limited to this one activity. He's got some phases where he wants it a little more and some phases where he doesn't care about it for months. But more importantly, the submission doesn't consume him in any other way and I haven't had any of the old problems.

[Asker]

Thank you for the thoughtful response! Your experiences are very helpful.

[Anonymous]

I would say it depends on person's mentality.

I've never changed view on someone just because I pegged though.

But I've had cases when man started disrespecting me in real life just cos we had slut-master role-play and it changed their view on me.

SO it depends.

If you have that perfect genuine friendly etc relationship, it shouldn't change anything

[Asker]

Do you think it could change your opinion if you'd been married for close to 20 years before you started doing it?

[Opinion Owner]

No, not really

[Btc95008]

There’s much more to this subject, I as a male, am willingly surrendering my one of the most intimate parts of my body, displaying trust and empowerment to my partner, but thats only one part of it, there is the pleasure of prostate massage the occurs during the act. It is purely selfish in some respects. On the other hand, my partner also gets to hold the reigns of power during the exchange, she may truly understand what it means to penetrate her lover, an experience that is also empowering, and she will get to witness with her own eyes the joy being delivered to the act of my surrender, many women state that is what the enjoy the most in the act. I’m bi and understand how good it feels to engage in anal sex, it’s wonderful to be the bottom. What is missing in the bi experience for me is the love and joy to be foiund when my lover is a woman, it’s more about sexual satisfaction alone with a man. I am open to the bringing the act of pegging into the relationship with a female partner, as it is a deeply intimate and shared experiences that brings much more than sexual pleasure to the table. There’s trust, communication, openness and giving and receiving and much more. I’m a fan, but still a virgin to the pegging lifestyle. As old as i am i fear i may have lost the opportunity to fulfill this particular fantasy, but I can dream of those orgasms and pray.