Is it bad that I’m only interested in older men, 25-45?

[Anonymous]

I know it can be dangerous.. but I can’t seem to get rid of my liking towards men so much older than me

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It's not bad, but you need to be very careful with those men if you want to date them. Some of those older men might take advantage of you because they know you're young and don't have much experience as an adult yet. It wouldn't hurt to have your parents meet them first before you go on a date with them if you want to be a bit on the safer side of things. But I think if a man around that age treats you well and still allows you to have your own personal development, then I think they might be fine. For me an older man has always just been someone that's a few years older than me. Not like 40+ yr. olds which is what most people mean by older men the majority of the time.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

There is a difference between being interested in and actually forming relationships with older guys. A big one.

Also 25-45 is everything and nothing, when you're 18 with 25, you both would still have similarities in life experience. But 18 vs 45, you will be meeting with another galaxy, actually the galaxy of your father somewhat. Your father has most certainly a very different point of view about life than you. So the incompatibility is likely to skyrocket because he will live in a world you cannot comprehend yet. And, more than that, such a man could in the end hate you, or the relation he has with you, because he will miss common grounds he will never get.

[BTigers96]

Bad? No. Just be careful. Lots of "older men" will be interested in you as well, but be aware that to some of them you're probably a bit of a novelty. You're young and pretty. Not all, but some will see you as a bit of a sex-toy. Being sexually attracted to someone and being in a long-term relationship are often different things. It may be that you're attracted to older men, but a conventional relationship with someone closer to your own age might easier if/when you settle down.

[petitedollbabee]

No, Im the same way. I will say however, be very careful. Most of the time there’s a very good reason as to why those older men are single and not able to date women their own age.. they can put on a nice front for you but you eventually see their true colours. I’ve learnt this myself from the age of 18. Im lucky in that I’ve found an older partner who is perfect for me, but it didn’t come easy.

[Ariesman81]

Yeah... because we're not typically attracted to women our own age

[petitedollbabee]

@Ariesman81 Choosing not to date women your own age vs not being able to date women your own age are two very different things.

[Ariesman81]

And yet here you are... giving attention to someone other than your partner. I can smell the shame on you!

[petitedollbabee]

What 😂

[slatyb]

No, but if you are going to date older men, make sure they are mature for their age. To you, any 30-year-old man is going to appear more mature than men close to your age. The key question is "Is he mature for a 30-year-old? Does he have a career? Does he maintain his home? How is he managing his money and his life?

Also older men who hit on teen-age women are almost always bad news. If you want a relationship with a man older than about 25, you should be the one asking.

[slatyb]

Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Do they have a good relationship? In my limited experience, the young women who get involved with immature older men were neglected by their parents, or worse. If you have a good relationship with your parents, and you meet someone they don't like, at least listen carefully to their reasons.

[Likes2drive]

It’s not bad but you won’t have a real relationship because with a large age gap you’re on a different level than them it’s usually about sex for them and nothing else because of that so that’s the only thing you would need to be careful about unless you go in knowing that it’s only going to be about sex for them because you really can’t go anywhere being under 21 there’s not a lot of stuff you can do with them at your age, only in rare cases it works out but if you go out with a guy in his younger 20s it’s fine

[Apple1996]

The problem is not so much liking older men. The problem is being with those older men. You have to realize they are that old and single for a reason. No other women wanted them and they aren't relationship material.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Liking older men is not dangerous, unless you are not in the right age and he is not good for you. Just remember to pick wisely, no matter the age.

[MasterKS]

@SeriouslyNotSerious logical!

[Franka9]

No, some women just stand out there.

A 27 year old female acquaintance of mine once said, I don't want 26 year old boys.

I also regularly notice that younger women are interested in me.

What do you like about older men?

[Asker]

They make me feel secure and comforted. And some are more mature. I’ve talked to a few guys my age and they were extremely immature

[Avicenna]

It’s always hilarious to see the usual suspects claiming an older guy can’t get a woman his own age if he wants to date a young woman.

You’re an adult now- date whomever you want. But always choose wisely, regardless of his age.

[mandyfire98]

I've always been interested in older men. Still am.

[Ironco]

Good to know.. lol

[Llilii]

Lol good good

[Anonymous]

Yes. Is suggests you either were molested by your father or male role model in your formative years. Or at least never received and support or attention.

So this is your way of compensating.

[Anonymous]

don't fall for the gaslighting

you'll notice some users won't keep that same energy for single women

[Staximus]

In a few years it won't matter and you can be with whoever you want and not get funny looks and a raft of shit from friends and family

[Staximus]

Just make sure the guys aren't manipulative shady bastards

[DrPepper12]

Safe
Consensual
Legal

Those are the only considerations. Other than that have fun, l!!!

[genericname85]

"dangerous"? how so? what danger would you have with a 25-45 year old that you do not have with an under 25 year old?

[Asker]

Old men tend to go after younger women for one reason

[genericname85]

and what is that reason?

[Asker]

18 is the youngest legal age they can get to

[genericname85]

i don't get it. you think younger men don't wanna get to these girls?

[AustColombiangirl]

no not at all. I love older men especially for sex

[WhitneySnow]

Be careful. A lot of those guys just want sex.

[Ariesman81]

We want whatever you're capable of giving us. Time, attention, care, understanding, submission and thought provoking conversation come to mind. Are you capable of those things?

[Finchie40]

Not at all , most younger girls’ like older guy’ and vice versa.

[nevooo]

Yeah there's nothing weird about a literal 18 year old child being with a 45 year old.

[Finchie40]

There isn’t , we can’t determine someone else’s relationships , if they are both happy with each other , that’s all that matters. I have dated younger girls’ before , her age didn’t bother me me at all because she treated me with kindness and respect and she was mature for her age , so age means shit my friend. The chemistry and connection is what matters , Fuck what other people think or say about it , it’s not their relationship period

[nevooo]

yeah there is, it’s fucking weird. 18 may be an “adult” but they’re fucking children in the head. They have no business with a 45 year old grown ass adult male. 25 is pushing it. You creeps think “oh she’s legal it’s cool” so fucking disgusting and wrong

[nevooo]

They’re not even responsible enough to legally be able to rent cars but can make the decision go date someone more than 2x their age? They just got out of high school, where their parents were most likely on them for their grades what they wear who they talk to, but no it’s perfectly normal to go from that, immediately to a damn 45 year old man? Like what?

[nevooo]

Good luck going on dinner dates with them, better order them a god damn Diet Coke, cause the damn 45 year olds love interest isn't even legally allowed to consume alcohol lmfao.

[nevooo]

None of these things make it weird though, because all that matters is an old ass man, is clapping a child’s cheeks, so he’s happy

[Finchie40]

All I am saying, it’s only weird to certain people but not weird for everyone. What someone else chooses to do is on them , all that matters is they are happy , we can’t stop someone for liking someone , we can talk all the shit we want to but it isn’t going to change anything , look at all these famous older celebrities that are banging girls’ that are 14 and 15 , that are paying the parents ‘ money so they can date their daughter , so it just goes to show this is how people are in this world.

[nevooo]

No, I firmly believe 18 year olds should not legally be allowed to make these choices. And it’s fucked up that they’re allowed to. 21 should be the age of consent MINIMUM. I’m not the kind of parent to control my children but there is no way ABSOLUTELY no way my 18 year old daughter is seeing anyone 45 years old. 25 I wouldn’t love but I could understand but 45? No never not happening. Dont care.

[Finchie40]

I agree 18 is still young but sadly that’s how this world is today , as a parent we can try to stop it from happening but legally we can’t unless you want to go to jail over it. Thankfully my daughters’ are dating boys’ their age so I don’t have that problem but some of their girlfriends’ are dating older guys’ so again it’s their life not mine ,

[Lolita_]

Bad. Because middle-aged men don't fall in love with young girls.

[EnjoytheDay777]

I totally understand. A lot of people are attracted to those with an age difference. It's not bad as long as you play it safe and get to know a person first.

[firenine909]

I don’t think it’s bad. You’re such a cute girl and appreciate having a more mature man in your life

[bowenw]

Everyone is different. You can't control what you like.

[ItsaMeMaik]

No, thats not a bad thing in General. Everyone has their preferences, and you can't and shouldn't suppress them (in most cases).

[Awantika03]

Keeping interest in older men not bad, it better than young

[LiamJHayden]

No. Different people have different preferences. I have always preferred older women.

[dudegreat91]

No most girls your age have same thought. So nothing unusual. Some would not admit it, but it is a fact

[Cheerfull009]

This is good , not dangerous, old people are experienced and they are financially stable, they can give you better attention than young people , only follow , fuck and dump

[ehatsham_hussain]

I never got ,, why do young girls like older men...

[Tstrbrainer]

That's still young lol.

Old is minimum 55 plus

[Anonymous]

45 hella weird. I’d say 25 is on the cusp of being weird.

[Nikki1989]

No, I was always the same way.

[Anonymous]

yes it is dangerous! 25 is way too young! you should start a lot older.

[Anonymous]

You probably are subconsciously attracted to your father. That’s a good thing he’s probably a G.

[Benedict234]

I totally get it, I like older women

[Ariesman81]

Would advise not catching feelings for older women... it's not a relationship dynamic that plays out well

[Logan2000]

it's not normal

[In_Trance]

whatever works for you

[vj0090]

Go on.. its fun.. letc connect haha

[DerekC321]

How well do you know them?

[DexWest]

My husband is twice my age

[shortster]

You are an adult; so do what you like.

[NYlatefun]

Not at all…but I’m biased 😂

[polodude2013]

Nothing wrong with it at all

[Hotboy_booblover]

U must be looking for sugar daddy

[Asker]

Not at all. I don’t care much for the money

[Hotboy_booblover]

U r generous

[Rockey_the_bicker]

Great... you need experienced buddy lol

[Slim57]

As long as you're both adults who cares

[eagle1951]

you like what you like

[monkeymanoohaah]

No it's cool

[CVNT5]

no. not really

[JoeRob67]

Not at all

[zombiewoof]

Cool

[zombiewoof]

We like what we like

[MasterKS]

Its very normal!