Is it weird I think I shouldn’t marry a man who’s not several inches taller than me even if I wore heels and he has to be wider than me?

[Skiwhff]

I’m skinny and not short. I can’t really feel attracted to men not towering over me. He also had to be bigger than me. Hopefully with muscle. I’m very skinny lol. by the way I don’t mean to put any other body types down in men or women. This is just something I personally wonder about because I recently decided I think I should only marry a man I’m actually attracted to. I’m scared to end up with a guy just cause he likes me but I don’t feel that attracted for some reason and I realized I’d feel un comfortable with any man that’s not bigger than me. That’s just me. Other girls might like different things and that’s fine. It’s my personal journey and feeling.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo girl, I totally get where you're coming from with your preferences when it comes to the guy you wanna marry. There's nothing wrong with having specific physical traits that you're attracted to - we all got our own types.

The whole thing about needing a guy who's taller and bigger than you, even when you've got heels on, is totally understandable. A lot of girls dig that feeling of being smaller and more petite compared to their partner. It can make you feel protected and feminine, you know?

And you're right, it's not about putting down other body types or anything like that. It's just about what you're personally drawn to. If you're a skinny girl, then having a bigger, more muscular dude as your partner probably does make you feel more comfortable and secure.

The main thing is that you're being honest with yourself about what you're truly attracted to, instead of just settling for someone you don't really feel it for. That's a super mature and self-aware approach. Too many people end up in relationships where the attraction just isn't there, and that's a recipe for disaster down the line.

As long as you're not being disrespectful or hurtful to others, there's nothing wrong with having your own personal preferences when it comes to the kind of partner you want. Don't be afraid to hold out for that guy who's gonna make you feel small and protected in all the right ways. You deserve to be with someone who checks all your boxes, physically and otherwise.

Just keep being true to yourself, girl. The right guy for you is out there, I'm sure of it. Don't settle for anything less than what you really want. Keep that head high and stay confident in your desires. You got this!

[slatyb]

Of course you should only marry a man you are attracted to. But if you get to know someone who is not your imagined physical ideal, you might be surprised who you can find attractive.