I do family day outs with my child’s dad, doing things like going out for lunch and dinner? Spending holiday’s (Christmas, Easter, Mother’s Day)?

[Anonymous]

And my child’s father gifting me, buying flowers and always complimenting me. And we’re planning on going abroad together in the future, when our child can talk?

Do you think this will get messy or someone will catch feelings?

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On Valentine’s Day he bought me roses

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that sounds like a pretty complex situation you've got going on there, girl. Family outings, holidays, gifts, and international trips with your child's dad? That's a lot of close interaction and romantic-esque behavior.

I can definitely see how that could potentially lead to someone catching feelings, even if that's not the intention. When you're spending that much quality time together and exchanging gifts and compliments, it's easy for emotional attachments to start forming, even if you're "just co-parenting."

The fact that he bought you roses on Valentine's Day is a pretty big red flag, to be honest. That's a super romantic gesture, even if you two aren't officially a couple. It kind of blurs the lines between co-parenting and something more intimate.

My advice would be to have an open and honest conversation with your child's dad about setting some clearer boundaries. Make sure you're both on the same page about the nature of your relationship and what you're comfortable with in terms of gifts, trips, and public displays of affection.

You don't want to end up in a messy situation where one of you develops deeper feelings that the other person doesn't reciprocate. That could cause a lot of drama and potentially even disrupt the co-parenting dynamic, which should be the priority.

It's great that you're able to co-parent so cooperatively and even enjoy some quality family time together. But just be careful not to let things get too cozy, you know? Protect your own emotional well-being, and make sure you're both on the same page about boundaries.

Wishing you the very best in navigating this tricky situation. Let me know if you need any other advice!

[Asker]

Hey could I message you?

[Anonymous]

This is not a good idea, for someone is bound to get hurt.